What about ten common psychological problems?

Question 1: How to cure your sadness quickly? \x0d\\x0d\ Answer: When we are sad, our first reaction is to get rid of the bad mood, just like wanting to take medicine immediately when we are sick. But there is no "sadness medicine" to cure the problem, because sadness is not a disease at all, which is the best answer to this question. \x0d\ Frustrated, lovelorn, the death of relatives and friends, the loss of life, we will all be sad. If you lose it, you will cry. This is a normal emotional reaction, just like being laughed at by a joke. No one can stop it. Those who cry smoothly and those who are normal and sad will recover slowly with time. Often those who forbid themselves from being sad and want to stop being sad quickly are prone to get sick. In other words, being hurt when you are sad is a sign of mental health. On the other hand, not hurting yourself and not giving yourself time to be sad is the "source of all diseases." We all know that you don't need to take medicine for the common cold. Getting through it will increase immunity and improve physical fitness. Normal sadness, such as a cold, will naturally get better, but forced intervention will reduce your psychological endurance. So, if you are sad, it's no big deal. Just hurt yourself thoroughly and heartily. Time is the best healing agent, don't force yourself to pretend to be "nothing" at once. You know, people's hearts are bound to get hurt, and only sadness can make people grow. There is a lyric in "Beautiful Mood": "Only when you are disappointed and shed tears all night, do you understand that this is also a kind of luck". \x0d\ Question 2: Why do I always feel insecure? \x0d\\x0d\ Answer: In this world, it is estimated that no one will always feel safe. This is because we always have some worries about the unknown, afraid that we can't control it. We are always afraid that a strange fruit will be poisonous before eating it? In fact, if you really take a bite, you may find it quite sweet. So, if you feel insecure, don't make a fuss. This is normal, so are passerby A and passerby B, but please note that the more you dare not bite this fruit, the more insecure you are when you still hold it. There are two best ways, one is to take a bite and the other is to throw it away without looking back. Contradiction is the root of anxiety. Don't make yourself so embarrassed is the best way to ensure a sense of security. \x0d\\x0d\ Question 3: How can we forget unhappiness? \x0d\\x0d\ Answer: To answer this question, we can use "reverse thinking" to think "Why should we remember unhappiness?" There is a word in psychology called "unfinished events", which means that things that once made people unhappy will be recorded and left there to wait for their future self to complete. After losing my beloved dog, I keep in mind such unhappy things as making a fool of myself, leaving my friends and breaking up with my lover. A few years later, you have two lively dogs, become an orator, make new friends and find the most suitable person to get married. You have silently completed those things that were previously recorded as "unhappy" and recorded them as happiness. You see, unhappiness is not something that can only be forgotten. The reason why it doesn't want to leave you is to remind you where happiness lies. Unhappiness is some "self-test" we recorded, and we will solve it when we are mature. When you are 25 years old and can solve some unhappiness left by 16 years old, we can proudly tell ourselves "I really grew up"! So, if you are unhappy, you must forget it and leave it alone. You will solve it sooner or later. \ x0d \ x0d \ Question 4: Is my personality good? \x0d\\x0d\ Answer: There is no good or bad personality, and both introversion and extroversion can be good personalities. As long as you know your own personality, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, give full play to your own advantages, and what kind of personality will be welcomed by others, you will have a chance to become a good personality. For each of us, the only thing that determines our character is whether we know ourselves and accept ourselves. If you know more about yourself, you can know how to show the beautiful part of your personality and hide and modify the sharp part of your personality appropriately. Accepting yourself is to compare yourself less with others and try not to link the success or failure of things with your personality. "Character decides success or failure" is just a slogan, not life. The truth of life is "accepting yourself to decide success or failure". As long as you can appreciate yourself, you will know how to make yourself successful. Similarly, you will know how to make your character one centimeter beautiful every day. \x0d\\x0d\ Question 5: How do I know if the other person loves me? \x0d\\x0d\ Answer: Love is an emotion, so there is no measure. It is impossible to judge love by what you do. Love is not eternal. Maybe this person didn't love you yesterday, but it is also possible that he loves you today. So people in love, even if you know whether the other person loves you or not, what can you do? You just need to know whether you want to establish a lasting love relationship with this person. Whether two people can be together is not love, but needs: the need for mutual appreciation, the need for self-esteem, the need for material things, the need for being taken care of, and he will naturally choose you. But please note that some needs are met not by your efforts, but by the matching of personality. For example, some people just like to take care of others, and you happen to be used to being taken care of, then you are a couple. Don't dwell on the false question of love or not. Love can be created. As long as you can understand each other's needs, don't be too hard on yourself. Sincerity is not guessing, but feeling with your own heart. When you are sincere and have no doubt, you can feel each other's sincerity. \x0d\\x0d\ Question 6: I have paid so much for him, why can't I get something in return? \x0d\\x0d\ Answer: When we were young, we all accepted the unpaid contributions of our parents, and their demands were also very clear, that