Only by educating children like flowers, carefully watering, fertilizing and caring can children succeed. But in fact, not everyone can grow flowers. If you don't know, ask others for advice and learn the experience and art of growing flowers.
On the road of raising children, you will encounter many problems, most afraid of solving helplessness. Ignorant parents often make their children suffer more "suffering" and "torture".
For example: children with constipation, why eating probiotics has no effect? After the child is 2 years old, do you want to enroll in an early education class?
Cui Yutao, a famous pediatrician, used 20 years of clinical experience to extract the problems and misunderstandings in parenting from 65 real cases, so that you can master a set of healthy and scientific parenting methods from a medical perspective.
The core educational concept of this book is: natural parenting.
It is mentioned in the book that the natural parenting law requires parents to understand their children, accept their innate characteristics, respect and conform to their needs, and strive to provide help and guidance for them.
For example, how old does a child start reading? How old did you start learning math?
Parents often ignore their children's own development characteristics. For example, when a child is 3 years old, he is taught to calculate addition and subtraction math problems within 10, thinking that the earlier he learns, the more he masters, the better. However, it often backfires.
The core of the "natural parenting law" is that parents should master the appropriate scale according to the law of children's physical and mental development, and neither control their children nor interfere too much.
First of all, the diet should be correct.
A few days ago, my friend's 2-year-old baby was constipated and ate probiotics for ten days, but it has not improved. It turns out that my friend often keeps half of the probiotics in the refrigerator and eats them the next day.
Pediatric experts point out that probiotics can effectively relieve constipation, but only if they are taken together with cellulose (such as prebiotics). Probiotics must decompose cellulose to produce water, thus softening stool and improving constipation.
It turns out that in order for probiotics to play a good role, we still need to pay attention to these three points:
First, probiotics are not only afraid of air, but also afraid of burns. Rinse with water below 40℃ and take it immediately.
Second, avoid taking antibiotics at the same time, at least 2 hours apart.
The most important thing is the third point: provide food for probiotics. Parents should supplement their children with probiotics at the same time, otherwise probiotics may starve to death.
About the source of prebiotics, this book has a detailed explanation, which is not expanded here.
Eating the wrong probiotics not only delays the illness, but also makes children suffer and parents anxious, so how important it is to "eat right".
Second, know how to teach.
Mothers always want to give their children the best things in the world and buy the most expensive toys, because expensive things are made of good materials and babies are safer to use.
Cui Yutao's natural parenting law mentioned:
Rich materials do not mean asking parents to spend a lot of money to buy new toys for their children, but asking parents to spend more time developing them to help their children understand the world and adapt to society.
In the children's world, there is no value of money, and the best early education environment for children is family.
Real early education should be carried out anytime, anywhere in the most natural scenes, such as toy cars made of empty cartons and small dinosaurs, which will bring different life experiences and tactile feelings to children.
There is a classic saying in the book: early education is life.
It is very important for parents to understand the characteristics of children's physical and mental development if they want to give their children proper early education.
My cousin's child is almost two years old and can't stand yet. A normal child can stand at about one year old, but my cousin didn't find the problem until the child was two years old.
Later, it was found that the child's illness was a kind of cerebral palsy. This disease is one in ten million. If it can be found early, the effect of early intervention will be better.
Understanding the characteristics of children's physical and mental development can not only prevent children's problems as early as possible, but also allow children to get full development and training at the right time, so as to avoid the frustration caused by "overtime training".
For example, a baby of one or two months likes to look at pictures with obvious contrast, such as black and white cards. At this time, it is beyond his ability to show the child color pictures blindly.
Being a wise parent will avoid the hardships of children's growth and help them become a healthy person.
Finally, effective companionship.
Educator makarenko once said:
It is the most terrible gift for parents to give their children everything, sacrifice everything and even sacrifice their own happiness.
Parents are willing to devote all their time to their children if they can.
My friend Zhang Jia (pseudonym) works as an executive in an enterprise, working from nine to nine every day, often working overtime until late, and sometimes going on business trips on weekends, so he has little time at home, let alone spending time with his children.
One weekend, it was rare to rest at home, only to see that my mother-in-law loved her grandson too much.
When eating, the mother-in-law kept urging the children to eat quickly; When watching TV, constantly remind children that it is time to turn off the TV; When playing with building blocks, keep interrupting children to ask questions. Almost all care has become a "curse".
It is important to accompany children, but constantly coaxing and interrupting children is not the same as high-quality companionship.
The mother-in-law's excessive concern has turned into a nagging, which is not only useless, but also likely to destroy the child's concentration and affect the child's physical and mental development.
Efficient companionship does not lie in the length of companionship, but more in the investment and care for children in a limited time, and the physical and mental interaction and communication with children.
In Cui Yutao's Natural Parenting Law, the author not only taught the true meaning of natural parenting from the medical point of view, but also taught the common problems in parenting from the psychological point of view.
For example: how to judge the child's bloody stool? Why are children prone to calcium deficiency? How old is the child to have an eye examination? What is the order of tooth development? What living habits will affect the development of oral cavity? Even the complementary food for babies aged 6-24 months is attached to the book.
Rarely have I seen such a detailed introduction and a book written by an authoritative doctor. I was excited to see it for the first time. Recommend it to the treasure mothers who are trying to raise it. I hope it can solve the intractable diseases on your way to raising them.