How can we make children's psychology healthier?

How to cultivate a healthy child? How to cultivate a healthy child? In daily life, parents should not only pay attention to the healthy development of their children, but also pay attention to the "education" of the next generation, which is the most headache and energy-consuming problem for contemporary parents. Let's learn how to cultivate a healthy child. How to cultivate a healthy child? 1 1. Good family atmosphere and parent-child attachment. Good family atmosphere and parent-child attachment are fertile ground for children's growth. It has been said that lucky people use their childhood to cure their whole lives, while unfortunate people use their whole lives to cure their childhood. Many children are under different degrees of internal pressure. If a child wants to have a perfect personality and a healthy body and mind, the most basic thing is to cultivate love from the soil of the family, so that the child will be rich and full of confidence and strength. Children with good internal order can better handle the relationship with the outside world and have enough capital in long-term growth. The survey results show that in early childhood, good family atmosphere and parent-child attachment can help children better understand their own and others' emotions, understand social rules and make good judgments on current facts; In adolescence, we will also find that these children have higher emotional intelligence and a more fair and objective view of problems, so they will be more successful in academic development and social interaction. These seemingly invisible factors have nothing to do with children's Excellence, but to a large extent constitute the internal cornerstone of children's growth. 2. Understand the law of children's growth. Only by understanding the laws of children's physical and mental development can we better pave the way for children. A few days ago, a mother I knew chatted with me and said that her son was admitted to the top of the city entrance examination. There is satisfaction in his words, but there is no lack of regret: "When we were young, we didn't know what to cultivate. The family watched the children play, and we couldn't help asking them if they were thirsty, hungry and what to play. Later, I saw that the child's concentration was not enough, and I felt that some practices at that time were somewhat misunderstood. Now that children are older, it is difficult to train them. You are still young, you really need to pay attention. " Many parents I know will share some experiences and lessons with me after the senior high school entrance examination. In addition to the cultivation of concentration, there are several common points. (1) Treat introverted and extroverted children scientifically. Don't force introverted children to be lively and extroverted children to be quiet. Children's innate temperament needs to be guided by the trend, such as guiding introverted children to learn basic communication and expression and find their own comfortable social scope; Guide extroverted children to understand the sense of rules and the feelings of others. If you pay attention to these things from an early age, children will not be so awkward and tangled when they grow up. (2) Less criticism and more support. This is really old-fashioned, probably almost no parents don't know it? Children's growth needs more affirmation and encouragement. But it was not until I had children that I deeply felt that although the truth is clear, the implementation of many parenting methods is a very big challenge for parents. When you are very tired, when you encounter difficulties at work, when you are bald with stress, when you are in danger ... at any time, children may bump into our guns. The premise of this is how parents can adjust themselves and live their own lives, so that they can encourage and support our children with their inner energy. (3) deliberately raise requirements and ignore children's cognitive rules. Especially in early childhood, I hope my children can study and train like prodigies. If the child's internal energy is excessively consumed, it will easily lead to the child's lack of stamina, which will eventually be a pity. (4) Understand the individual differences of children, and do less horizontal comparison. After years of contact with children, I often find that children who don't look good when they are young may grow up to be good. There are too many such examples. Therefore, parents should not judge blindly in early childhood, accompany patiently and cultivate carefully, and children will usher in their own gorgeous flowering period. 3. Stable and sustained investment in education. Education investment here mainly refers to parents' energy investment and education resources investment. Although most excellent children have the ability of independence and self-discipline, in their early growth, independence and self-discipline are gradually cultivated with their parents. For example, in early childhood, we often remind parents not to tell their children too many answers, but to find ways to inspire them to think. When the child asks, "How can I build this building block?" Ask the child, "What do you want to build?" "Which building block do you want to use?" Such enlightening and guiding questions can further promote children's thinking and make judgments. There are many such little things in life. If parents often consciously guide and inspire their children, their mental development will certainly be more perfect. On the other hand, it is sufficient educational resources. At present, the network is developing rapidly, and the educational barriers between large, medium and small cities have been eliminated to some extent. Although I am in a small town in the third and fourth tier, many students around me have been admitted to famous domestic schools and even international schools. Their parents also attach great importance to their children's educational investment, broaden their horizons and consolidate their skills, which is also very important for their future development. How to cultivate a healthy child 2 Parents should pay attention to their children from two aspects: First, parents should pay attention to their children's mental health and learn to see through their minds. The children who appear generally have the following manifestations: 1, easily nervous, troubled, anxious, afraid to associate with others, timid, timid, and always insecure inside. 2. Sensitive, suspicious, overly restrained, thinking too much, indecisive, attention to detail, perfect work, obsessive-compulsive disorder. 3. Some children are nervous and anxious, but what they tell their parents or doctors are somatization symptoms such as headache, insomnia, gastrointestinal discomfort and listlessness. Some children's psychological problems are hidden and difficult to find. The concrete manifestations are: things to be done are delayed, problems are always delayed, and some even go drinking, throwing problems out of consciousness and not solving them. 5. vent when encountering setbacks and problems that cannot be solved, and vent with acts such as smashing things. 