(1) Because children's cognitive ability and thinking ability are not well developed, it is easy to lead to imitation psychology.
This means that in children, because their cognitive ability and thinking ability are not perfect, they still can't tell the difference between themselves and the environment and the authenticity of things. For example, 3-year-old Lili goes to kindergarten, and she always secretly takes her favorite toys home. After the teacher and parents found out, Lili cried and said, "This is my toy!" " "Lili lied in front of the teacher's parents. This case shows that due to the limitation of cognitive level and language ability, he is not accurate in expressing what happened, or has a vague concept of the ownership of things and thinks that what he likes is his own. He will inadvertently create a lot of lies. Another situation is that the boundary between fact and fiction is unclear, and vivid imagination will make children exaggerate things and fabricate lies. Because of this, in childhood, they are prone to imitate. Most children like to imitate the most important people in their hearts, such as teachers, parents, relatives and so on. They also like to imitate same-sex playmates. Children are very imitative, and some behaviors of parents and teachers will have a subtle influence on children inadvertently.
(2) Lying for fear of being reprimanded and abused by teachers and parents.
Children are curious about everything around them, especially what they just bought at home. They are so curious that they have to hold it by themselves, watch it carefully and play with it, and often it will break if they are not careful. At this time, because of the child's inner tension, there was a kind of fear, afraid of being scolded and beaten by his parents, and unconsciously began to lie. Because some parents and teachers often beat and scold children who make mistakes, after a long time, children will feel afraid. If you want to avoid the teacher's reprimand and the parents' beating, you will naturally lie to cover up your mistakes. This also requires our teachers and parents to treat their children's educational methods correctly when they make mistakes, instead of beating, scolding and reprimanding them blindly.
(3) Due to the improper education of teachers and parents, children are selfish, vengeful, rebellious and lying.
Lying is a dishonest behavior. When a child is found lying, teachers and parents as the first guardians should educate the child in time to correct this wrong behavior of the child. But sometimes the reason why children lie is often caused by improper education of teachers and parents. Some children lie to get sympathy and support from teachers and parents to satisfy their desire for revenge. For example, Xiao Ming's students started to beat people themselves because of contradictions, but after suffering losses, they said that others beat him first in front of teachers and parents, expecting teachers to punish each other. There are also some children who are hostile to someone, slander others with lies, and even frame others. For example, what you break, but blame others for doing it, and so on. There are also children who often lie and cheat in order to resist the guardianship and interference of their parents and protect their inner world. All of the above refer to children who are vengeful and rebellious and lie. Children who lie because of selfishness, such as children who can benefit from lying because of environmental and educational factors, often use lying to achieve their goals and wishes. For example, children want a pair of skates and other sports equipment, but when they go home, they say that the PE teacher asks them. Because parents support their children to study hard and sometimes meet their requirements, their selfishness is naturally satisfied, which is also one of the common reasons for lying.
(4) Lying because of a certain desire is mainly analyzed from three aspects: vanity, curiosity and self-esteem.
As an independent individual, a child must have some thoughts and wishes of his own, so as to lie to meet his own needs. First of all, they lie to satisfy their vanity. Children regard lying as a means to gain others' attention or appreciation, and think that lying can improve their status in the eyes of their peers. They never thought about the consequences. For example, some children will make things out of nothing, saying that they traveled to a certain place during a holiday, how happy they had, how happy they had done, and let their peers envy him and establish their position in the hearts of their peers. Some children will exaggerate how rich their family is, their parents are government leaders, and so on. This is just a child's vanity. Secondly, some children lie because of their curiosity. Some children think cheating is interesting, so they often play tricks on others. For example, some children say to their peers that "the teacher told you to go there" or "your mother came to see you", and so on; Some children even cheat their parents and teachers in this way. In fact, they are curious and have no malice. The third lie is because of the child's self-esteem. Because I did something ugly or did something wrong, I was worried that telling the truth would be laughed at and looked down upon by others, so I had the idea of lying. For example, the child was punished by the teacher for reading novels in class, but he could say that the teacher borrowed books in front of his classmates, and he was not punished. Some children have corrupt parents, but when classmates talk about their parents, he always covers up the facts with lies. Some children are naughty at school and fight with their classmates, and their faces are hurt. They went home and lied to their parents that they accidentally touched them.
(5) Lying for fear of being distrusted and misunderstood.
Sometimes parents and teachers will doubt what their children say. After several times, the child was afraid of being misunderstood and distrusted, and would rather lie. Especially in the period of psychological resistance. For example, a student with poor grades usually achieved good results in an exam through hard work. The teacher questioned the child and suspected that the child cheated in this performance, which made the child have a great shadow in his heart. Other children are usually naughty and often like to take other people's things. When the teacher found that something of a classmate was missing, he misunderstood the child. Over time, they will talk to the teacher in a deceptive way to make the teacher believe them.
Second, the correction methods of children's lying behavior
(a), the handling of children's lying behavior must be corrected based on the principle of prevention.
There are many factors for children to lie, but generally speaking, children's lying behavior can be corrected before things happen. Therefore, this requires parents and teachers to have a clear understanding of children's lying behavior. They should not think that children's lying is not a serious problem, nor should they think that children's lying has nothing to do with adults' behavior, so they can ignore it. In childhood, children's thoughts are very simple, just like some blank sheets of paper, with strong plasticity. This requires our teachers and parents to instill correct ideas in children at ordinary times, so that children can grow up healthily and happily. If you form the habit of lying in childhood, it will be difficult to correct it when you grow up, and on the basis of this behavior, it may turn into a serious crime. There is no doubt how important it is to prevent children from telling lies. Children have poor cognitive ability and strong imitation. Children lie without malice, but lying becomes a habit and the consequences are unimaginable. After recognizing the child's lying behavior, explain and correct it for various reasons. Lying is a bad behavior that children must commit. As teachers and parents, we must correctly face children's lying behavior, do a good job in educating children to be honest good children, cultivate good children who tell the truth and have good habits, and prevent children from lying.
