Xiao Fang's eyes were full of tears.
My mother was anxious and asked, "Did I say something wrong?"
Xiao Fang said, "From what you said, I heard you say that I was an idiot and did so badly in the exam."
Mom is confused. "I mean, it doesn't matter if you don't do well in the exam. Which sentence expresses your meaning? "
But Xiao Fang has been crying.
In the process of children's growth, adolescence is the stage of children's transition to adults and the only bridge in the process of growth. Psychology also calls this stage "psychological weaning period". During this period, children will consciously want to get rid of their parents' protection and are sensitive to their parents' interference and protection.
So during junior high school or high school, children find themselves less clingy and obedient. Sometimes I talk back, it is easy to express my dissatisfaction, and it is difficult to communicate. They seem to have their own opinions. Maybe the children have entered adolescence. Don't worry too much, the rebellion of adolescent children is a necessary stage in the process of growth. It is a manifestation of children's mental health.
Adolescence is a special stage in children's growth. If parents are prepared in advance, the rebellious sensitivity of adolescence may not be so obvious. Or it will pass before you know it. However, if it is not prevented in advance, adolescence will be impossible to prevent, and there is even no deadline.
Adolescence is not determined by age, and some people even have puberty all their lives, which is what people often call "giant babies".
Adolescent rebellion is obviously related to family education.
Some parents interfere with their children too much. Ask questions in everything and interfere in everything. Children are still very dependent on their parents when they are young, and they can accept their parents' interference. But by puberty. If children are forced to leave their parents and pursue psychological independence, they will deliberately stay away from their parents' interference.
However, in some families, parental abuse and domestic violence are more serious. Children are forced by their parents' psychological oppression, they will suppress their true feelings, deliberately ask themselves to obey their parents, consciously please their parents, and become a likable character. Such a child seems not to resist, but in fact, his inner pressure is very great. In the later stage of growth, once this pressure is released, it is likely to double in the opposite direction.