Why do people want to caress and like to hug from "skin hunger"

Physical contact between children and mothers plays an important role in eliminating children's anxiety and forming children's emotional stability. This experiment shows that physical contact between children and mothers plays an important role in eliminating children's anxiety and forming children's emotional stability. Close and lasting attachment between a baby and its mother (or caregiver) is the most basic need for children's survival and development. The quality of a child's attachment to his mother will affect his future relationship with others. There is a term in psychology, called skin hunger, which refers to a potential and profound desire to be loved, cared for and comforted during the growth of children who rarely get hugs and intimacy from their mothers. If this feeling is too strong, it will lead to a morbid emotional demand. If a person can fully enjoy his mother's "skin contact" in infancy, he will not form psychological "skin hunger" and will be satisfied with the love he has obtained, which will have a great positive effect on cultivating his emotional balance, self-confidence and caring ability for others in the future. In fact, "skin contact" refers not only to the baby's skin contact, but also to let the baby feel the warmth and softness of his mother through skin contact. Including mother's eyes, expression, gentle words, rhythm caused by gentle shaking, mother's breath, smell, smile and so on. The baby feels his mother's love through these details. Therefore, the best way to attach importance to children's early emotional care is to hug and comfort them, talk to them more, and laugh and play with them. Not only babies and children need warm caresses, but also adults need warm caresses. In the history of human evolution, skin contact has always been an important tool for human emotional communication. Many complex emotions of human beings, such as joy, happiness, sadness, pity, love, care and help, can be transmitted through mutual touch and caress between skin. Not only babies and children need warm caresses, but also adults need them. In the modern society with fierce competition, adults are facing great pressure for survival and development. No matter how tough the appearance is, both men and women have a weak side in their hearts and are eager to be cared for by others. Especially the emotional communication and comfort from relatives are precious. Hugging is the primitive demand of human beings and an important factor in their psychological and spiritual development. Westerners regard hugs as the etiquette of people's daily communication. In fact, since ancient times, human beings have matured in hugs, developed their minds in hugs, and reproduced in hugs. Specifically, human beings have the following three needs for hugs: 1. Hugging is the need of human primitive instinct. No matter in the East or the West, the first thing a baby does after birth is to receive a mother's hug, which is the most primitive and instinctive demand of human beings. Babies can only grow up healthily if they are suckled and slept in their mother's arms. Mothers are eager to hug their children. This is a woman's greatest spiritual enjoyment, so that she can truly appreciate life is sweet as a woman. 2. Hugging is the need of personality and intellectual development. Many human behaviorists at home and abroad have proved that a child who grows up in his mother's arms will develop his personality and intelligence well. On the contrary, a child who lacks a mother's hug will not only tend to be withdrawn, but also be seriously affected psychologically and intellectually. Therefore, as a mother, when your child opens his arms and hopes to get your hug, he should try his best to meet his requirements, which is especially important for his healthy growth! 3. Hugging is the need of human spiritual comfort. Hugging is a reflection of its own "magnetic" gravity, an expression of the true feelings of the soul, and a spark of love. Many joys and sorrows in life are often vented, perceived, celebrated and comforted by hugs. Therefore, not only babies need hugs, but also adults and the elderly need hugs. Westerners believe that a person who is not hugged by others for a long time is lonely; A person who doesn't hug others for a long time is indifferent. His feelings also dried up. This statement is not unreasonable. For the elderly, they have gone through many vicissitudes, and they also need to be nourished and comforted by hugs. However, at present, elderly couples in China often sleep in separate beds because of outdated concepts, which is very wrong. Because only hugs can convey and penetrate each other's feelings most quickly. Therefore, hug is a "chicken soup" to soothe the soul, a good medicine to cure all kinds of physical and mental injuries, and the best tonic to develop physical and mental health. Therefore, all of us should attach importance to hugs and develop them to the maximum.