Literally, "family harmony" is the condition, and "everything goes well" is the result. Judging from the actual performance results (this paper simplifies "everything is prosperous" to "most things are successful and can withstand unexpected shocks", which is in line with practical application and will not lead to unnecessary discussion). There is no necessary condition between the two (that is, the result of "prosperity of all things" must exist. The relationship between "home harmony" and "everything goes smoothly" is closely related. The strict expression should be: if the conditions of "home harmony" exist, then the probability of this result is very high. From another point of view, if the conditions of "family harmony" exist, the efficiency of family groups can be almost doubled, and the ability to resist crises will be improved by at least one order of magnitude. This is why people should advocate and practice the essence of "family harmony".
Observing an actual family from the perspective of a bystander, there are three levels of "home harmony": showing off, kindness and harmony. The family that shows off "home harmony" actually does not have the conditions of "home harmony", but only regards "home harmony" as the capital to show off; If we regard "home harmony" as a harmonious family, we will only know how to maintain harmony as much as possible, but it is still far from the conditions of "home harmony". Only a harmonious family can have the conditions of "home harmony" From the perspective of conflict, "family harmony" refers to harmony, while from the perspective of coping, it is concluded that "there are thousands of people in the family, and one person is the master".
Understanding the relationship between "home and everything" and simply judging what "home and everything" is far from the application of "home and everything" To use it flexibly, we must also understand three basic questions: the scope of home? How to achieve harmony at home? How can it lead to everything?
The definition of family in Yan Family Instructions is: "A husband has one person and then a couple, and a couple and then a father and son, and a father and son and then a brother, and a family member. These are just three. Since ancient times, as for the nine families, they are all based on three relatives, so those who value human feelings are also indispensable. " This is the traditional definition of family, defined by blood relationship. This is a gift from God to everyone. In practice, the "home and everything" home will be a little different. It's not necessarily a gift from God, but it may also include some gifts from yourself-the circle of people you have established, and the size of this range is restricted by social environmental conditions. For example, it often refers to a family in the agricultural economy era. Home and everything flourish, the scope of home is often established, and it is rarely discussed in depth, but to make full use of home and everything flourish, this is a problem that must be clarified first.
Winner takes all does not exist in modern market competition, but it is carried out in the process of evolution from nature to human society, and the winner will be given to the competitor. The powerful control of modern large enterprises makes the winner-take-all phenomenon stand out. So competition is the main factor that determines the scope of home, and another factor is people's pursuit of pleasure.
People are social animals and need emotional communication, spiritual comfort, encouragement and support. Home is a quiet harbor, a wisp of warm smoke, a warm lamp in the dark, and a boat we rely on in the turmoil-thin and weak, but let us share joys and sorrows without hesitation. According to the reality, it is the basis of social harmony to define the group that can form a long-term and unrelenting tide as the scope of a family.
From the point of view of competition, it is the balance of static strength and tactics that determines the scope of home. Static power needs a bigger home, while Machiavelli needs a home as small as possible because of its secrecy. The balance between these two aspects is most suitable for the influence of the social environment at that time, which determines the scope of home and will form established social customs. If a person can go through fire and water for everyone in society without hesitation, he will often become a homeless person. The advanced civilization and technology in Song Dynasty can't compete with Mongolian soldiers. The key is that they can't form an advantage in the home game. Even if there are figures like Di Qing and Yue Fei, there will be times when the Great Wall will be self-destructed. The indifference of western sociologists is due to the fact that enterprises in western society almost completely deprive the main factor that affects the scope of home-the competition between home and home.
From the perspective of pursuing pleasure, it is the balance between sociality and tranquility that determines the scope of home. When the competitive pressure subsides, the pursuit of pleasure will become the main factor affecting the scope of home, which is also the main reason why middle-aged and elderly people care more about home and cherish friendship more. It is also the fundamental reason why they can't cope with the sudden external competition after a long time of singing and dancing. Sociality and tranquility are also influenced by the social environment at that time, which determines an optimal balance point.
