So my answer here is not to give you an effective and quick solution to the problem, but to provide more perspectives for the landlord to pay attention to the relationship between smoking and physical and mental health. The purpose is to try to understand why people know that smoking is harmful to health, but it is so difficult to choose the view that quitting smoking is beneficial to health, and to seek some new possibilities in this new cognition.
How much does it cost mom to quit smoking? I'm sure you've heard about the difficulty of quitting smoking. Probably more difficult than "we understand a lot of truth but still have a hard time" I mean, man is not a machine, not a species that can be changed by a switch. For example, we know that "eating too much rice and flour can easily lead to obesity", but it is difficult to continuously control our desire for starchy foods; For another example, we know that "regular and moderate exercise is good for health", but few people can keep doing it.
Quitting smoking is much more difficult than self-control such as diet and exercise, because quitting smoking also needs to go through the pain of various "withdrawal reactions", and sticking to it by personal strength is comparable to detoxification in a sense. In fact, there is a view that all drug addicts can't really "quit". Even if a few lucky people can really quit drugs, they still need to fight drug addiction for life.
Before continuing to persuade my mother to quit smoking, we can first understand some withdrawal symptoms and coping methods, and understand the challenges and painful feelings brought by quitting smoking. Baidu quit smoking, right? You can also look for it. Here, smokers exchange feelings and encourage each other while reading this book. Sometimes you will see the complaints of smokers and realize the difficulty of quitting smoking.
I don't recommend quitting smoking. Instead, it may be a window to help you understand how to help your mother quit smoking in the future. But at the same time, it also helps you to think about what health effects this process has brought to your mother-are all the effects of this painful quitting smoking positive? If not, what do you and mom need to do to minimize the damage? Further: the meaning of health may be much more complicated than we can understand now. Mother quitting smoking will certainly eliminate some health damage caused by smoking on the physiological level, but the significance of health is not limited to physiology.
What did smoking give mom?
I write this question because I believe that in an "absolute" sense, if an action is only harmful to myself, then it is difficult to sustain it. This perspective helps us to understand why my mother doesn't want to listen to your advice-I believe smoking has brought her some unspeakable gains, making her choose to quit smoking so difficult. At least, our health is not as simple as the absence of any organic diseases on the physical level: many of our psychological needs are just needed for health, even if some satisfaction brought by smoking is at the expense of physical health.
Symptoms are a kind of natural wisdom that organisms use to protect us from deterioration-it is a signal that you need to see what you need to do to take care of yourself and return to a healthy state. But the dilemma is that it is not so easy for us to determine our own needs, and there is no ready-made answer to how to take care of ourselves. To make matters worse, even if you know what you need and how to do it, you can't get the resources to do it. In this case, the continuation of symptoms is inevitable. Just like a child who is addicted to the internet when he is in trouble, it may protect him from becoming a serious depressive at a certain stage.
Of course, I don't know your mother's specific situation, but this is a perspective to try to understand her specific situation: to understand what deep-seated needs she has to make smoking a "symptom", and if she can work hard on the deep-seated needs so that she can no longer rely on maintaining this symptom to protect herself from getting worse, maybe it will not be so difficult for her to choose to quit smoking. I hope you and your mother can discuss physical and mental health together and choose a healthier lifestyle. ?