(2) Teachers and parents should set an example to reduce the chances for children to follow suit.
Parents and teachers closest to their children must tell the truth and do honest things. When they have shortcomings and mistakes, they should boldly admit and seriously correct them, set a good example of honesty for their children, always set an example everywhere, and improve their prestige in the eyes of children by "doing what they say." Don't make promises easily and trick children. Quintilian, an ancient Roman educator, said: "In the long run, teaching is difficult, but setting an example is short-lived and feasible." Children are in the "atlas" period of psychological development. Children regard adult behavior as a kind of "atlas" and adjust their behavior according to the "atlas" model. Therefore, teachers and parents should take the lead in demonstrating. Confucius said, "He is upright and acts without orders. His body is not upright, although he disobeys orders. " Teachers' words and deeds have a subtle influence on students, and teachers who ask students to do it must first do it themselves. As Dostoevsky, a German educator, said, "Teachers themselves are the most intuitive and instructive models and the most vivid models for students." While children are carrying out excellent traditional education, parents should also strengthen moral cultivation, set an example, match words with deeds, and be an honest and upright person. Keep your promise and keep your word in front of your children, or there is an old saying, "How can you be upright if you are not upright?"
(3) Create a good environment and atmosphere, and cultivate children's good habits of telling the truth and honesty.
Children are young and cannot create a good environment, so they can only move in the environment provided by adults. Children's lying is closely related to the environment. Most of them are only children now. Because parents are busy with work, they often leave their children at home alone or at grandma's house. Because old people love their children very much, they can easily get into the habit of riding bicycles. Generally speaking, the younger a child is, the more he will tell his parents and teachers what he thinks and does. But many times, a child will bring bad news, which parents and teachers don't want to hear, such as "he has a fight outside", "his exam results are not good" and "things are broken". Hearing these words, some parents and teachers often scold him, which is very wrong. Doing so will hurt the child's immature mind and make the child feel scared in the future. Children are simple-minded because of their age. In order not to be scolded next time, they would rather lie. Therefore, in education, teachers should pay attention to close cooperation with parents and create a democratic and relaxed educational environment for students so that they don't have to lie for fear of being criticized or punished. In terms of educational methods, we should love but not drown, be eloquent and explain the truth, and treat them differently according to different situations; We should be good at listening to students' opinions and suggestions, be brave in admitting our mistakes, try our best to meet students' legitimate and reasonable requirements, and establish a good teacher-student relationship. We should be good at praising those children who have done something wrong and have the courage to admit their mistakes, so that rewards and punishments are clear. Teachers and parents should have a tolerant heart and tolerate children's naivety and ignorance with tolerance. Teachers should not always divide children into good grades and bad grades with high scores and low scores.
(4) Be good at cultivating children's honesty and integrity in various ways.
Suhomlinski once said: "The mind of the object of our education is by no means a barren land, but a fertile ground with beautiful ideological and moral buds." We can integrate honesty education into our activities. Children are lively, curious and interested in activities. So we can design some related games to cultivate children's education of not telling lies. For example, a children's play featuring "judge", "judge" and "liar", a speech by an honest boy and so on. In these activities. Children will naturally learn those things, and some children who often lie will know their mistakes from them, so that they will not hurt their hearts. Why not do it? You can also use examples to demonstrate. This method tries to understand how people relate to each other under specific social conditions. Their behavior, especially heroic model figures such as parents, teachers and peers, has the function of learning from examples. Model demonstration method means that teachers provide certain role models to students at appropriate time and occasions, and give positive comments on these role models, so that students can take the role models as their own action goals and learn from them, thus correcting their bad behaviors. The key to using this method is to make students really realize from the heart that the example is really worth learning, and to make students have a strong desire to learn from the example.
(5) Correct the child's lying behavior.
When a child is found to be dishonest and lying, don't think it is a misconception that "a leopard cannot change his spots", but see that this is a temporary phenomenon. Teachers or parents should not ignore or curse children who want to satisfy their wishes by lying, but should carefully analyze what children want, what they want and whether this wish is reasonable before making a decision. In this case, parents can't just look at the superficial phenomenon and think that it is a bad behavior for children to lie, so they don't want to punish their children, which sometimes deepens their rebellious psychology. On the basis of understanding, it should be reasonable according to the specific situation. If the child's requirements are reasonable, try to meet them. If the child's request is unreasonable, warn the child of the dangers of lying and patiently explain the reasons to the child. At the same time, when educating children to lie, we should also give them enough respect. Children have their own ideas, self-esteem and ideas. When a child is found to be dishonest, there is no need to get to the bottom of it, and there is no need for the child to admit that he is lying. If he has to admit his lies, it is nothing more than letting the child die. Or the child admitted his mistake, but his self-esteem was greatly hurt. Don't criticize the child in public when you find him lying. You should tell him the truth, then give him a chance to correct it and encourage him not to make it again in the future. I believe he can do well. Parents and teachers should also use rewards and punishments correctly, and rewards and punishments should be clear. Parents should also pay attention to the establishment of parent-child relationship, so that children can trust and rely on their parents and are not afraid of being punished for telling the truth. This can prevent or help to get rid of children's bad habit of lying in time.