There is a story in ancient India. In the tropical jungle there, people use a strange hunting method to catch monkeys: in a fixed small wooden box, it is full of nuts that monkeys like to eat, and there is a small mouth on the box, just enough for the monkey's front paws to stick in. Once the monkey catches the nut, his paws can't be pulled out. People often catch monkeys in this way, because monkeys have the habit of refusing to put down what they get. People always laugh at monkeys' stupidity: why not put down their claws and nuts and run for their lives? But if we look at ourselves, we may find that monkeys are not the only ones who make such mistakes.
Because they can't let go of their jobs and benefits, some people run around all day, ignoring their due jobs; Because they can't let go of attractive money, some people try their best to make a fortune by taking advantage of various opportunities, and the result is often complacency; Because they can't let go of their possessiveness of power, some people are keen on flattery and bribery at the expense of losing their dignity. Once it gets out, they will regret it. ...
Life is like a boat. The boat of life can't bear too much material desires and vanity. In order to make it not run aground or sink halfway when it reaches the other shore, it is necessary to take only what is needed and put down those "nuts" that should be put down decisively. Otherwise, we may become a Promethean without a soul.
Two. cobra
Gampopa, a famous yoga master in Tibet, once commented on the human heart: "If the heart does not intervene, it will probably heal itself, and the turbid water will not be stirred, so it is natural and pure."
One of the most important reasons for the formation of some psychological problems is that we try to modify the existing reality or internal problems. Because we don't accept it, when we don't accept the truth, we have a problem.
When we continue to solve problems in this habitual wrong way or try to simply surpass them. Our psychological problems are beginning to really happen.
The solution is that we must learn to accept all this, whether it is good or not. Once we admit and accept this, the problem will begin to be solved slowly. Patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder or anxiety disorder are often treated. If we can understand this natural truth, the symptoms may be cured without drugs. This is actually the core idea of Morita therapy.
There is a cobra metaphor in Thai Buddhism, which illustrates this well.
"Heart activity is like a cobra that can kill people. If we don't disturb a cobra, it will naturally leave it; Even if it is poisonous, we will not be affected by it; As long as we don't go near it or catch it, it won't bite us. Cobra will act according to its nature, that's all! If you are smart, don't mess around. Similarly, let the bad and the good go with the flow-let it go, don't cling to likes and dislikes, just as you won't provoke a cobra. Smart people will treat all kinds of emotions rising in their hearts in this way. When a good mood rises in your heart, let it get better and understand its true colors; Similarly, we also let evil be evil and let nature take its course. Don't be persistent, because we want nothing! We want neither evil nor good; We don't want to be burdened, relaxed, or even seek happiness and pain. When our desires stop, peace is firmly established. "
3. The devil's eyes
In most cases, if not all, we experience the outside world according to our basic assumptions. What we perceive is often our own projection. There are many methods of ancient practice that are not habitual and can help us overcome the polluted consciousness. For example, the unique way of giving alms to the body in Tibetan Buddhism is to gradually weaken the power to cover up our false perception. This kind of practice gives one's own flesh and blood to the evil spirits in the celestial burial place by practicing alone in the horrible areas such as the celestial burial place at night, thus arousing deep fears of human beings and enabling practitioners to face all illusions and their emotions. By realizing that all these fears come from their ignorance of reversing right and wrong, they gain the ultimate understanding and detachment. This is a law that requires courage. Now it seems that few people in Tibet actually implement this law.
This way begins with superstitious assumptions, and finally understands that superstitious fantasies are only a manifestation of one's own heart.
Once upon a time, there was a yogi who specialized in giving alms. He is alone in eastern Tibet, and he is trying to understand the reality. With the practice of body-giving, he can gradually overcome the illusory illusion, which is collectively called magic phenomenon.
One evening, his sister came to see him with a basin of cheese made in a clay pot. He happened to leave the hut and go out for a while. She waited for him to come back, but left and right didn't see him. My sister put the clay pot on the stool and left.
Finally, when the hermit came back, it was dark in the room, and the butter lamp on the altar was slightly glowing. Hermit thinks that the clay pot with cheese is a huge magic eye with a round spout.
As a brave yogi, he doesn't want to show fear. "Bah!" He shouted, "The devil is not important." Then he took off his robe and whipped the devil.
The stool turned over and the cheese flew out. Splashed on the dark wall, dazzling under the flashing oil lamp, magic eye suddenly glared at him from every corner of the room!
He kept hitting them with his shawl, but the more he hit them, the more he felt that magic eye seemed to be everywhere!
The result of concentrating on slapping and cutting off all delusions is that at the moment of Qingming, the yogi found that he had cheese in his hand. He suddenly realized how ridiculous he was and couldn't help laughing.
