Speaking of psychological problems, many people may think of depression, anxiety, inferiority and other "low-energy" States-it seems that people with psychological problems often show a particularly sensitive and fragile state, or a passive state towards Nuo Nuo.
However, people often ignore a more obvious manifestation: they are often extremely indifferent, difficult to feel, extremely irritable, extremely aggressive, arrogant, etc ... These manifestations also have strong psychological problems.
In fact, it is often such people who can cause greater destructive power and harm to others: because depression, inferiority and anxiety are more like "internal friction", the parties often face and digest negative emotions silently; But another kind of people with psychological problems, they are more common "external attacks", and their psychological problems will pull others to pay for themselves.
Moreover, this psychological problem of "external attack" often has less influence on one's life and work because it consumes less than the psychological problem of "internal friction"-so it will naturally not be taken seriously in an environment where the cognition of psychological problems is relatively backward.
A person with "internal friction" may not have the motivation to study, work or even live; And a "foreign attacker" may be able to go to work and live, but he will have many contradictions with his colleagues. When he gets home, domestic violence will occur ... But at that time, people did not have a comprehensive understanding of psychological problems, and they would think that this person was just a little grumpy, but there was no psychological problem.
So, is it really because these elders have no psychological problems?
No, in fact, quite a few of them have psychological problems to some extent, but it may be difficult to detect them because of their aggressive manifestations and the blessing of their elders.
This also involves another particularly serious misunderstanding: "forgetting that I have had psychological problems" and "I don't have psychological problems" are two completely different concepts.
Perhaps many elders did have particularly serious psychological problems at first, but they didn't get enough attention at that time and had to struggle on their own. Then, with the passage of time, they forgot that they had psychological problems.
Note that I said "forgetting" here, not "reconciliation" or "cure".
This is obviously different: forgotten people can't remember what happened to them, and such a tragedy will repeat itself in their children; But a truly healed and reconciled person can realize how bad this way of getting along is and will try his best to avoid it.
Therefore, when they have children of their own, they will continue their repressive education and high-pressure way of getting along, and they will firmly believe that there is no problem with this education, because that's how they got here.