Basic understanding: whether parents are happy in marriage or not will affect their children's physical and mental health development; A harmonious and happy family is conducive to the healthy growth of children; Children who don't get enough care in the process of growing up will encounter many problems ... Admittedly, these concepts are well known to the public-they hardly need psychological knowledge and training, but the concepts themselves are too simple, general and empty, which makes them fatal in practice-since they really don't know how to start, it is no different from not knowing these concepts.
The first change occurred shortly after the author contacted psychological counseling, especially after studying Freud's classic psychoanalysis. On the basis of a large number of clinical practices, Freud found that the causes of many neurosis patients are closely related to the trauma they experienced in their early years, such as sexual assault, parental abandonment, abuse and so on. Most of these painful memories are suppressed to the depths of the subconscious by the parties concerned, thus showing various symptoms. By implementing these suppressed contents through corresponding technologies, we can achieve the purpose of helping others. The author believes that based on empirical science, classical psychoanalysis first defines the time stage of the influence of family background-0 to 6 years old, which points out the direction for subsequent research. In addition, the theory also believes that the healthy development of children's body and mind is related to the relationship between parents of the opposite sex-that is, Oedipus complex and Oedipus complex that we are familiar with ... The family education thought involved in classical psychoanalysis theory can arouse the public's attention to scientific parenting to some extent, and even help parents accelerate the socialization process of their children. However, for the general public, the theory is complicated and obscure, and these limitations make it difficult to be widely used.
With the deepening of study, the author began to contact the theory of object relationship, and then changed for the second time. Scholars of object relations believe that the key to the influence of family background on individuals lies in infancy-0 to 3 years old. The mother-child relationship is of great significance to the physical and mental development of individuals, and even plays a decisive role-affecting all interpersonal relationships of individuals after adulthood. So, what is the ideal mother-infant relationship? Mothers can give their babies timely response and attention, including not only basic aspects such as food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also the satisfaction of high-level needs such as emotional comfort and companionship. These educational ideas have long been popularized in western Europe and American countries, and have been effectively practiced-greatly improving the physical and mental health literacy of their citizens. In my opinion, compared with the former, the family education thought of object relationship theory is easier to understand and practice-it has been tested by practice and needs further understanding, study and bold practice by parents and friends.
The third change happened recently. In the research, the author listened to the story shared by Zeng Qifeng, a famous consultant, about getting along with her daughter: after entering junior high school, her daughter began to show obvious aggression, and at the same time her interpersonal relationship began to deteriorate ... Through consciousness and reflection, Ceng Laoshi found that her daughter had realized her subconscious anger and attack-Ceng Laoshi was a typical good person in her daily life ... Therefore, her personal physical and mental health development was not only affected by her parents' consciousness. I was deeply shocked by the subtle influence of family of origin. At the same time, the author also felt a little pressure at first: the change of consciousness is still difficult to achieve, so isn't it more difficult to find it at the subconscious level? What's more, the reality is that most parents and friends have not received professional psychological counseling training ... However, as long as our parents can increase their awareness of themselves and their children on weekdays, they can still cope-if necessary, they can also discuss with professionals such as psychological counselors.
So, how does family background affect the individual's physical and mental development? In fact, as mentioned at the beginning of the article, psychologists still fail to give a more accurate answer. However, the existing exploration and discovery are enough to help us better understand the origin of family and become a qualified nurturer.