Until I was lucky enough to get a place in the separation training camp, after only four days of study, I changed from "I should be a tyrant" and "gambler psychology" to a person who can try to think of three effective ways to solve things, listen and understand hard, accept myself, and hope to grow into what I want through initiative. So what happened these days? Please come down with me and you will know!
When a person has the desire to grow, he can take action to grow, and this desire must be strong and have the color of "must". If he just wants to "think", it will only last for about three minutes, and then it will go away. If you are not a feudal fatalist, then you must know that, in fact, each of us can actively position ourselves, and then silently make continuous efforts to grow into what we want. In the process of continuous growth, you can take the initiative to get all the resources you need. You keep growing and gaining, and your inner motivation is constantly being satisfied. At the same time, the external things you need will follow-if you are in full bloom, the breeze will come.
The first day's homework is to write about the feelings of writing and fill in the form. At that time, the feelings written were relatively smooth, and I also thought of the example of taking the initiative to dance on stage at school. However, if there is no theoretical arm of self-awareness, it is more difficult to be forced to fill out the self-awareness form. I filled out the form full of doubts, and after filling it out, there were more question marks in my mind. At that time, I filled out the form for example. I listed the things that caused annoyance when the belt of windbreaker disappeared before going out. The self-awareness form requires three effective solutions to be listed in black and white, but I feel that I can't find a satisfactory one, let alone three effective solutions. In desperation, I asked questions in the group and my friends helped me out. Later, Yan Zhi @ Yan Zhi, a teaching assistant, said that I wanted to find the essence of the problem and recommended the teacher's PKS problem-solving model to me. I learned it quickly, and I couldn't find the belt in the future application-first find out what the problem is; Clarify the essence and key of the problem-go out beautifully; Once you understand the essence, you can start the solution around the essence, instead of focusing on taking it away, and it is easy to find three effective solutions. It's good to broaden your thinking in group discussion and use your peers' strength to solve problems.
Address of the first mission: Amway, active pill. Do you accept it?
Self and rational self are both parts of self, which can be realized by us at the same time and then separated. The ego is formed on the basis of fear, and then grows under the stimulation of insecurity and negative emotions. The consequence of the uncontrolled growth of the ego is that we will easily lose control of our emotions, which is harmful to ourselves and others. Perceptual language helps us to become active by paying attention to personal language with emotional characteristics rationally and consciously.
When writing about my feelings, I often find myself jumping to conclusions in the middle of what my colleagues and friends say, that is, I am "simplifying my thinking" and taking the influence of my parents' improper education methods as a reason not to change some of my problems, which is "shirking my responsibility" ... It turns out that my ego has passed so much information to me through language, but I didn't notice it before. As it turns out, rational I need to choose between stimulation and reaction. ...
I know this very well. Whenever I belittle myself in front of others, even if I don't think so in my heart, when I say it, I feel that my mood is obviously low, and my ego is unhappy and willful, so I vomit blood lotus as much as possible without hurting others.
The address of the second assignment: say something positive and serious, and separate the awareness language of the training camp.
There is no right or wrong emotion. Every negative emotion has a positive meaning. If we can find the positive meaning behind negative emotions, we can turn them into wealth and help us grow. For example, if you are not clear about your values, it reminds you that you need to be clear about your values and life orientation. The simple process of dealing with emotions includes awareness, listening, understanding, adjustment and action. When the emotion appears, don't try to control it or suppress it, but listen to it, understand it, and know that it is actually protecting us and giving us a sense of security, only in a way that we are not used to.
When writing feelings, I really want to say sorry to myself. Before, I always rejected it, ignored it, controlled it and never tried to understand it. I thought it was because of it that I was so emotional and miserable that I couldn't finish the task. Now I know, in fact, it just wants to get my attention and help me find the crux of the problem. @jojohu was very depressed that day. She asked everyone in the group that her colleagues asked her to do work that didn't belong to her. She didn't want to do it, but she was worried that if she didn't do it, she would bear the responsibility for the unfinished task, so she felt very distressed and anxious. So ask for help in the group. Among them, from the perspective of team balance and personal growth, Bobby at Night analyzed why the team refused to help others in an ineffective way. After hearing this, the parties expressed their joy, and I also gained a lot. Feel the power of peers again!
In addition, the course notes of @jojohu children's shoes are very detailed and serious, and also contain the positive significance of all the negative emotions that the teacher said in class. It is very useful in regulating the cognition of emotions. You can refer to it and learn. Address of the article: On the second day of the separation training camp, "I realized my emotions" and learned my feelings.