is, love. As long as you love them, parents will be willing to pay. Therefore, we always think that the formula of "giving in exchange for love" holds, but in other interpersonal relationships, this equation does not hold. For example, if you make a product called "I love you" and the other party doesn't want to buy it, he can even pick it up and play with it, and then put it down. This is his right, and no one has the right to force others to buy their own things. "I love you" can't be replaced by "I love you too". Willing to give is not directly related to having to accept. You give because you want to. If you don't consider whether the other party is willing to accept it before giving it, it is also selfish, and the other party certainly has the right to choose not to accept it. We all know that accepting others' efforts but not being able to repay them will make us feel guilty, so refusing is a very considerate choice. There are many things in this world, how much you pay, how much you get back. For example, practice makes perfect. But only interpersonal relationships can't be exchanged with wishful thinking. Only by not counting this account can we love happily. \x0d\\x0d\ Question 7: Why don't I have friends and no one understands me? \ x0d \ x0d \ Answer: The friendship between every two people is the same. Friendship is not a model defined in TV plays or books. It is long and dull, but it is also short and profound. Sometimes the definition of friendship will trap us and make us feel like real friends. For example, he wants to understand me, forgive my shortcomings, be loyal to me, and want friends. He can't think so much, just smile and extend a hand. Only by eliminating the definition of friends and giving others the opportunity to contact themselves can we open our hearts. One more thing, we need to realize that in our life, we will have many friends with different types and personalities, and each friend can provide us with different things. We can't ask for a perfect friend. We need to realize our "interpersonal needs" and "social support" among many friends. There is a saying that "no one can grow up with you". On the way, you will meet many people, and everyone will accompany you for a long walk, some for a short time, and some for a late night. Everyone knows a little about you, but they don't know you completely. This is inevitable and normal. When you try, \ x0d \ x0d \ Question 8: There is a lot of pressure. What about insomnia? \x0d\\x0d\ Answer: Stress is the driving force of growth to some extent. Working during the day, there is some pressure to improve work efficiency. But we should also give ourselves a timetable for stress. Just like our biological clock, stress needs a "stress clock". When we work in the morning, the pressure can be released, but when we rest at night, the pressure will stop releasing. When our study and work changes, or there are unexpected events, the pressure becomes greater, and the "pressure clock" needs a period of adaptation to re-operate. So it is normal to suffer from insomnia occasionally, and we can help upgrade the "stress clock" in some ways. First, wake up the stress when you are energetic in the morning. For example, after getting up every day, make a timetable and arrange something that can cope with stress. For example, if the English exam is stressful, you can plan to recite 50 words in the morning; If the pressure of unit assessment is high, then plan to do more work and sprint. Then at dusk, when the pressure becomes less, do some decompression things, such as eating delicious food, exercising, singing and watching movies. Don't wait until you go to sleep to decompress. In this way, when you fall asleep, your stress and energy are released. When you make some efforts to cope with stress during the day, you will not be so anxious and naturally fall asleep easily. If this week continues, a new "stress clock" can naturally be formed to regain the ability to sleep for three seconds. \x0d\\x0d\ Question 9: Does poor psychological test result mean that I am mentally ill? \x0d\\x0d\ Answer: A single psychological test result can't judge a person's mental health, just as a person's physical health can't be measured by weight. In particular, the psychological tests that automatically calculate the results on the Internet are mostly inaccurate. Psychological testing The investigation of mental health needs professional psychological investigators from authoritative institutions to conduct tests. A more accurate psychological test, first of all, has a large number of questions, generally above 100, and after sampling test, the reliability and validity are up to standard, and there is a relatively new norm. And there are professionals to explain your test results. And even if the psychological test results come out like this, it only provides a reference data for people's mental health. The diagnosis of mental illness also needs other indicators such as behavioral observation, physiological response and emotional response. According to China's mental health regulations, only the heart clinic in the hospital can make this diagnosis. Neither the counselor nor the counselor has this right. \ x0d \ x0d \ Question 10: Can you cure your heart disease by studying psychology? \x0d\\x0d\ Answer: Studying psychology can't solve your own problems, just as a doctor can't treat himself. Studying psychology can only help you understand yourself and some laws of people's psychological activities. Our psychological problems all appear in our lives. So it can only be solved in interpersonal communication in life. In the final analysis, many of our psychological problems are caused by contact with others, and we need to find the "right door" through our interaction with others, such as consultation, intimacy and social relations. It is impossible to have a concrete life verification by learning and reflection alone. All psychological professionals, when facing their psychological problems face to face, also want to find a psychological counselor for treatment. Therefore, psychological problems need to be solved through professional psychological counseling. Learning psychology can prevent some problems from happening.