In a certain social environment, competition and the pursuit of happiness determine the scope of home. However, in practice, the established social customs will become a significant factor, and people's ideas will change by leaps and bounds only if they are seriously unsuitable for the social environment conditions at that time. In the face of war or major crisis, red tape is often removed, which is why war will teach a person what he usually doesn't know. Under this unprecedented competitive pressure, the actual law will become a significant factor.
In everyone's mind, human rights, democracy and freedom will be expounded from the most favorable side. After understanding the factors that affect the scope of home, it will be clear that "human rights, democracy and freedom" are castles in the air if there is no home to carry them. After others quench their thirst and get your support, the final result is that the new authorities have obtained the "human rights, democracy and freedom" they need, and you are still there. The characteristic of human beings is that the family is the smallest unit of competition. Individuals without families are also street children, so it is impossible to directly participate in the competition. Not feeling the competition, confused by the formal family, people feel the constraints of customs and confidence in their personal abilities. People often can't help destroying their homes. When others achieve their goals and lose the protection of their homes, they will find that everything they get is just left in your place. It's too late to regret.
The practical family is a group that can share joys and sorrows, so as to last for a long time. The correct level of family harmony is harmony. How to achieve harmony at home is a complicated and operational matter. Without a fixed law, all roads lead to Rome. What is described here is only for inspiration.
One of the characteristics of family harmony is that there are thousands of people in the family, and one person has the final say. This is a short-lived characteristic. The ideal family harmony should have three dynamic characteristics: flying in a wild goose, being able to survive the crisis and not missing opportunities. Such an ideal feature can only be a guiding role. How to achieve harmony at home usually has the following points:
(1) Make every family member feel comfortable as much as possible, and at least establish a communication and stress release mechanism. This is because modern family work is not carried out within the family, and such a mechanism is necessary. The lack of this mechanism is the main reason for the increase of modern psychological diseases; From the perspective of efficiency, including the collection and release of specific objects, we should form a unified habit and save time as much as possible. After the habit is formed, there will be a stable reference for improvement. Otherwise, it will change frequently, the efficiency will fall instead of rising, and it will also affect the mood because of the unsynchronized rhythm.
(2) the person in charge should give full play to everyone's strengths and tolerate shortcomings. Everyone has shortcomings, just as everyone has advantages-advantages and disadvantages are two sides of the same coin, and it is impossible to take only one. If you always stare at the shortcomings of a swift horse eating grass, then even the best horse is just "useless" in the eyes of these people.
(3) Try to avoid saving waste. The starting point of economical waste is saving, not wasting, but not saving, but wasting in the implementation process. But because "the intention is good", people ignore its harm. Therefore, under the banner of "good motives", this kind of waste is easily put on the cloak of "legalization" and is more likely to cause "legalization" waste. The ultimate damage is often the specific parties, but also confusing, making people suffer dumb losses, and its harm is no less than the general waste behavior. In the final analysis, saving waste is a ridiculous behavior whose purpose and means are reversed, but such behavior can be seen everywhere in life, but it is also ignored everywhere. This is why families should be especially vigilant. The long-term reversal of purpose and means is the main reason for family disharmony, and the parties may not find the real reason.
(4) Arrange some value-added contents in time. Don't let housework, shopping and playing games occupy all the family time. Arrange some time to think and try new things. It is hard to say that such an arrangement will bring added value. If it becomes a habitual family arrangement, it will definitely bring added value to the family. Failure to arrange value-added content is the main reason why families can't change the status quo and tend to be numb.
(5) It is the best way to identify the crisis in advance and turn it into an opportunity, which is also the main force to promote family communication.
(6) Respect experts. Taking teachers as kings also applies to families. Giving up halfway is always wrong and disrespectful to experts. The result of compromise often becomes a fact of getting twice the result with half the effort, which is the main reason for not being able to survive the crisis. On the other hand, respecting experts also needs to consciously cultivate experts in the family, which is the basis for releasing wildness. In fact, training children is such an action, but it does not rise to the height of training experts, but ends with sending children to college.
