Last year, I read an article about a mother-in-law's confession, probably saying that she has been working for her children all her life, and even though she is now upgraded to a grandmother, she doesn't want to stay at home with her children, and she wants to have her own old age, which has stirred up a thousand layers, and has caused a heated debate on the Internet.
In real life, it seems to be a common phenomenon for older people to help their children with their children after retirement. But who should actually bring up the children? Grandmothers-in-law and daughters-in-law have something to say about it.
Mother-in-law's side:
Mother Zhang: I am not willing to take care of the children. I've been busy for most of my life, working hard to bring up several children, raising them, nurturing them, paying for their schooling, helping them get married, and in the end, when I have children, I still have to bring them up as a mother-in-law. It is not easy for me to retire, I want to have a few years of leisure life in my old age, and I also want to go out with my old pals to see the world that I have never seen when I was young. I want to have my own retirement life, so I don't want to bring up children.
Li Granny: Now life is very stressful, the children are not easy, I also want to help them to bring up the child, but when their children were born, I was 60 or 70 years old, want to bring up is not enough, every day to take care of the child, tired of the back pain, leg pain, body discomfort, really want to bring up can not bring up the ah.
Chen: Nowadays, young people's concept of parenting is very different from ours, they talk about scientific parenting, and they dislike me for being unscientific in taking care of the children. To help bring up a child, do not allow to hold shaking, powdered milk also strictly in accordance with the scale, but my presbyopia, want to see can not see clearly ah, take to the child to wash the clothes, but also to use the baby special laundry soap washing basin to wash, how can I remember so clearly. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on the way to the next level, but I'm sure that you'll be able to get a good deal on the way to the next level!
Daughter-in-law side:
Sister Zhang: when pregnant with the second child, said, give birth to it, give birth to me to give you a child, the results of the birth of a child, she broke her foot, the foot is good, but did not hold half a day of the child on the back pain, leg pain arm pain, and the last sentence can not be brought to give a challenge to, if not to bring the child, when it was clear that I would not be born a two-child, and now does not bring, what do I do, the big baby to school, the second baby is still small, can only resign as a child, the second baby is still small, can only quit as a child. The second baby is still small, can only resign as a full-time mom.
Sister Li: my mother-in-law retired, every day with her sisters out to dance square dance, on New Year's Day also went to travel, I'm a person busy with three, people just do not help, the name is to enjoy the old age, but other people's mothers-in-law do not help bring up children?
There is really a lot of talk about bringing up the kids, and there is a lot of talk about bringing up the kids. Who is going to take care of the kids? A quote from psychology and parenting expert Li Meijin will probably solve the mystery.
Professor Li Meijin told a story about the last emperor Puyi. Puyi wrote my memoirs with a description: "When I was small, I was particularly naughty and loved to play tricks on the eunuchs and palace maidens, and I would not listen to anyone who tried to persuade me to do so, but the nanny's sentence, "Don't be naughty, and I'll listen to you.
Professor Li Meijin analyzed it this way, because Puyi was brought up by the nanny, so the emotion is easy to reach with the nanny **** Ming, that is, from the bottom of his heart, fear her, attached to her, willing to make her happy and listen to her words. So whoever brought the child up, whoever influenced him, he will be easy to listen to, if you didn't bring him up, in his heart of hearts, he is not obedient to you.
The child is ultimately to return to his parents, subject to parental discipline, in order to better educate the child in the future, the child should be by the parents to bring their own, and the elders can be in the parents busy time to help, to play a supporting role, but the main role should be the child's own mother and father.