When people are old, what they fear most is loneliness and trouble for their children!
When I used to work outside, my mother lived in her hometown county, and the living environment was not bad, but she was always alone at home, a little lonely. Video chat with her several times after work at night and call her to rest. It's not that she is tired, but that she has nothing to do!
Because of this, I always wanted to live with her and talked to her many times, but I didn't come in the end, because at home, people and things there are familiar to her, and here, strange environment, strangers and even strange language will only make her more lonely.
Let's talk about my parents' generation coming out of the famine. They have suffered all their lives and know the hardships and difficulties of life. So when their children are struggling outside, they will always be particularly "sensible" and never give them any trouble.
I remember once, my mother had an accident riding an electric car. Fortunately, she was not badly hurt. She kept it from me and didn't tell me. Finally, an old colleague of hers called me, and I didn't know about it. I was heartbroken that time. I was very angry with her later and told her never to hide it from me again. She promised, but I knew she wouldn't tell me that again.
what can I do? I can only spend more time with her, but how much time I have! It was not until she had a child that she was willing to come and take care of it from time to time, so that I could really spend more time with her!
The above are some of my personal experiences and feelings, hoping to touch and help you!
I am a fake, don't say anything;
After the age of 60, people are old and it is completely dark. During this time, the old man was really confused. Without the goal of life, the old man lost his sense of direction. How to go this way? Before coming and planning, they have entered the dark road.
When people are old, what problems should they care about and why? In my opinion, when people are old, the most important thing to care about is never to care about problems again. Because what I care about is what I don't need to care about. There is an idiom called "powerless". I have lost this ability, and my biggest worry is undoubtedly an empty worry.
In our circle of old people, many people are concerned about their future; What if I can't walk in the future? What should I do if I am sick and don't have enough money to treat my illness? What if I can't get up? I imagined many ways, but I didn't come up with a solution. Then why care about what hasn't happened yet!
We should seize today, live today well, and don't have to think about tomorrow. Keep it in mind; Cross the bridge when you come to it, that's all. Everything we are doing now is paving the way for death. No big deal. The last stop of life will definitely not fall.
Most old people think of their children. When the child is well, they hope to spend more time with the child, and then hope that the child will live a long and healthy life.
There are also many old people who are concerned about their future; What if I can't walk in the future? What should I do if I am sick and don't have enough money to treat my illness? What if I can't get up? I imagined many ways, but I didn't come up with a solution.
Actually, what I want to say is, when you have time, take your parents out for a walk. If you have a variety of activities for the elderly, you should also accompany your parents. Parents love us as much as we love our children, or even more. After all, the last generation of parents was not easy. Don't let the tree calm down.
Birth, old age, illness and death, natural law, old age, but at this stage of life, excluding accidents, everyone has it. Different social roles in different periods of life will definitely lead to different focuses of attention, which is normal.
I think when people are old, if they are healthy, their children have stable jobs and the economy is secure, then they should still care about themselves (the old couple). Of course, with the growth of age, it is inevitable that there will be various problems in the body, which is also a law. No disease, no disease, no disease. Take part in some beneficial activities, exercise properly and try not to be lonely and bored in your spare time, which should be paid attention to.
However, the society is pluralistic and people are hierarchical, especially the elderly in some remote, poor and backward environments. My simple description above may be nonsense. Because they may still be struggling for a living, anxious about their children's lives, and helpless for medical treatment. What I want to say is that the old people all talk about where they live, and the focus of attention naturally varies with the living environment.
Of course, regardless of the environment, the focus of the elderly may have a * * * knowledge, that is, the remaining years are limited, how to support the elderly and how to die. With the formation of an old-age society, most people born in the 1950s and 1960s are children, some of whom are around and some are thousands of miles away. Old people can handle minor illnesses by themselves, but what about major emergencies? My wife is still in good health. What if she is old, weak, ill and disabled? Call for help if you can! Some people say that in this case, it is difficult for children to be around you. What should I do or what? Ha ha! Yes, at least someone will know, because the saddest thing is that no one knows about the accident.
Other old people worry too much about their children. In fact, sometimes they add burden to their children, but they don't play a good role. The child grew up and got married. As an old man, it is better to pay less attention. Everyone will get old one day, and time waits for no one. When people are old, sometimes many things need to be learned to turn a blind eye and take care of themselves. This is the greatest help for children.
When you are old, you should seize today, live today well, and don't have to think about tomorrow. There is no need to worry about what hasn't happened yet. Living in the present is the most important thing.
First, the elderly feel safe.
Everyone will experience the process of getting old, and people will be lonely when they are old. At this time, the company of family members is very important, especially the other half. There is a saying that our children will leave us sooner or later when they grow up, and only our other half will accompany us to the old age. When I am old, I spend most of my time at leisure. I can travel and walk with my wife. When you are in a good mood, there is not so much physical pain and a lot of burden is reduced. My grandmother died a long time ago, leaving my grandfather alone at home is also boring, and I seldom go out because my legs and feet are inconvenient and my family is not around. Such an old man can make people feel lonely.
Second, the sense of security of the elderly.
People say that children are born to wait until our children grow up. This is not unreasonable. There are many old people around. They have no children, so when they get old, they can only live in a nursing home. Usually the Spring Festival is also deserted, because there are no relatives around. Families with children are different. When the children grow up and get married, there will be a family with grandchildren. If the old man is ill, at least someone will take care of him. My niece on holiday went home to reunite with her family, making them feel at home.
Third, have fun.
The spiritual life of the elderly is also more important, which is beneficial to their health. People live happily, and their mood is naturally different. If human beings want to live a long and healthy life, the first and most important thing is their mentality. People tend to get sick when they are depressed. On the contrary, people with a more cheerful life have different physical conditions. So now there are many activity centers for the elderly for them to walk, play chess and so on. When the mental state is good, the physical diseases will naturally disappear.
Health is the most important thing.
Although I am not old enough to be recognized by everyone, I will also find some concerns from the chat and observation between my parents and grandparents.
When parents become grandparents, they are very concerned about their grandchildren. They often call them to buy toys. There are always endless words and stories, and I won't feel tired. Every time I talk to my parents on the phone, the most talked about is about children's health, traffic safety, working at night and so on.
In any case, don't let parents worry about ourselves, pay attention to their own safety and health, care more about their parents and know their care.
When people are old, they are most concerned about their own money. How much is left?
They don't want to eat too much, they don't want to dress beautifully, they want to be healthy, and there is no way. They can only take medicine every day to get better, expecting their children to come back and counting the days. What else can they do?
There was once an old man with cancer who said a word before he died. My stomach is empty and there is nothing. He has been tortured all his life, and has been dead for nearly 30 years, without a good life.
If you don't eat or wear things when you are young, it's too late to regret when you are old.
Pay attention to your health and don't overwork. When you are ill, you will know the importance of health.
Money is never enough, there is no need to work too hard, and the work that should be done must be done seriously.
For caring old people.