(7) Don't try. Faced with new things, people are often used to taking a look at the shore, then making judgments based on their own experience, and even making decisions based on hearsay. This is the main reason for missing opportunities. Opportunities in practice have nothing to do with the complexity and simplicity of the theory, and you can't understand them without in-depth research. Simple things like driving must pass the training and examination before you can get on the road, but it is also a simple driving. Schumacher not only became a super-rich man, but also became a hero in people's minds. On the other hand, we need to encourage our family members' ideas, and we need patience and understanding. As long as family members have ideas, they will be hit and suppressed, and innovative thinking will be impossible. Examples from all over the world show that a valuable innovative thinking emerges from a bunch of seemingly absurd and naive ideas. The so-called "eloquent, successful planning, eloquent" is just a myth of fools.
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Home is a group that can share weal and woe. How to define the scope of home can only be determined according to the actual situation. Take the family as an example, list seven main points, and there are countless specific methods. As long as you know how to prosper, it is not difficult to do so.
In fact, people make decisions not on the basis of facts, but on the basis of their opinions. Selective blindness often occurs when accepting things. Therefore, summing up how to lead everything to prosperity based on specific things, except the phenomenon of singing hymns, is often irrelevant and difficult to guide future actions.
How to lead all things to flourish and get methods to guide future actions is summarized from three levels: first, understanding heaven, second, understanding how individuals can exert their maximum effectiveness, and third, understanding the environment. This is a basic list of applications in practice.
Heaven is hard to violate. The so-called heaven is actually an objective law. If you violate it, you will surely fail and even be severely punished. In this respect, everyone can be knowledgeable, but it makes people feel comfortable when applied to natural science, and it is often unpredictable when applied to social science. Just like comparing two species, the greater the difference from the external performance, if compared from the genetic level, you will find that the difference is actually very small. If compared from this level, the difference between natural science and social science is mainly manifested in six points. There are three fundamental differences: first, natural science can repeat quickly and completely, while social science has poor consistency in repetition, and the time granularity of repetition is basically in this order of magnitude, and it is not completely consistent, but spirals up; Second, natural science is not countered, and it is not countered by the research object when doing natural science research, while the research object of social science directly involves people, and human initiative is particularly easy to counteract the researchers themselves; Third, natural science can be experimented. Natural science can get the most reliable results through continuous experiments, and then the best results can be obtained through large-scale application. Social science can only be a pilot, but the actual situation of the pilot is often to concentrate on doing great things. Its conclusion is obviously different from the effect of large-scale application, or even completely opposite. This is like the relationship between war and exercise. Unless there is no war, exercise can only be an exercise, and exercise can't replace war. The other three points are differences in understanding: first, the tolerance of the public. After hundreds of years of continuous accumulation, natural science has continuously and significantly affected people's lives and has been widely accepted by the public. So some people who do natural science research like Fa Yueer's Insects will get warm support and approval. Bill Gates will concentrate on research and development, and their strange behavior will be tolerated and supported. If they do social science, they are likely to be forced to send to a place; Second, the separation of powers, as long as there is financial support, natural science can be completely separated from power, while social science is closely related to power, and it is impossible to be separated from power at the current level of understanding; Third, the promotion interference, the promotion of natural scientific achievements, as long as there is continuous financial support, all interference will be eliminated, and the biggest interference is just an encounter with Long Mai when building a railway, while the promotion of social scientific achievements must be widely accepted in understanding, financial support will only make matters worse, and the coercion of power can only be a temporary prestige, such as Wang Anshi's political reform.
Harmony between home and everything is a typical social science category. If we don't understand the six differences between natural science and social science, it will seriously affect our understanding and application. Get to the point, the application of home and everything, understand heaven, at least do not violate the following axioms:
(65438+ to think that the winner is king, not limited by the environmental conditions at that time, or that there is no winning or losing, is all whitewashing. If you preach it as truth, you will be punished.
