2. A well-intentioned lie is also a lie, investigating the operator behind the stepmother's child abuse incident
-------- the impact and disaster behind the stepmother's child abuse incident
Chubelle
The incident is no longer necessary to replay, and those who are concerned naturally have been concerned. While people are shifting from one kind of grief to another, the good people are still savoring the whole incident with kind hearts.
Chinese people are kind, although people's inner most simple emotion is disproportionate to the lack of credibility of this society, but whenever people's simple emotion is stirred up by the unfortunate incident, the goodness will always be tilted in the direction of the unfortunate. Whether the stepmother child abuse incident has been as the media or the authority of the coffin, no one can determine, the credibility of the media and the credibility of the authority of the same in the absence of credibility of the community doubly questioned, in the process of the incident of stepmother child abuse, the media in the end play what role, not to say that we can understand, because the media is through the news to eat, especially the Chinese media, they are more often concerned about the Just events, news points, and other, only they know, dedication and professionalism, responsibility and obligation, who really pay attention. And the authority does not say so, even if you are correct, and how many people really believe. This is the sadness of Chinese society, this sadness is far greater than the stepmother child abuse incident event itself. Look at the questioning in the face of the announcement of the results, everything has been clear.
Back to the incident itself. From the previous year's Chen Yi incident, the network of personal assistance in the expansion of the negative role of the network, with the network of people to push the wave, Chen Yi incident I ultimately can not evaluate China's fragile social credibility and integrity of the network to bring what kind of impact, engaged in many years of network charity I also had to give up for the time being, there are no rules of the game, and ultimately, who can afford to play. After the stepmother child abuse incident, I once again heard this voice, "then who is responsible for those of us who have been deceived feelings of the netizens, the money does not matter, the problem is how much of my feelings wasted, damn, next time to kill the old lady I will never donate again, love who who to, I swear that this is the last time I fell for this scam," I can hear the keyboard behind the Anger. And likewise, "The devil in the heart is worse than the disease, indifference is more pathetic than ignorance. Who covered up the truth? Has there ever been any real public opinion monitoring in China's media? These meager forces are most heavily suppressed by some powerful forces. It turns out that the so-called Deep Throat really exists. Perhaps I should be calm and realize how many truths have been buried forever." Two different voices in the struggle, and the fundamental struggle is the public trust, and how things really are, only the parties themselves clear, and when the incident has been speculated to today, there has been no one can control after the situation.
In 2005, I assisted a few loving mothers in Xi'an to help burned children little Jingjing, some people had the idea of hype, I raised objections, no hype, the child in the help of those caring mothers, the successful completion of the network rescue. I believe that if we hype, the child will get more attention, the child will get more rescue, but the responsibility to tell all the people who are really concerned about China's fragile charitable cause, the establishment of a benign system is more important than the rescue of one or two children succeed. This is also the fundamental reason why the speculation of Chen Yi's case was strongly opposed back then. An honest society needs to whip up dishonesty and guide dishonesty toward honesty.
If the stepmother's child abuse incident is a hype, the biggest gainer is the child herself, because the attention of the society gives her a chance to regenerate. No one has the right to sentence someone to death, but public opinion will give the right to life, that's the rule of the game, and it no longer matters who is hurt as a result. You can say that the internet has limited charitable resources, you can also say that charitable resources are infinite, it all depends on your perspective. Why do you say that the good people are innocent, because a hundred good people fall down, and a thousand good people grow up, this is the reality. One day the stepmother child abuse incident will fade out of people's view, but the thought behind it will never stop, because after a stepmother child abuse incident disappears, a hundred stepmother child abuse incidents will reappear. As a seller to save the mother appeared, and a seller out of the same, the final result is that no one to pay attention to, no one to care about, and questioning will continue to occur, will continue to be someone psychological imbalance, different people different destiny, different people different results.
When kindness becomes the object of speculation, countless "child abuse" will not happen again? And if the incident itself is speculation, then the speculator himself has violated the relevant laws? If this kind of "goodwill" speculation is not stopped, then more goodwill to the same harm, so I will support the investigation of the real situation behind the scenes of the incident, to protect the interests of the majority of the law as a guideline.
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Personal summary: this example, not necessarily can be moved up. Used well, it's beautiful. The media's well-intentioned hype. Exaggerate the event itself. Keeps people from looking at the nature of the event.
Sort of like doing bad things with good intentions. Sometimes what seems like the right values to you may not necessarily be in someone else's eyes. (Note, don't get sidetracked)
3. For example, a small child didn't pay attention in class, and when he got home his mother asked him if he had paid attention, but he didn't want his mother to reprimand him, so he lied and said that he had paid attention. This subject of good faith lies to destroy the integrity of the more obvious, is a kind of acute poisoning.
4,This is the same as the first example. The object of the lie is the lie of goodwill, the starting point of the goodwill of the other party's interests. For example, praising a mentally retarded child by saying that he is smart gives him self-confidence. This object goodwill lie to destroy integrity is more insidious, is a chronic poisoning.
5. In addition, there are many goodwill lies in society is beneficial, about this opinion, I have no objection, you said out of the example, is nothing more than what to give confidence to others, so that others to work hard, if, an old man's life is in danger, we spread a goodwill lie, so that the old man has self-confidence, the condition of the disease is slowly getting better, you will think that this is a goodwill lie of the benefits, but you think that if one day, if a child with low intelligence said that he is smart, so that he gets the benefit of a chronic poisoning. However, have you ever thought that if one day the dying old man suddenly learns the news, what will happen to him?
There is also a story of a weak blind boy whose greatest wish was to "watch" the flag-raising ceremony in Tiananmen Square, but the doctors felt that this wish was unlikely to be fulfilled because the boy's body was so weak that he could not afford to be in danger, so they mobilized more than 2,000 volunteers to help him fulfill his wish. They pretended to be together, from the sound of the train to the sound of some passengers' conversations, they all imitated each other perfectly. After many days, they came to a campus, and with the accompaniment of the ringing, the little girl really thought that she had come to the Tiananmen Square, and she slowly raised her little hand to salute the national flag. The whole audience was touched, but have you thought about it? If that little girl knew the truth, what would he do?
6. What is a lie? Falsehoods, words of deception, unfounded words, lies can be feared.
There are two kinds of lies: good lies and bad lies. Both are made up words that are not true, but a good intentioned lie is one that is told so that others will not be sad or upset. A malicious lie is one that is told so that you won't be punished.
One is told for the sake of others, the other for the sake of oneself.
So the two are diametrically opposed to one another.
That a good lie is itself a lie is unquestionable. Lies, lying is cheating, cheating is immoral, immoral things are unpopular, all of these are playing small teachers and teachers have taught. But we ask ourselves, and who has not told lies? Whether it is to their loved ones, friends, or do not know people, there are many kinds of purposes, but when we add a lie to the "good intentions", as if everyone may accept, which is the weakness of human nature is the concentration of performance.
7. Mark Twain once said this. Twain once said this: "When you can't decide, tell the truth. It will embarrass your opponents and relieve your friends." Therefore, the view of psychological experts is: do not easily lie, even if it is a good lie