In the book "Bitterness in the Heart, the Body Know", it is mentioned that we can dig out those neglected and buried emotions through physical pain, learn to let go of the past, forgive ourselves or others, and accept the inner self, and the physical pain will disappear. I know an elder who has a bad relationship with his father. He suffered from stomach trouble, which was not cured until his father died. His illness actually healed itself. If you can only let go when your loved ones die, isn't the price of letting go a bit too high? Learn to forgive yourself and others. Maybe we did our best with their knowledge, talent and cultivation. Studies have shown that people who are fired will also feel pain because of being fired. Maybe the person who bothers you is also suffering from hurting you? If the heart is full of pain, the heart cannot be soft. Choose an attitude towards things, as the introduction says, we will control our own world.
The third homework address: separation training camp-look at emotions from another angle.
Faith is our firm view of things and an unreasonable determination. Everyone looks at the world with the colored eyes of faith, so faith affects our perception, our emotions and language, and finally it is reflected in our behavior. Our belief may come from the migration of family, school education and social environment, from the behavior confirmation of waiting for a rabbit, and from the thinking caused by pain. Once our beliefs are wrong, we will struggle on the road of growth. Finding the source of faith is not to shirk responsibility, but to reconcile with the past and tell yourself that you have grown up and can be responsible for yourself. We no longer need these beliefs to protect and guide ourselves, and we have put down these beliefs that may come from love with gratitude. Confirming belief: absolute demand, generalization, extremely bad, false belief: incompetence, helplessness and worthlessness are all unreasonable beliefs that we should guard against and correct. We should strengthen the correct belief that "white rabbits love fat geese"-
When writing about my feelings, I remembered something that happened for a long time but was still fresh in my memory. Those things are deeply branded with the above-mentioned restrictive beliefs and false beliefs. After what happened, it had a great negative impact on me and left me trapped in my emotions for a long time. Because unreasonable beliefs have not changed, past experiences have become a burden, which makes me feel heavy and makes me escape. Now I finally realize the irrationality of these beliefs and their harm and bondage to me, so I will resolutely abandon them and rush to the arms of "White rabbits love fat geese".
It makes sense to think about it. The worst thing is to think that things "should" be solved in a perfect and instantaneous way. It determines that the result of things must be based on their own expectations, so it is also a manifestation of not accepting reality and ignoring the internal laws of things. In addition, the PPT illustrations in the article are very interesting and novel-unreasonable beliefs are personified by her as Voldemort and must be eliminated. It reads like a novel. It's great. In addition, her other two articles are also very good:
Little devil, don't go! -the "signal soldier" who grasps the "self"
Embrace "Kaonashi" —— Discover the weird side of emotion.
The address of the fourth assignment: perceive faith and save the soul.
I was very moved to read Ben Ben's article. He bravely told his growth story to dig and analyze himself, and saw his high expectations and efforts for it. Through the article, I learned more about him and solved the mystery of the story that happened with his girlfriend in his self-awareness table the day before yesterday. Maybe I can never understand what kind of experience has created such a person in front of me, but I am convinced that everyone has done their best. PS, stupid writing is also very good!
After reading this article, I feel a little soft inside. The rejection and neglect of the ego can easily make us lose the map of our inner heart. Complying with our high expectations and forcing ourselves to be strong may make us behave well for a while, but we are not allowed to behave weakly, and not forgiving ourselves for not being good enough for a while will lead us to depression. Thanks to Bobby, this article touched me and made me want to hold hands with the ego unswervingly and go on happily. I recommend you to watch a TED video: Vulnerable Power. After watching it, you may have a new understanding of vulnerability.
He Laoshi and we are upside down day and night. After reading his article, I knew what difficulties he had overcome before he finished his study and homework in the training camp. It turns out that it is not easy for everyone who is eager to grow up. The article starts with the key words, starts from the origin of the separation training camp, covers the course content and the experience of my own lack of skills, and draws a perfect ending with the homework. In addition, the notes of the map course in the article are also good.
At the beginning of the article, I rated my degree of completion and satisfaction from four aspects: deliberately training my initiative, using self-awareness table and forming consciousness habits, constructing triggers of language, emotion and belief, and deepening six-element norms. From this perspective, homework is really naked goal-oriented and timely feedback, which makes people admire! I also optimized the self-awareness form and added options after each item to make it easier to fill in the form. The content of the cognition table is also of high quality and worth learning.
In jojo's article, I saw as detailed course notes as simultaneous interpretation, neat and pleasing typesetting, and the origin of joining the separation training camp, which made me feel that she was a meticulous and independent person. The article also reminds me of the training camp courses and life these days. I still remember my homework that I got up at 5 am and the class that I was still listening to in the early morning. Although we are all ordinary people, we are all trying to grow into ordinary people. Nothing is happier than having a partner to grow up with. Come along.