(2) The role of brand is to reward winners. Reduce the overall cost of society through brand logo. If the brand is not worthy of the name after winning, it will only succeed for a while. The Sanlu brand case shows that under the modern information conditions, it is not worth the loss to use the brand to seek improper benefits. The greatest strength of a brand is its influence on people's lives, and a brand represents a way of life. Lifestyle is changing all the time, and we must combine the evolution of science and technology to solve the problem and generate additional value.
(3) peaches and plums are self-sufficient. It is not impossible to get the truth without knowledge and intelligence. After eating, using and experiencing, people will find their best fit through comparison, so that people can get their best fit. This is the purpose. Propaganda, advertising, marketing and management are all means, but control will confuse the purpose with the means, thus showing both the reasonable side and the root of the conflict.
(4) Culture is just habits and beliefs accumulated from generation to generation, which permeates life practice and is reflected in how one treats others, oneself and the natural environment. Culture is the accumulation of controlling the rational side. If it is used as a tool of ignorance, it will eventually evolve into a hypocritical culture that only talks about form.
(5) For an individual or a specific executive team, what can't be measured by time and efficiency is to discover new essence and law, express it as a text that can be applied on a large scale, and persuade people to change their ideas. But these three things are the soul of innovation, which depends on the social environment and long-term social habits, and comes down to the myth that an apple hits someone's head or an enterprise undertakes innovation. This cognitive deviation is the fundamental reason why innovation becomes a mere formality.
(6) Class, platoon and company are actually the best group size that people have experienced numerous practices. One can be completely familiar with and reach a tacit understanding, that is, the size of the class. The most suitable group to form both offensive and defensive is the size of the platoon, and the control boundary of one person is more than 100 people. Beyond this limit, the relationship can only be maintained by contract. If you don't form a grassroots team according to this, even if you are lucky enough to succeed, it will be a mob. When it comes to competitors organized with the best group size, it will collapse at the touch of a button.
(7) There are only two organizations that do everything for individuals, one is the home and the other is the country. Leaving these two organizations to do things can only be a temporary move. But if the family is far less efficient than it should be in the long-term competition with the outside world, it will definitely break up, and there will be a formal family at most. Without the pressure of competition, family members will inevitably break up, and even formal families may no longer exist.
(8) The emergence of enterprises has broken the traditional concept of home. Because enterprises only focus on products, only a few people can be guaranteed to be enterprise writers, and most people in charge of enterprises always wake up from their dreams. With the development of technology, the life span of enterprises is getting shorter and shorter, and the conflict between home and enterprise is getting stronger and stronger. Solving people's needs for home will be the biggest market in 2 1 century.
In real life, people often pay less attention to the things of heaven, which is normal. It is the same as people's attitude towards natural science, such as relativity. Although it has been widely used in people's lives, few people can really think clearly or even understand the theory of relativity. People think more about: knowing how individuals can maximize their effectiveness. At this level, the most basic are as follows:
(1) Discover and cultivate interest. Nothing, big or small, can be done well without interest. Interest is a driving force, which is very strong. Interest is sometimes blind and sometimes purposeful. After using interest, you will know more about the meaning of things and do things better in this way.
(2) Don't give up easily. The main reason for people's failure is that they gave up too early, didn't meet the opportunity or didn't have enough ability, which can't be an excuse at present in the information age (the economic investment needed to make up for this deficiency can be ignored, even in terms of training ability, that is, in the years when tuition fees soared around 2000, they got bachelor's and master's degrees with less than 3,000 yuan, and many courses were taught by the writers of formal textbooks, which is the reason why they gave up prematurely compared with their full-time jobs. The right thing to do is to carefully consider the person who introduced the opportunity, even if you don't want to risk distinguishing the snake from the rope. If you are given a stick, why not play with it? Second, after an operation, I immediately said that this opportunity was not good, leaving behind the fact that any post needs to be familiar with and run-in period. The employer stipulates that the internship period is the time period set by a person from novice to proficient. The correct way is to at least achieve proficiency before making an evaluation; Third, without determination, we can't see the value of opportunities clearly. Everything was done when sowing, but there was no figure when harvesting, and there was no point in reclaiming land. Heroes come from savages, mainly because these savages have no qualifications and conditions to give up, so they grow into heroes through experience.
