One day, I met a father and son at the park gate. A white-haired father walked slowly into the park with his son in a wheelchair. People in wheelchairs are tall and thin, and their limbs are stiff. He tilted his neck and breathed hard with his mouth open. My father is short and well-developed, pushing a wheelchair behind him slightly. The morning sun slowly emerged from the Woods, and they followed the faint traces in the sun, silently, with their own worries, and their backs were a little heavy.
The dislocation between father and son reminds me of Yu Juan's unfinished life.
Yu Juan, born in 1978, is a young teacher of Fudan University. Breast cancer was diagnosed in June 5438+February 2009, and died in April 1 1. Cancer is a watershed in Yu Juan's life.
Before that, she had a happy marriage and a successful career. Married for eight years, husband and wife love each other, and just added their beloved son, nicknamed Alpha. Her career is booming. She is a young teacher at Fudan University. After working for one year, all the projects she applied for were listed in international, national, provincial and municipal markets, and the future is boundless. Regarding the future, full of longing, she plans to regenerate a daughter, nicknamed Beta; She plans to apply for a visiting scholar at Harvard University. In two or three years, she will have an associate professor, and she will try to publish articles and do research.
After she got cancer, what she thought was a good life collapsed. Her favorite relatives will suffer the tragic fate of "losing their daughters in old age, losing their wives in middle age and losing their mothers in childhood", and she is powerless to change this ending. She has worked so hard, and the fruits of her life have not yet been enjoyed. Only after her illness did she understand that "people's happiness should be based on sustainable long-term life goals, and should not look at short-term fame and fortune." During her illness, she began to reflect on her past life and told the world what she had learned.
Unfinished Life is a "diary of life" written by Yu Juan during his fight against cancer. The content in the book stems from her real life experience and reflection on her past life. It is a life truth that she summed up from her own life, hoping to warn the world to re-examine the "meaning of being alive".
(1) The saddest thing in the world is that it is too late.
There are too many plans to complete, too many things to deal with, and I always feel that I have no time to do what I am doing and spend time with my parents. Anyway, life is long and there is a lot of time. Now that I think about it, it's not all right Only one day is a year, not a lifetime. Chasing and running around without a clue, once you stand and think, you find that your life is half over, and the success or failure in your hands is meaningless. Then you turn around and find that you don't have much time to spend with your parents and relatives, and you don't have time to enjoy the most important happiness. The greatest sorrow in life is this.
She also wrote: "Even if it hurts like that, I can't move. Every day, like a paralyzed patient, I lie at the intersection of Guotai Road and Lizheng Road, being reviled and trampled by thousands of people. As long as I can watch my parents and potatoes jump to kindergarten hand in hand, I am willing. "
(2) What is the most important thing?
Before the age of 30, I worked hard more because I had too much desire and persistence, and I was never simple to "just live". After life and death, you will feel that fame and power are nothing, especially fame. After all, it's nothing more than someone else's talk after dinner.
At the critical point of life and death, you will find that any overtime work (staying up late for a long time equals chronic suicide), putting too much pressure on yourself, and the need to buy a house and a car are all floating clouds. Spend more time with your children when you have time, buy a pair of shoes for your parents with the money from buying a car, and don't try hard to change a big house. It is also warm to be with the person you love. ?
(3) What is happiness?
Mei and I used to think that happiness could only be achieved by flying to the clouds. Having a sword in your hand is a pleasure to hate, but you don't know that true happiness is practical, calm and warm in the soil. One of us was lying in a hospital bed and the other was in a wheelchair, but we laughed more happily and stretched more than before. Live the truest self, have the truest affection, friendship and love, and appreciate the truest and purest tenderness from the heart.
(d) overcome it.
The personality characteristics of patients around me can't help but make me start to reflect on my own personality. I like my personality very much, even though a buddy half-jokingly said on the wine table that I must be a Shandong slut in my last life, I don't think so. I never thought there was anything wrong with it. After getting sick, I have to admit that there is something wrong with my personality: I like to be competitive, I like to do my best in everything, I like to lead the overall situation, I like to worry, and I don't want to do anything. Anyway, I didn't see it before.
Life is worse than death, narrow escape, narrow escape, life is worse than death. Suddenly I feel that life is so easy. I don't want to control the overall situation, I don't want to intervene in trivial matters, I no longer have opponents or enemies, and I don't care who is better than who. I put aside both topics and tasks for the time being. Everything in the world, watching flowers across the bank, the clouds are light and the wind is clear.
In this world, most things can be bought with money, only health and true feelings can't be bought, but this world is ignorant and often pursues the former at the expense of the latter.
The Unfinished Life is a book full of regrets and reflections. Standing on the line of life and death, Yu Juan peeled off those confusing shells in life layer by layer, hitting the essence of life and telling us how important it is to live healthily. Living can support parents; Only when you are alive can you watch your child grow up; Only by living can we grow old with the people around us; Only alive, there is a choice; Only alive, everything is possible.
When you feel confused or life is hard, when you are still worried about buying a house or having your children go to school, when you are still hesitating whether to work overtime and stay up late endlessly, when you want to start your life again and form good habits, you might as well watch Unfinished Life.
It will give you the answer.