How to alleviate this parent's "chicken baby anxiety"?

As parents, raising children is just to fill their own lives, which is a kind of practice. Because we pay more than money, time, energy and love for our children. However, within our power, children are not our private property, and they will not stay with us all their lives. On the contrary, because parents are well trained, children are often in better and bigger places. In other words, while paying a lot, we must constantly cut the bond between parents and children, so that children can truly become an independent individual, and we must do a good job of finishing the work of "people and money are empty". This is also the essential reason why many young people are unwilling to have children. There is only sunk cost, but there may be no income. Everyone who has given birth to a child knows this truth, but because of personal experience, there is spiritual satisfaction and gain at the same time. It is precisely because of the experience of gain and loss that they will look at the problem of parenting more comprehensively. Therefore, facing up to the essence of children's education is to let children develop in an all-round way, not chicken ribs. It is one thing for children to receive education at the age of study, not to meet the investment we can't afford to lose, to gain income, or even to pave the way for our future. Second, correctly distinguish between chicken education and normal education. Many people think that since they are opposed to chickens, the education of children will go with the flow, depending on the individual nature of children. It is easy to go to the extreme of chicken baby and let the children's education drift. We have heard many old people often say, "Children can read, and it makes no difference where they read." "That's not how you came when you were young. Where did you go and what remedial classes and talent classes did you attend? Didn't you also go to college? " I used to argue with that old man, but now I just laugh it off. It was before, and now it is now. If people want to develop well, they can only keep pace with the times and do what they should do. I admit that these words are largely to comfort our parents who have limited ability to pay for their children's education, so that we can put ourselves down without feeling guilty. However, no matter in the past or now, it is always those groups whose parents and children work together that go further than their peers. Whether children work hard or parents don't work hard, or parents worry that children don't work hard, they are backward. Therefore, without baby education, it does not mean that parents are lying down and fighting by their children alone. Parents can do a lot for their children, for example, children should cultivate good habits from an early age and lay a good foundation for doing things, such as self-care ability and emotional management ability. The time and energy that parents need to spend is really more difficult than sending their children to training classes. When children transition from family to school, what we can do is still to do our best. If possible, we should buy school districts for our children, but it is not recommended to sacrifice the quality of life and development of the whole family for children, which will increase the pressure on children and even nourish their strong and selfish hearts, and feel that parents' contribution to their children is taken for granted. Moreover, it is necessary to cultivate children's talents according to their hobbies, not to compare with others, but to increase their confidence and fun in life. This is my idea. I don't need a baby chicken. I just do something for my children's education. I think, when parents have such a mentality, they will naturally not be anxious about the education of chicken babies.