(3) concentrate. There are only two kinds of people in the world who can't succeed: those who don't do their jobs; The other is people who do not do foreign affairs. Don't always think about waiting for a career before you go all out. In fact, there are not many situations that can really go all out, especially those that last for more than a week. As long as you concentrate on your work, do more foreign affairs while doing your job well.
(4) Actively adjust the position. Winner takes all. If you don't take the initiative to adjust yourself, you will at least miss the opportunity, and the price of becoming a winner is much higher. The best way to adjust the position is: change lines without changing posts, and change posts without changing lines.
(5) form your own home. A person's success needs a group in the same boat, and this is the home you want to form. At all times and in all countries, no one has achieved his career without such a home.
(6) form personalized habits. Successful people are successful because of personalized habits. Don't settle the dream of the world with one blow. They are all rendered by film and television works. Work itself is forcing people to form habits. Only by forming personalized habits can we find our best rhythm and get better support from our families.
Just like the relationship between "family harmony" and "everything goes smoothly", so does the relationship between "maximizing personal efficacy" and "career success". If you want to succeed in your career, you need to know the environment. The best way to understand the environment is to study history, which requires a correct method. Reading history, many people see Machiavelli-style tactics, which is an evil way for learners. From the historical point of view, truth is the right way. Understanding the environment is a very profound knowledge. The following are the basic common sense that everyone should have:
1) The balance is relative and the imbalance is absolute. If you dig into the details, there will always be a chance. A glass of water has a surface tension layer. If you study this clearly, you can develop a useful tool. From the perspective of details, no matter how perfect the system is in society, as long as there are people, new demands can be found, but if there is no sense of the overall situation, it will eventually be lost and can only be sure.
2) Avoid the domino phenomenon. Dominoes look beautiful, but they can't stand tossing and falling down easily. If inheritance is established through concealment and lies (including double standards in implementation), with the support of strong control, dominoes will inevitably form. To avoid dominoes is to let all kinds of forces in the environment play a role, reduce the coupling between subsystems as much as possible when establishing the system, and experience full consideration and debate as much as possible before taking action.
3) Pay attention to the sequence and mechanism. If the wish is good and the execution is out of shape, the problem may lie in the order and mechanism of action. An example of designing a fair mechanism for seven people to share porridge shows that the excellent scheme is that the porridge-sharing person takes the last bowl, which illustrates this point well.
4) Being able to identify the winning ways of lottery tickets. Around us, there are lottery tickets in each issue, and the lottery itself purely plays the role of wealth redistribution. We should be able to distinguish between "lottery will make millionaires" and "individuals will make millionaires by buying lottery tickets". If the specific lottery buying process of the winners is replicated, everyone will laugh, but now the so-called successful people produced by the same mechanism are in a hurry to spend money on sedan chairs. We must make it clear that only organizers and lucky people can make money, which has a very weak relationship with the amount of time and money invested.
5) Be able to identify the magic card drawing method. There is a method of magic card drawing, and everyone knows what card it is, which makes the viewer feel amazing. In fact, all the cards in the magician's hand are the same card. Of course, you don't need to look at one card to know what it is. In real competition and economy, the same technology is used to cheat. The main purpose is to demoralize opponents, become winners easily and know how to do it.
6) Be able to identify montage advertising techniques. The purpose of advertising is to convey product information to people in need. In order to attract more consumers, montage advertising will be used to shoot advertisements. However, as consumers, comparing physical objects with montage advertisements will definitely be misleading. They must compare goods or have their own objective criteria to choose their own consumer goods in order to choose the products they need. The prevalence of montage advertising and magic lottery is the fundamental reason for the decline of products in the market. Consumers must take countermeasures, otherwise the phenomenon of melamine in milk is always endless.