6. A normal life of escapism. For example, sleeping during the day and surfing the internet all night at night; Tired of learning, wandering the streets all day or running away from home. Introverted, silent and pessimistic thoughts and behaviors. Second, to pay attention to children's mental health, we must first understand children, children's psychological needs and children's feelings. Parents need to do the following when educating their children: 1. Don't get too close to children. Children should be encouraged to live, study and play with people of the same age, so as to learn how to get along with others and master interpersonal skills. 2, don't care too much about children, it is easy for children to be too self-centered, thinking that everyone should respect him and become arrogant. 3. Don't praise your child too much. Children have achievements in doing things. Excessive praise will make children infected with the bad psychology of fishing for fame. 4. Don't get emotional with children. Parents should keep emotional restraint when getting along with their children. Don't be too emotional, it will make children sensitive and suspicious, emotionally unstable and timid. 5. Don't cheat and scare children, as this will lose the authority of parents in the eyes of children, and children will not listen to all warnings in the future. 6. Respect children, don't expose their shortcomings in public, and don't criticize or laugh at them in front of peers. This will damage children and lead to unhealthy psychology such as inferiority, timidity and escape. Invisible bad stimuli will strengthen children's weaknesses. 7. Cultivating children is conducive to cultivating children's self-esteem and self-confidence, and using various opportunities to help children acquire the abilities that they may master. This requires parents to have a correct attitude towards their children. This requirement must be achieved by children through hard work. In addition, let the children solve their own problems as much as possible. Design some situations that can promote children's success. Adults must be patient and let their children complete the activities within their power, and must not interfere or arrange, so that children will never feel the successful experience. 8. Cultivate positive emotions. Parents should cultivate their children's positive and optimistic mood when educating them, because this mood is an important condition for their normal psychological development and healthy physical development. Parents should set an example to educate their children and keep this kind of mood at all times, which is conducive to cultivating children's happy and positive emotional state. How to cultivate a healthy child? It is often said that children should "win the world". Under the influence of all kinds of "genius" stories, many parents let their babies receive knowledge education in advance, trying to achieve the effect of "early education and early talent". Is this really scientific? The research results of the Research Center of Changzhou First People's Hospital give a relatively objective explanation. Cognition is human's understanding of the objective world and guides human's social practice. The difference of children's cognitive development is closely related to children's brain development and different psychological characteristics at each stage. The brain is the organization with the most complex structure and function in life, and it is also an extremely exquisite and perfect information processing system, which is in charge of advanced activities such as language, thinking, feeling, emotion and sports of human beings every day. People usually think that children's actions are gradual. By analyzing the responses of children of different ages to different external stimuli, this study found that the development of children's cognitive ability is not uniform, and each cognitive function has its own development characteristics and laws, and is interrelated. Among them, the school-age stage of 9- 10 is the key period for the development of cognitive function. The development of children's cognitive ability has inherent laws, and different age groups have different cognitive characteristics. French thinker and educator once said: "It is natural to hope that children will look like children before they reach adulthood. If we disturb this order, some fruits will be premature. They will not be full, nor sweet, and will soon rot. In other words, we will create some young doctors and older children. " Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude is more in line with the law of children's physical and mental development. Educating children should be based on their characteristics and laws, and should not be encouraged. In life, parents often pay too much attention to their children's fever, cough and sneezing. There is nothing wrong with this book, because physical illness is indeed the number one enemy for weak children. However, it is not enough to simply pay attention to the child's physical condition. A truly healthy child needs not only physical health, but also mental health. Many diseases, such as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), epilepsy, conduct disorder, opposition disobedience, etc., will cause children's cognitive dysfunction, bring great troubles to educators and families, and are also the hot spots of current social concern. Therefore, we think it is necessary to discuss the cognitive ability of normal children and children with cognitive impairment in different tasks in detail and systematically, and it is also a cutting-edge research topic. According to the counseling situation of children and adolescents' psychological counseling clinic in Changzhou First People's Hospital in the past year, half of the children who came to see the doctor were ADHD. But there is no unified treatment method. According to the characteristics of each child, we must adopt an individualized comprehensive treatment plan, adopt biofeedback, psychotherapy and other comprehensive treatment methods combined with sand table treatment equipment, so that children can gradually recover and grow up healthily. Some young parents either don't understand the significance of natural expression of emotions to their children's mental health, or lack the corresponding patience. They often don't allow children to express their emotions openly and freely, especially when they are in a bad mood. They force children to suppress themselves, and some parents even use corporal punishment or disguised corporal punishment to suppress the natural expression of children's emotions. Parents should realize that keeping their children healthy is the need for their healthy growth and the responsibility that every parent should bear. Only when everyone pays attention to children's mental health can every child have a bright future.