However, when educating children about setbacks, parents should pay attention to the following points:
First, don't deny children casually.
Parents should tell the truth when educating their children about setbacks, pay more attention to solving problems, and don't set too many unreasonable things for their children? Frustration? Don't deny the child, so as not to dampen his self-confidence and affect his mental health.
Second, try to let the children solve their own problems.
When children take the initiative to accept challenges, but encounter setbacks, parents can give their children some guidance if necessary. However, parents had better encourage their children to solve problems and overcome difficulties by themselves. Because if children can solve problems through their own abilities, they can not only experience the happiness of success, but also stimulate their potential and enhance their ability to resist setbacks.
Third, use material rewards as little as possible.
Some parents give their children material rewards as long as they make a little progress. In fact, this practice is not desirable. Because parents give their children too many material rewards, it is easy to distort their experience of success and make them work hard because they want to get material rewards.
Parents should give their children more time and patience.
When children encounter setbacks, parents should not help their children because they feel that they are not doing well or doing too slowly, but should give them more time to think and explore.
After the child solves the problem, parents can guide the child to sum up his successful experience, so that when the child encounters setbacks again, he will face them more actively.
Parents can use the setbacks around them to educate their children about setbacks. Some parents may not know how to educate their children to face setbacks. In fact, it is not difficult to educate children about setbacks. In life, we will encounter all kinds of setbacks, and parents just need to use these setbacks to educate their children. For example:
First, use the natural environment to educate children about setbacks.
In the face of nature, human power is very small and pale. Therefore, parents can use natural crises in their lives to educate their children about setbacks, such as floods, snowstorms and earthquakes.
When parents see this kind of news reports, they can take the opportunity to educate their children to exercise their ability to resist setbacks. For example, watching the report of post-disaster reconstruction with children, parents can tell their children that although human beings will encounter many overwhelming setbacks, as long as everyone's psychology is not washed away, they can still rebuild their homes in the ruins.
Second, use the social environment to educate children about setbacks.
In life, children often encounter setbacks such as their own needs can not be met, or their ideals can not be realized, for example, children run for class monitor, but they are not selected; Children and close friends have contradictions and so on; Many children will be psychologically unbalanced because of these setbacks.
When children encounter setbacks, parents can encourage them to find out the reasons for the setbacks first, and then improve themselves according to the reasons.
For example, children failed to run for class monitor because they were not enthusiastic about class affairs. He can seriously correct this shortcoming and run for monitor next time. Because the child is too stingy, he has conflicts with his good friends. As long as they realize this and pay more attention in the future, there will be fewer and fewer contradictions with their friends.
Third, use children's setbacks for frustration education.
Usually parents should pay more attention to their children's emotional changes. If they find that their children are depressed, then parents should find out the reasons why their children are hit, and then enlighten their children and educate them about setbacks.
For example, children's mid-term exam results are very unsatisfactory, and they did not get a place in the competition. These are small setbacks for adults, but they will make children very sad. So parents should guide their children to face these setbacks correctly and let him understand? Failure is the mother of success? As long as he is willing to continue to work hard and persevere, then he is sure to win.
Conclusion: in life, parents should be willing to let their children suffer setbacks, and even consciously set some for their children? Difficult? Then encourage children to find ways to solve them themselves, so as to help them enhance their ability to resist setbacks, and let them have an indomitable character and become smarter and more mature.