Knowing what determines the scope of home, how to realize the harmony of home and how to realize everything from three levels, we will have a complete understanding of home and everything, which can help people practice it better. We have such a deep understanding of home because of the development level of productive forces, which makes the importance of home stand out in society and makes everyone who really cares about the future care about the organizational form of home.
People often see stories of success, praise and even imitate these business models. But what we don't know or deliberately ignore is that behind these success stories, too many social resources may be consumed, including unreasonable, not necessarily legal and not necessarily reasonable means. It is unfair to society not to systematically discuss the advantages and disadvantages of an operation model and not to show the complete face of the event. The plane world and the walled world have different standards and scales. The arrival of this flat world is due to the ubiquitous network, which enables us to re-examine the past business model, especially the economic crisis triggered by the American subprime mortgage crisis, forcing us to make such a review.
Since its appearance, enterprises have undertaken a single task (only need to produce and sell specific products), and can squeeze people's accustomed homes into several places with the help of large-scale economic expansion. The advocacy for employees is: to be a qualified employee, you only need to do your job perfectly; To be an excellent employee, you must also be able to consider and deal with problems from the boss's standpoint. This can only explain one aspect. In fact, on the other hand, every successful boss has a family behind him (that is, a small group in the same boat). People who can't start a family are excellent employees at best. People with family support, out of the need of competition and control, will intentionally or unintentionally prevent others from forming families to support them. This is not only the superficial problem of exploitation and oppression, but also the root of many social and economic problems.
Mankind has experienced the era of farming economy and commercial economy, and began to move towards the era of service economy. Farming economy mainly depends on land, and the family linked by blood is the basic organizational form, and the outbreak of economic crisis is often affected by climate; Commercial economy mainly depends on the benign operation of industrial chain, and single-function enterprises are the main organizational forms. Apart from formal home, home has almost no place to stand. Just like Wei Zhongxian's treatment of the emperor, a few elites with families are easily confused and accumulate over time, forming social dominoes, and accidental events will detonate the economic crisis; The service economy mainly depends on the vague boundary, which naturally carries the genes of a harmonious society, and the home will return to the center of society. In the era of service economy, families and enterprises will become the center of society.
From now on, it is logical to move from farming economy to commodity economy, but from the historical practice, it is a difficult process of changing ideas and has gone through a long process. It has also entered the real service from the commercial economy.
A nation that cannot produce world-class entrepreneurs is not a strong nation, and a country that cannot let global consumers share local brand culture is not a strong country. Only innovation can undertake such a heavy responsibility. Entrepreneur's innovation includes not only technological innovation, but also innovation in concept, system, management and marketing. To manage the direct selling and performance-supporting industries well is to establish an intermediate layer between survival and creation, and to establish an innovative support mechanism from the social level.
Value innovation is the core competitiveness of enterprises. No matter how big the opponent's company is, no matter how loud the opponent's brand is, as long as his company lacks the passion and culture of value innovation, then this enterprise will be dead. Just as Henry Ford, Sam Walton, Kōnosuke Matsushita and Akio Morita eliminated the old traditional businessmen in their early years, the enterprise heroes who successfully realized value innovation in the network era will also eliminate the traditional entrepreneurs who were or are still outstanding. No matter men, women, children, rich or poor, the times have given us such an opportunity to create history.
2009 is destined to be an extraordinary year. Frustrations and challenges are historical opportunities that God has given us for change. We need to jump out of the box, reflect on the already handy operation methods and habits, and enter a deeper level of civilized thinking as a whole to explore and build a more valuable commercial society that creates space. Only in this way can a large number of world-class companies and entrepreneurs be produced.
The contest of national strength lies in enterprises, and the contest of enterprises lies in entrepreneurs. The sustained development of entrepreneurs' effectiveness is bound to be inseparable from the support of their families. As the old saying goes, all industries are prosperous, which is also useful for a country.