There is no need to destroy magic. I use too much philosophy to judge, but I don't need to observe common sense with my eyes, so I fool myself.
This story tells us that the illusion of superstition or fanaticism is only a manifestation of one's own heart to explain all superstitions and fanaticism, and superstitions and fanaticism are only psychological projections of one's own heart in position.
4. The story of a dog
A dog stood by the pool, dying of thirst. Every time he put his head into the water, he was startled to see a dog in the pool. He quickly drew back his head until he was so thirsty that he couldn't stand it any longer. He jumped into the water without worry. The other dog is missing.
The dog's obstacle used to be itself, but it became its own obstacle between it and what it sought.
When man discovered that "my obstacle" was "myself", the obstacle of "me" was removed, and he had conquered himself. -Ancient books from Sophie.
Things are not always what they seem.
Two traveling angels went to a rich family for the night. The family was unfriendly to them and refused to let them spend the night in a comfortable room. Instead, they found a corner for them in the cold basement. When they made the bed, the older angel found a hole in the wall and repaired it conveniently. The young angel asked why, and the old angel replied, "Some things are not what they seem."
The next night, they went to a poor farmhouse to spend the night. The host and his wife were very enthusiastic about them, took out what little food they had to entertain the guests, and then gave up their beds for the two angels. The next morning, two angels found the farmer and his wife crying-their only source of livelihood, a cow died. The young angel was very angry. He asked the old angel why this happened. The first family had everything, and the old angel helped them mend the hole in the wall. Although the second family was so poor, they warmly entertained the guests, but the old angel did not stop the cow from dying.
"Some things are not what they seem." The old angel replied, "When we spent the night in the basement, I saw the gold nuggets on the wall through the hole in the wall." Because the master was confused by greed and didn't want to share his wealth, I filled the hole in the wall.
"Last night, death called the farmer's wife, and I let the cow take her place. So some things are not what they seem. "
Sometimes things shouldn't be like this. If you have faith, you just need to firmly believe that your efforts will always be rewarded. You may find out later.
Some people come into our lives and leave soon. ...
Some people become friends and stay for a while … leaving beautiful footprints in our hearts.
Because we have a good friend, we will become different from before!
Yesterday is history.
Tomorrow is a mystery.
Today is a gift.
That's why it's called now
Take this little angel and don't let her stay away from you.
She is here to take care of your guardian angel.
Note: present means current, gift and gift at the same time.
6. Fallen King Kong is incorruptible
In the Tang Dynasty, Mu Chen Conglang, a Zen master from Wuzhou, was once in a temple, and the clay sculpture King Kong in the temple happened to fall to the ground because of disrepair.
A nearby monk asked Zen master Cong Lang, "Since this is King Kong's indestructible body, why did it fall?"
Master Lang knocked on the meditation bed and said, "Oh! This is because King Kong has the ability to walk, live and sit. It also needs to lie down and sleep. "
This is an interesting Zen case.
If we can combine psychological counseling, maybe we can have some ideas. When we set certain things as necessary, they may not be carried out according to our intention. Because our intentions are more from our own subjective imagination, "things should be like this, things should be like that!" " "But we don't necessarily think it is not impossible. Many things are actually part of nature. When we can understand that bad thoughts or psychological symptoms are only part of nature, then some knots will naturally open. What can transcend nature?
When we encounter problems, we often say that this is not the part I need, so let the problems leave quickly. But did the problem or symptom really leave? How can I have this problem? Do I have to look down on this?
Don't! The more demands you make and the more nervous you are, the more likely your problems will get worse because of your anxiety. Some problems are accidental, but if you start to cling to them and hope that they will disappear soon, then you will become stronger and stick to it.
And when you face the problem more easily and understand that this is just a manifestation of nature, things will become simple and easy.
Isn't any symptom a part of our body or mind?
Symptoms are just a situation in which the body and mind are out of normal meaning. As far as nature itself is concerned, normal and abnormal are not important. When you are completely integrated with nature, the problem of symptoms is natural, not imposed on you by something outside you.
When you face life like this, you will find that the problem is not so hypothetical.
It seems that King Kong should not fall to the ground, because it is an indestructible body in the design of religious significance.
From this point of view, the fallen King Kong must be mentally ill, but this outstanding Zen master gave an unexpected but reasonable answer-King Kong should also lie down and sleep. So the knot was naturally untied.
Each of us naturally accepts our own distractions or symptoms. Then you have nothing to treat, because nothing is imposed on you. If you impose it, it is actually your unrealistic subjective assumption that must and should hurt you. Nobody really imposes anything on you. So in other words, there is nothing to get rid of, because there is no real bondage from the beginning.