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The source of this sentence is a sentence in the Analects of Confucius.
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"Only female thieves are hard to raise. If they are close, they will feel inferior. If they are far away, they will complain. "
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It's just that it's more difficult for wives and little people to manage and raise. If you get too close to them, they will become disrespectful. If you alienate them, they will blame you.
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What this article mainly wants to tell us is that we need to have a delicate balance between women and villains, neither too close nor too far away. When dealing with women, you should be a gentleman, not obscene. At the same time, we should actively join the WTO and make contributions to society.
Confucius means to teach people to be a gentleman when dealing with women. You shouldn't swear just because a girl likes you, and you shouldn't blame a girl for alienating you. Regarding Confucius' view on women, predecessors thought that Confucius despised women, which was actually a misunderstanding of some chapters in The Analects of Confucius. For example, "there is only one woman, but there are only nine people". Here, "one woman" only refers to the women in the harem, while "nine people" refers to talents from society.
In addition, Confucius emphasized actively joining the WTO and making contributions to society, provided that the country has correct political policies and governance methods. "Being an official" is not the same as being an official.
Creation background
Just reading this article may not fully understand the meaning, and it needs to be interpreted in combination with the background at that time. Confucius lived in a feudal society, and people's values and moral concepts were very different from those of modern society. At the same time, out of consideration for social stability and development, Confucius emphasized that the state has correct political principles and governance methods.
To annotate ...
W: Only.
Difficult to raise: difficult to get along with
Proud: disrespect, disrespect
Complain: to complain, complain
Enlightenment of life
This sentence reminds us to keep a proper distance and respect in interpersonal relationships. When we get too close to someone, we may lose their respect, which is often because we don't give them enough space and respect. On the contrary, if we are too far away from someone, the other person may feel left out and dissatisfied. At this time, we also need to pay attention to maintaining our relationship with each other. Therefore, when getting along with others, we should learn to grasp the distance and attitude, neither too close to lose the respect of the other side, nor too far away to make the other side feel dissatisfied and lonely.
I once had a friend who was so dependent on me that he contacted me almost every day and sometimes even shared some personal things with me. Although I have been trying to maintain our friendship, with the passage of time, I began to be a little overwhelmed by this pressure, and sometimes I was overwhelmed by her dependence. In the end, I chose to alienate her appropriately and let our relationship return to a more healthy and balanced state. Although it is hard to do, I think it will be good for our friendship in the end. Therefore, when we get along with others, we should learn to grasp the distance and attitude, so as to establish a healthy and long-term interpersonal relationship.