First, the performance of children's mental health
Inferiority is a character defect, and the formation of a person's inferiority complex often comes from childhood. Undoubtedly, inferiority will have a negative impact on children's mental health, and it will also have a negative effect on a person's normal growth in both physical and mental aspects. Hoffman, an American child psychotherapy expert, pointed out: Parents should pay attention to whether their children have inferiority complex, and once they find it, they should help them overcome and correct it as soon as possible to avoid eventually forming inferiority complex with the growth of age. Hoffman also believes that children with inferiority often show the following early signs:
1, perennial depression
If children are often unhappy for no reason, it is probably because of inferiority.
Step 2 be too shy
It is normal for children, especially girls, to be a little shy, but if they are too shy (including never daring to sing in front of children, never wanting to show their faces, never daring to meet strangers, etc.). ), they may have a strong sense of inferiority.
Step 3 refuse to make friends
Generally speaking, normal children like to associate with their peers and attach great importance to friendship, but most children with inferiority are not interested in making friends, or are regarded as "scourges".
4. It's hard to concentrate
Children with a strong sense of inferiority often have difficulty in concentrating when studying or playing games, or can only concentrate for a short time. This is because the "lingering" inferiority complex is at work.
5, often suspicious
Children with low self-esteem are often very sensitive to the comments of parents, teachers and friends, especially the criticism of others, which is even more unacceptable and even bitter. In this way, they may develop to the point of being suspicious, always suspecting that others don't like them or blaming themselves out of thin air.
6, excessive pursuit of praise
Although children with low self-esteem feel inferior, they often seek praise from their parents and teachers more abnormally than normal children, and may adopt dishonest and inappropriate ways, such as cheating and cheating in exams.
7, belittle and envy others
Another allergic reaction of children with inferiority is that they often belittle and envy others, such as gnashing their teeth because of being praised by the teacher at the next table, and even staying up at night. Psychologists believe that this is a channel they designed to relieve their psychological pressure caused by inferiority complex, although it often doesn't work.
8. Give up on yourself
A large number of children with low self-esteem tend to give up on themselves, do not strive for progress, and think that they can't do it anyway, and it is useless to work hard. What's more, it may also show self-abuse behavior, such as deliberately running around the street, going out alone at night, and refusing to seek medical treatment and take medicine when you are sick. This seems to be deliberately putting yourself in danger or trouble. If I am accused by my parents, I will use "I am inferior anyway" as an excuse.
9. Avoid competition and competition
Although some children with low self-esteem are eager to get ahead in competitions such as exams, sports competitions or entertainment competitions, without exception, they lack the necessary self-confidence in their abilities, so they come to the conclusion that they will never win. Therefore, most children with low self-esteem try to avoid participating in any competition. Although some people reluctantly sign up for the competition with the encouragement of others, they often evade and are willing to "desert" when they formally participate in the competition.
10, poor language skills.
According to experts' statistics, more than 80% children with inferiority complex have poor language skills. They either stutter, or express incoherence, or lack emotion when expressing, or lack vocabulary and so on. Experts believe that this is because a strong sense of inferiority is likely to hinder the normal work of the language learning system in the brain.
1 1, unbearable to setbacks or diseases.
Most children with low self-esteem can't bear the pressure brought by negative factors such as setbacks and diseases like normal children. Even if they encounter minor failures and minor illnesses, they are often "miserable", and sometimes they even feel uncomfortable with accidents such as relocation, death of relatives and illness of their parents.
Second, the four major factors that lead to children's mental health
Parents may often find their children psychologically unhealthy, such as not playing with their peers, being timid, relying on others and lacking self-confidence. There are many reasons for these situations, which may be parents' educational methods, the relationship between children and teachers, living environment and so on. Below, I list four factors that lead to children's mental health.
1. Improper educational methods in family education
The only child in today's society is the apple of parents' eye. In the eyes of parents. Their task is to let the children eat well. If you dress well, you won't get sick. Parents are willing to invest in their children's food, clothing, housing and transportation. But neglected children's mental health. According to the survey of modern families, parents pay more attention to inculcating knowledge than cultivating behavior habits, paying more attention to meeting people's needs through diet and nutrition, and paying more attention to arranging adults than cultivating children's independence. Especially doting on children, obedient. There is no principle.
2. Parents' role models in the family.
Parents are the first teachers of the children. Parents pay attention to manners and temperament. Ways and means to deal with problems. Emotional attitude towards people will have a subtle influence on children. If parents are careless and careless, it is impossible to cultivate children from strict backgrounds. If parents often quarrel one spear after another, children may be timid; If parents often call a spade a spade and swear, children are likely to swear. Nonsense; If parents always scold or even beat their children, they are likely to have aggressive behavior. Therefore, many psychological problems of children are not unrelated to parents' own behavior.
3. Inconsistency of parents' views on education
Nowadays, many parents report that their children are guilty of lying. Investigate the reason. Many of them are not perfect in thought. Mistaking imagination for reality is like talking. Besides, some children do lie. When the teacher found his father, his father made a hasty decision. When the mother is found, the child may be beaten up. In this way, children understand the parents' inconsistent education methods and think that there are loopholes to be drilled. Over time, they will say different things in front of adults, or look at their faces. The bad habit of lying was thus formed.
4. Foster care for the elderly or nannies
Because parents are busy with work, they can't take care of their children wholeheartedly, so they ask the elderly or nannies to take care of their children. On the one hand, the elderly or nannies think that children have limited abilities and do everything everywhere; On the other hand, children are afraid of being hurt and restrict their behavior excessively, which affects their physical and mental development. Such as poor sports ability, not greeting strangers, not playing with peers, timid, dependent, lack of self-confidence and so on.
In short, children's psychological problems are related to their lifelong happiness, and parents must pay attention to them.
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