It is best not to borrow money between relatives. My view of this sentence is to divide the situation. I met an honest relative, and I can lend him money when I have plenty of money. Of course, you'd better be careful when you meet relatives who can't repay you. After all, your money is not blown by the wind.
Personal opinion: people who borrow money are all the same. Mainly grasp two points, one is repayment ability, and the other is credit. The repayment ability directly determines the amount of loans. Credit directly determines whether to borrow or not. [shy] [shy] [shy]
I will never agree with this sentence. You know, it's perfectly normal for a person to borrow some money from others to solve an urgent need, and it's best to talk to a close relative. If relatives and friends can't help, who else can you talk to? Moreover, it is normal for relatives to borrow money from each other for emergencies. This is the normal situation of "wide in and tight out".
I have encountered practical difficulties myself. Although I need other people's help, the first thing I do is to ask my closest relatives for help, but they never refuse me, and sometimes they ask me what I need their help. Borrowing money is not a matter of time and again.
My wife has been ill for 15 years, and it's worth dying. During this period, I borrowed a lot of money from several close relatives, and it became normal for me to borrow money. They are also willing to help me, and even offered to help me in many cases. I am still very grateful to them. In my opinion, in this case, I really don't know who I can trust if my next of kin can't help.
Of course, relatives can also be divided into relatives and friends. Whether relatives can help depends on their family situation and whether they are really in urgent need. If it is really a life-saving emergency, since it is a close relative, you should not refuse.
Of course, if there is a lack of communication between relatives at ordinary times, if the relationship persists and there are practical problems, it is normal for others not to help you, because being a person should never be "not burning incense at ordinary times and cramming for the Buddha's feet temporarily." The relationship and trust between relatives often come from daily communication and the maintenance of relatives' friendship. If you really talk to your relatives, you will be rejected. I think you should seriously examine how you treat others well. You know, there is no "love for no reason, no hate for no reason" in the world!
I don't think so. First, relatives don't help the country in the face of great disasters, but don't just talk about credibility without returning. Second, if there is no credibility, no matter how close you are, no matter how good your friends are.
"Relatives don't move money, and they don't move money themselves." This is a childhood sentence. In the past, people had to pay interest when borrowing money from relatives, which is similar to the current bank loan! And if someone lends it to you, it means he respects you.
More often, you can't borrow money. Paying debts is a matter of course! I'm not interested yet. On the contrary, I think you have money. Why don't you lend it to me? Those who borrowed money are cautious when asking for money. Because the other party may be unhappy and will be in arrears for a while?
Money, once it determines the feeling of affection, changes the trust between people. What feelings are you talking about? It's more about interests.
This is not absolute,
Between friends and relatives,
If you are in trouble, you can borrow money.
But it must be credible,
Borrow and return.
To win the trust of others, it is still possible to borrow money.
The scary thing is, I think it's a relative,
If you borrow it and don't pay it back, that's the most terrible thing.
Borrowing this money, there will be no second time, and there will be no second time.
Remember this,
Trust comes first,
It's best not to talk to relatives when you are in trouble. This is also the opposite.
This sentence is right or wrong. Why?
Borrowing money now is very troublesome and often happens. When you take out the money, you are an uncle, but when you want it back, you become a nuisance.
Therefore, whether it is our own or an outsider, trying to lend less money to others is also saving ourselves some strength and trouble.
But then again, who doesn't have a difficulty? Meet familiar people, relatives, colleagues, classmates, people with past relationships, and ask you for money when you are in trouble. In any case, this is also a difficult thing. If you refuse to do so, you will always be in a dilemma.
It should still depend on the situation, the personality of the other party, the familiarity of the other party, and your own economic ability. In short, we should do what we can.
I think there is some truth in the sentence "It is best not to borrow money between relatives". Because once money is touched between relatives, even the best relatives may turn against each other. At least my cousin does. He met me now and didn't even say hello, let alone pay back the money.
My cousin was recruited to Shanghai after graduation. According to my mother, someone else's company went directly to their school to recruit. It seems that he is still a foreign company. Even relatives at home said that my cousin had a bright future and found a good job after graduation.
My wife and I were still working in Suzhou. Since everyone is not far away, every once in a while, my cousin will come to our place to play, and I am also a good waiter.
When I first borrowed money, my wife also said that "it is best not to borrow money between relatives", but I think, after all, we are all relatives. If we borrow money, can we not pay it back? The result surprised me, because until now, there are still 5000 yuan left.
0 1, since my cousin went to Shanghai to work, back and forth, Yi * * * lent me more than 20 thousand.
I remember once, my cousin came to my house to play and told me that he would go to other places to attend the company's training next month, and the money was not enough. He wanted to borrow 5000 yuan from me and said he would pay me back when he came back from training.
I thought you were getting a promotion. Brother should support him. So, I was very frank and took him 5000 yuan. Because they are all relatives, when borrowing money, they just say it orally, without thinking, and make an iou or something.
After lunch, my cousin went back with the money. After coming home at night, my wife heard that my cousin borrowed 5000 yuan from me. She said with a laugh, "So you didn't ask your cousin to give you an iou?"
I smiled and said, "They are all relatives. Why do you owe me money? " After that, I deliberately joked that if he didn't pay me back, I would go to my aunt and ask her to pay him back. It was also my cousin who borrowed money from me for the first time.
Later, because I was busy, I never thought about asking my cousin to pay back the money. It was not until my cousin borrowed money from me later that I remembered that the 5000 yuan he borrowed from me last time had not been returned. So, I said to him, "Didn't you say you would return it to me when you came back from the last training?"
