Maintaining a moderate psychological balance is an important part of mental health. Psychological balance is a kind of rebellious psychological adjustment when people are stimulated by the outside world, and it is also a kind of compensation for spiritual needs. Teenagers are in all aspects of growth and development, so it is particularly important to maintain psychological balance.
The art of psychological balance is mainly embodied in the following aspects:
1. wholeheartedly
Everyone has his own life goals, and the pursuit of life goals has become the driving force of life. However, the determination of goals is very important, and improper choice of goals will bring endless troubles to people. If some teenagers want to become star actors in the future, this idea is good in itself, but neither subjective nor objective conditions are available, and they just insist on pursuing it. As a result, the actor didn't pass the exam and didn't do well in his studies and work. Therefore, it is feasible to set goals by combining personal knowledge, creating advantages and social needs.
2. Be good at getting rid of regrets
It is inevitable that you will encounter regrettable things in your life, such as losing things, blaming your friends wrongly and using inappropriate words. After regret stimulates the brain, there will be psychological imbalance. However, if people are deeply worried about regret and have long-term psychological disorder, it will suppress people's emotions and is not conducive to the development of creative potential. Therefore, we should be good at extricating ourselves from regrets and making our psychology tend to be balanced. Ways to get rid of it: ① Remedy in time. If you hurt your classmates unintentionally, you should apologize in time and seek understanding; ② Psychologically "digest" regret, internalize regret into some reason and get rid of it. The result of this exam is not satisfactory. Calm analysis can be attributed to weak foundation or poor performance. I will do well in the next exam.
Don't blindly compare with others in life.
At present, the living standards of families have generally improved, but the differences exist objectively. As teenagers, we should form appropriate expectations according to the actual situation of the family, and we should not blindly compare ourselves in life to reduce unnecessary troubles. In this regard, we should pay attention to the following points: ① Compared with the rich and the poor, we can feel some satisfaction, and satisfaction is a kind of balance; (2) Turn this sense of imbalance into a driving force and catch up through appropriate channels; Carry forward the spirit of hard struggle, turn a blind eye to the phenomenon of "high consumption" lying on parents, understand that only the enjoyment gained through legitimate labor is meaningful, and maintain a high-level balanced psychology.
Step 4 be tolerant of others
There is a mutual demonstration effect in interpersonal communication, that is, everyone is influenced by other people's words and deeds, but also by their own words and deeds. Some people are good at getting along with others and have a good psychological atmosphere, which helps to maintain psychological balance. And some people have tense interpersonal relationships, and one of the most important reasons is that they are not tolerant enough. Tolerance requires being honest with others, treating everyone as the subject of an independent person, and respecting, understanding and caring for others. If you offend others, as long as you make it clear, you don't have to take it to heart. This will not only solve the unnecessary burden, but also win the favor of others. Of course, tolerance is not everything, but in general, tolerance is conducive to maintaining psychological balance.
Second, five methods of mental health preservation
Mental health care is not arbitrary. There are many health care methods recorded in Four Friends Zhai Cong, among which five mental health care methods are the best way to maintain mental health.
1. Nothing.
Generally speaking, people should be moderate, and the golden mean should not be done. Open and aboveboard, kind to others, helpful, can establish good interpersonal relationships, consciously feel at ease, calm and calm, beneficial to body and mind. On the other hand, if you do something wrong or even run amok, you will always feel uneasy, anxious and uneasy, which will inevitably damage your body and mind.
2. Don't ask for everything
"In the world of life, from small to large, there are often fewer good things and more bad things", so we can't be demanding of everything. Too high demand is difficult to achieve, which makes people pessimistic and disappointed, and even induces diseases. So be good at putting forward reasonable demands. When some needs are not met, we should enlighten ourselves, be content and never bother ourselves. In fact, some shortcomings can also inspire people to make progress.
Step 3 learn to be generous
Generosity is a sign of mental health. People's temperament is related to personality and knowledge, and can also be improved through study and exercise. The method is "patience with color first, patience with heart for a long time, practice makes perfect", that is, first learn to express tolerance and restraint, and then achieve psychological tolerance and understanding. Over time, you will become magnanimous, get used to things, be reasonable, let go, and not haggle with others. This is a valuable experience and worth learning from.
4. Be good at facing adversity
Life will always encounter setbacks, failures and blows, so we should make good use of adversity, "eat and drink without changing our fun." We can get rid of bad emotions as soon as possible, relieve psychological pressure and achieve psychological balance by relaxing, venting and dissolving, for example, pouring out depression to relatives and friends, or enjoying music to the fullest. People with will can turn grief into strength, strive for strength and achieve psychological balance at a higher level. For example, Zhou Wenwang was imprisoned and wrote the Book of Changes; Confucius wrote Spring and Autumn Annals; Qu Yuan was exiled and given Li Sao. Zuo Qiu is blind and writes Mandarin. Sun Tzu was severely punished and wrote Sun Tzu's Art of War. Sima Qian was humiliated by castration and wrote historical records. These historical figures are really good at adversity, thus achieving psychological "sublimation."
indifferent
Be prepared for danger in times of peace, be happy and optimistic, and satisfy small desires, which is recognized as a good way to prolong life in the past dynasties. Therefore, Su Wen said, "Being quiet and empty, following the true qi and keeping the spirit inside, is it safe and not sick?" "Take a rest when you are full, rest when you are broken, rest when you are cold and warm, rest when you are full, and rest when you are not greedy or jealous." This poem teaches people to be carefree, want less and enjoy themselves in order to keep their mental health.