Lu Ma has something to say
Wang Baoqiang's divorce, Stepford wife cheated on his agent,
was fired up overnight.
Also in the face of betrayal of loved ones, Wang Baoqiang chose to divorce,
and Ma Yi Li chose to walk and cherish. The marriage has been out of track,
How to judge whether to continue to go on?
Wang Baoqiang divorce ripped open a truth: how many people in the "extramarital affair" to cope with marital problems?
American family psychotherapist Napier has studied many family problems, he found that couples in fact have long been able to feel their own marital problems, from the beginning of the marriage of the happy and satisfied, gradually turned into a problem constantly, the marriage is like a pool of stagnant water, cumbersome and boring, and even the interest in the fight may be dissipated, when their marriages appeared to be stagnant, "" extramarital affair" may become the most common way to deal with the marriage. The "extramarital affair" may become the means to break the deadlock in their marriage, even if this means will eventually bring the marriage to a dead end.
One survey showed that nearly 40 percent of women have had "extramarital affairs".
Phoenix Fashion conducted a survey on women's "extramarital affairs" in 2013 and found that there were many women who used "affairs" to solve their marital problems, with more than 80 percent of women answering that they had had "extramarital affairs". The survey on women's "extramarital affairs" found that there are actually many women who use "affairs" to solve their marital problems, and more than 80 percent of women answered that they had had "extramarital affairs.
Today, we share an article about cheating: the marriage that has cheated, should we continue to go on?
Wen Su Xin
01
There is a woman, married for more than ten years, and her husband calloused from nothing to have a house and a car and a company, and a pair of lovely children. Originally, the day is bright, but, the husband cheated. Or, this is called the warmth of the desire, husband and wife poor when a heart, have money but went to this step.
She filed for divorce, his husband begged, begged her to give himself a chance. He said he was just impulsive and did not control the temptation, and promised he would never do it again.
In fact, she couldn't let go of this relationship, she said her husband is half of her life, if she really lost him, she must not live well.
After the accident, Ye's husband treated her and her children better than before, and pushed hard to make up for his faults.
They, however, can never go back to the old days.
Leaf has no trust in her husband, and whenever he comes home a little late, she gets paranoid. At first, he explained, but then he simply went silent. He only expressed his love for her through his actions, and never talked to her as much as he used to.
The two of them are in the siege of marriage, painfully holding on, but unwilling to separate.
Leaf asked: I'm about to collapse, can you tell me how to get unstuck, what should I do?
I was silent for a while, and leaves said: I think you should give him a chance, you can completely start over.
The end, the leaves as a sigh of relief, tried to ask: why?
Why?
Because I could hear that she didn't want a divorce at all, but just wanted to find someone to talk about the indignation in her heart. It's just like what Sandy Lam sang in her song: I still have love for you, I can't do anything about myself. Because I still have dreams, still put you in my heart.
And the man, willing to put the stains white, holding her hand to go on, such a marriage is not enough to judge the conditions of separation.
So what kind of marriage can't go on?
02
A few days ago, a faraway sister in the United States, jet-lagged, used WeChat to make a "phone call" with me to tell her story. She said she had been married for twenty years and left the country sixteen years ago with her children. Her husband refused to emigrate, but only came to visit occasionally for vacations.
Later, she heard from a friend in China that her husband had lived with a divorced woman a few years ago. The reason why he didn't file for divorce was probably because he wanted to use her as a fallback, so that if he couldn't make it at home anymore, he'd still have a good meal waiting for him here.
The sister directly showed her husband the cards and asked him whether he chose to break up with the woman or to divorce her. His husband cried bitterly and said that he only did something wrong to her because he was lonely alone in the country. He promised to stop seeing the woman and come to reunite with the mother and son as soon as possible.
And after three years of procrastination, nothing has changed.
The sister said that she would not tolerate it any longer and that she wanted a divorce. I didn't hesitate to say "yes, I'm in favor of it".
It is said that it is better to break up ten temples than to break up a marriage, but why do I support the divorce?
03
Last month, I attended an MBA class. The teacher said, you are all the backbone of the unit, the unit spent a lot of money for you to come to study, I hope you cherish this opportunity. I will certainly teach my course to you seriously, but also require you to study seriously. I shouted on the podium, you sit down but not at all to the heart, the training results are doomed to failure. Of course, in the end, you won't get good grades, your position will suffer, and you'll be eliminated from the executive ranks.
Yes, you can never wake up someone who is pretending to be asleep, nor can you move someone who doesn't love you.
Just like two **** dance people, only by one party efforts, the other party always do not cooperate, certainly can not dance beautiful dance, in addition to step on the foot or step on the foot, such a dance partner still keep what?
But as long as the two are still working towards the same goal of ****, you retreat when I enter, I enter when you retreat, will eventually grind into a good-looking dance. Even if they have stepped on feet and had pain, they can still not give up and not separate.
All beings are on the path of cultivation, how can marriage not be our dojo?
At first, we always imagine marriage to be too perfect, and we always think that once we get married, we will be able to have a good relationship with each other, and we will be able to have a good relationship with each other.
Slowly, we will understand that marriage is not only about responsibility and beauty, but also about hurt and tolerance. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the work you've done.
When you walk in the sea of people, found that all the pedestrians are a thousand faces, only his face can make you intimate and down-to-earth, can make you remember you and his first date, said the first love words, shy first kiss.
After all, to love you with my whole bruise is the most luxurious thing in my life.
Marriage is a city, who says it can not be pushed down and rebuilt. Two people who are willing to work hard can certainly rebuild a new city on the ruins and bloom bright flowers everywhere.
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