But we parents, it seems, deprive them of the chance to do so over and over again
And end up raising a headache-inducing, unassertive, undecisive child
Last night I took my son to play in the park, where I was doing a square dance and he was entertaining himself.
Then I noticed him sprinting and climbing toward the platform that was up to his chest height.
The first time did not go up at all;
Then he ran a little farther, and once again, he ran to climb up, and almost went up, and his legs did not know how to use the force, and fell down;
Then he still ran, and adjusted his posture, and this time, he climbed up, and felt that his face was almost stuck to the ground, and he was very happy, and he jumped and jumped down;
And again the same movement, this time, obviously much smoother and easier.
I was a scared old mother watching from the sidelines, afraid that he would get hurt. But as he climbed up more and more, I realized that his movements were getting smoother and easier, and then he began to challenge himself to climb higher up the platform.
Sweaty and happy, having fun all by himself.
I want to show you through this example that if you are involved, limiting, or hindering, you will not get this far and he will not be so happy.
If you had helped him up there, he might have tried to ask his mom for help in the future when he was in trouble;
If you had told him that he got his clothes all dirty doing that, he might not have done anything challenging in the future;
If you had hindered him, he might have completed the unfinished behavior in order to satisfy his own curiosity the next time you didn't pay attention to watching him, resulting in injury or destruction. behavior, resulting in injury or destruction.
Look at it this way, it's so simple to just let him make his own decisions, it's the best of both worlds, but many of us parents will always do it in a way that leads to a lot of troublesome consequences.
Parents always feel that the child is still small and make their own decisions. , such as adding or subtracting clothes to the child, such as feeding the child.
Always take the child is still small as an excuse to deprive the child of the right to make their own decisions, so that, not negative in the unknowingly stifle the child's ability to think independently to solve the problem, resulting in the child only know to listen to their parents, the loss of the ability to independently make decisions.
Only those children who have independent thinking can have stronger subjective initiative and not follow the crowd; only those children who have their own thinking can have more original and novel thinking and insights, and thus do a good job in everything.
Every child is full of curiosity about the world and has an intuitive desire to learn about the world around them.
Parents don't need to give their children a lot of jargon, they just need to study and explore with them when they have questions.
Parents should never underestimate their children's ability to think, as they often have a lot of questions that pop into their little heads.
So if you want your child to develop the ability to think independently, give them some opportunities to do so.
Some children always like to ask their parents questions, the child's curiosity is shown here, but some parents will show impatience with these questions, did not take the child's questions seriously, and those wise parents will take advantage of the child's desire to know and curiosity, to tap the child's potential for independent thinking.
In the current home education, a child's curiosity can be easily and unintentionally stifled by the parents, and the formation of the child's creative thinking can be directly affected.
So, when the child puts forward a variety of questions, on the basis of the child's independent thinking, the parents should be sure of the child's behavior, and the child's thinking to guide.
By doing so, you can satisfy your child's desire for knowledge on the one hand, and stimulate it on the other.
Join the child really asked a very difficult question, there are some we do not have the answer to the question, we have to answer truthfully, admit that we do not know, you can say to the child this way:
"You're asking a very good question, but I'm not very clear, after I check the information to know the answer to tell you again! ". The child will understand and has nothing to lose.
This also plays a good role in leading and modeling.