"Ah? You are so small can eat spicy?" The boss teased her.
"I'm not small, I'm already a big kid, look at me, I'm so big, I still have a bag, I still have a beautiful hat, auntie, look at how beautiful this hat is..." The little girl gabbled and continued to talk with her hands.
The customers in the store were amused by the little girl, and her mother was busy interrupting her, "Oops, enough is enough, you this guy", she was embarrassed to order the meal, while pulling the little girl to sit on the center table, they discussed the little girl's doggy bag, and chatted about what they had just seen and heard in the park. going to find the caterpillar later.
I couldn't help but look the little girl up and down, confident, brave, loving, gentle, cute, as if she had a glow about her.
Gorky once said, "To love children alone is something that old hens do, and to teach them well is a greater public **** business."
It always seems that there are state laws, family rules, and industry certificates, but there is no threshold for being a parent is too hasty a thing. Maybe a lot of parents all their lives do not know what your children really need, may be a lot of parents will be the heart of the child but do not know what you think is just what you think, think of that sentence, lucky people, life is healed by childhood; unfortunate people, life is healing childhood.
Parents, please do at least two points:
1. Do not use percussive language, teenagers say that a girl said to her mother, why mom never see their own efforts and merits, never know to praise themselves? Her mom said in all seriousness that that was the right thing for her to do, and that praise would make her daughter float. The girl said with tears in her eyes that her character wasn't suited to agitation, and that she needed to be assertive, and her mom didn't think so, and said that agitation was suitable for everyone. Honestly, it was especially heartbreaking for the girl. You probably feel the same way, because we ourselves may be playing the role of such a mom or have been such a child. In "Human Weakness", it is stated that researchers have conducted numerous long-term experiments, and children who grow up with praise are confident, optimistic and more likely to succeed. To two piles of almost similar stones, to one pile of daily cursing and criticism, to the other pile of daily praise them, praise them good-looking, and guess what, after two years, the pile of cursed stones feel poor, the shape of the increasingly ugly, and the pile of praised stones become smooth and beautiful, a big shine. More than criticism, the power of right praise is far beyond your imagination.
2. Have more patience with your children, don't scold them
You probably forgot how you were when you were a child, when your curiosity was bursting, and you chased after adults every day to ask questions, and you probably don't remember how you felt when you were a child, when you were nervous and anxious after you accidentally made a mistake, and when you were afraid of being scolded by adults, right? Children are growing up, are building their outlook on life and the world, they are using their cognition to judge right and wrong, so more patience, more listening, more guidance, to help them build their cognitive pagoda, so that they learn to judge really right and wrong, responsible for themselves and others.
Children are born a blank sheet of paper, there is no child who can't learn, only the teacher who can't teach. Parents are the first teachers of children, and they should be the best teachers, so please make an effort for yourself, make an effort for your children, and learn, read, and grow more.
I grew up as an introvert with low self-esteem, and have always envied and longed for the kind of child who is generous and full of confidence, and that should be the child who is watered with companionship and love, and who should be the one who collects thousands of favorites in one. The child is an angel, is the most precious gift from heaven to every parent, please have the ability to love under the premise of having a baby, including the economy, energy and a lot of, please take care of with love to accompany her, may all the angels can be confident sunshine!