Hearing this, my cousin had the cheek to say with a smile, "Just right. You can lend me 10000 yuan again. I don't want to live in the company dormitory. I want to rent a house and move out. I will pay you back together then. "
I thought about it and said, "Ten thousand dollars is a bit much. When my wife gets off work. I'll ask her to get more and give you 10 thousand yuan. " After dinner that night, I took some money from my wife and gave it to my cousin, and he went back.
Later, my cousin borrowed money from me several times, all of which were 1200 yuan. I thought at that time, anyway, I have lent you more than 10 thousand, and I don't care about this 12 thousand In this way, back and forth, I lent him almost more than 20 thousand.
02, every time I ask him to pay back the money, my cousin can always find various excuses.
Later, because I wanted to buy a car, I asked my cousin to pay back more than 20 thousand yuan I borrowed before. To tell the truth, after all, they are all their own relatives. It's really awkward to ask people to pay back the money now.
So, I told him once when we just looked at the car and chose the car. He said very readily at that time: "I will pay you back 10 thousand immediately after I get paid next month, and I will pay you back the remaining 10 thousand after I get paid next month."
I kindly asked, "Do you still have money to eat if you pay us back 10 thousand?"
My cousin smiled and said, "I just paid the rent for half a year. After paying you 10 thousand, the rest of my salary is enough to eat."
I was quite embarrassed at that time. I asked my cousin to pay back 10 thousand at once, which made him not well off. I thought, after buying a car, I still have some spare money in my hand, so I'll buy him some more. Therefore, there is nothing shameful about robbing.
Later, our cars were all chosen and we were going to buy them, but we didn't see my cousin pay me back. My wife said, "Call him and tell him directly that we are waiting to pay for the car."
In fact, I was a little angry at that time, because my cousin clearly said that he would pay me back when I got paid. As a result, I didn't pay back my salary for two or three months, and I didn't realize it at all.
So I took out my cell phone and called him directly. As a result, he told me that he had lent money to his colleagues and had no money to pay us back for the time being. I was a little angry and said, "So you mean your colleague is closer to you than we are?"
My cousin said with a cheeky smile, "Brother, I really wanted to pay you back, but my colleague just borrowed money from me. Do you think I'm embarrassed not to borrow it? "
I said, "Your colleague asked you for money. You are too embarrassed to lend it to her. How dare you not pay me back?"
My cousin got angry when I said this, and directly replied, "I'm a little busy here." I'll call you when I have time. " Then he hung up.
My wife looked at me and said, "Look, I told you not to lend him money. You said you were related. When do you think he can pay you back? I guess you can't get it back. " To tell the truth, although my wife said so at that time, we were really convinced.
03, in a fit of pique, I found menstruation, and my relatives turned against each other completely.
Water under the bridge. I don't care about face. I brought my mobile phone directly and called my aunt. Then I told my aunt that my cousin borrowed money from me and now we are going to buy a car.
As a result, just after lunch, my uncle transferred 20 thousand yuan to me. He also called me back and told me jokingly that my cousin had done something wrong and told me not to be angry. To tell you the truth, I was embarrassed.
When preparing dinner, my cousin called me. As soon as the phone was connected, my cousin shouted at me, "Why are you so careless?" I just lent you 20 thousand yuan. Why do you ask my parents for money? "
I said, "I asked you to pay back the money. I gave it to you for several months, but you still haven't paid it back." Besides, I just told my aunt about it and didn't ask her to pay back the money you borrowed. It was my uncle who thought what you did was not authentic, so he returned the money for you. How dare you shout? "
Hearing this, my cousin even said, "It's only 20,000 yuan. Are you so stingy? " What's the hurry? "
I smiled and said, "If you owe money, don't you just tell me 20 thousand dollars?" ? Then why don't you return it? You borrowed 5000 yuan to go out for training and said you would pay it back when you got paid. Why not? Besides, my uncle only paid you 20,000 yuan. When do you owe me 5,000 yuan? "Hearing this, the cousin directly hung up the phone.
Since then, my cousin and I have never met again. Even now, on holidays, we don't say hello when we meet at home. Not to mention the unpaid 5000 yuan. From then on, between our relatives, my cousin and I, that is, completely turned against each other!
Later, at dinner, my father said to me: it is right for you to ask your cousin to pay back the money. But you shouldn't call your aunt. It's a bit like asking your aunt to pay back the money for your cousin on purpose.
I smiled at that time and said, "I earned it hard, too." What am I embarrassed about? "
Therefore, through the fact that my cousin borrowed money from me, I think the sentence "it is best not to borrow money between relatives" is reasonable, because:
1, some relatives, you lent him money readily, but when you asked him to pay it back, he had 10 thousand reasons not to pay it back. As the saying goes, it is the uncle who owes money and the grandson who wants money!
2, after all, there is this blood relationship here, so even if you know that he is deliberately making excuses not to pay you back. You are ashamed to turn your back on him and ask him for money. Not to mention asking him to write an IOU when I borrow money.
3. Some relatives always think that we are relatives, so it is natural to borrow money from you. Once you don't lend it to him, he will make mistakes immediately, on the other hand, you are not.
Besides, whether you want to lend money to your relatives or borrow money from them, you'd better keep your mouth shut. Because when it comes to money, it is very easy for relatives to turn against each other.
Of course, if the money is really useful or her relatives are really honest, she can still borrow it. After all, they are all relatives, and it is understandable to help each other!
Thank you.
Between relatives, there is neither money that can never be borrowed nor money that can be absolutely borrowed! Only people with credibility and responsibility can save the emergency! The rescuer should be regarded as a limited one-time donation.