We often discuss and study in groups. When you throw a question, you will receive an answer from someone else's perspective. The resources provided by others to solve problems broaden your own thinking and prove that everyone's resources are rich, as long as you ask for them. When others throw questions, they will immediately use their brains to think, hoping to help others, which is also very rewarding. Group discussion is temperature, depth and strength, and it is a good form for learning and making progress together.
After reading some articles selected from the previous excellent students' homework, I found that everyone's content is very detailed, with their own thinking and high standards and requirements. I think, probably everyone decides the height of life by established standards, and the attitude of doing one thing is the attitude of doing everything.
I feel that aliss loves good altruism and peer strength. If she doesn't have the spirit of helping others, it is impossible to notice, let alone take the initiative to analyze the problem of filling out the companion form and give reasonable suggestions. I admire her analytical ability and ability to help others, and I hope I can improve my thinking ability and try my best to help others.
At the beginning, we have a sense of growth and want to do a lot of things, but we have no ability, so we should start simple and gradually improve our ability. In this process, you must endure the anxiety and pain caused by the unequal consciousness and ability, adjust your cognition of emotions, find the positive meaning behind emotions, and stick to it. Time will give you what you want.
It turns out that everyone will have unreasonable beliefs and all kinds of negative emotions, even if they are as capable as teachers. If you don't deliberately break unreasonable beliefs, adjust your emotional cognition and accept yourself, you will eventually be unable to grow rapidly because of too much internal friction. Therefore, it is a lifelong task to listen to the ego, understand the ego and accept the ego.
After deliberate language awareness training, I found that my ego has a preference for "simplified thinking". Words like "absolutely right" and "anyway" often appear in my mouth, showing impatience, unwillingness to listen, eagerness to draw conclusions or impose my own views on others. I can't help sweating. I thought it was just my impatience, but I didn't know it was a sign of ego expansion. I really need to pay more attention in the future.
After the deliberate training of emotional perception, I found that it was useless and dangerous for me to suppress or release negative emotions in the past. Instead of becoming the wealth of learning experience, I became a mine buried in my subconscious or a mine that was bombed. I need to force myself to find the positive meaning behind negative emotions, but after all, I know there is an essential difference between doing and not doing, so I will continue to endure a painful stage of self-consciousness and incompetence.
After the deliberate training of faith, I found that there are not only beliefs that I am familiar with and firmly believe, but also restrictive concepts and misconceptions. Forcing yourself to replace these beliefs, there is always a very uncomfortable feeling, and there are some doubts in the subconscious, which shows that the old beliefs are deeply rooted. But when I read the correct beliefs silently or aloud, I will feel a positive power and a feeling of happiness, that is, I can complete any dream if I want. So the future is so bright, even if the road is tortuous, we still have to go on.
Proactive is an attitude and behavior that takes full responsibility for one's own growth. Don't put the blame on others, the past and the environment, but think about what I can do better; Strive to gain experience from past and present experiences in order to better cope with the future; Contact with people who are actively growing up and stay away from "people who pretend to sleep"; Do things with a "must do" mentality, be goal-oriented, do your best, and boldly ask others for help to obtain resources; Take the initiative to find your own life position and then live the life you want. Being proactive is definitely not a comfortable state, nor is it an easy behavior, because discomfort means growth, because hard work means progress.
When the mentality of facing problems is no longer passive avoidance, but active, what can stop me from running towards my dream?
As a free training camp, it is really unexpected that the separation training camp can reach such a high level. The arrangement of course content has gradually changed from perceptual language to perceptual belief. With the deepening of the course, the previous doubts have been uncovered a little bit. During the course, Mr. Yong Cheng has a fixed question and answer time every day, which is very professional, accurate and patient.
At the same time, the course also made me realize the magic of peer strength. The team members are all very hard-working and excellent. When I want to be perfunctory, I think that my friends are still working hard, and I will also cheer up and continue to struggle. Teaching assistant @ Yan Zhi is very caring and responsible. Every time our article is submitted, she always receives her long comments. She praised the merits of everyone's articles and encouraged everyone. In fact, we look forward to her comments every time we hand in our homework. Usually, if you have any questions about your courses or work, you will put them in a group to discuss, support each other and make fun of each other, forming an emotional circle, and * * * will grow together with your efforts. I have gained a lot from my study these days, thanks to the separation training camp and small group members @ Luminous Bobby, @ Zhiyan @jojohu @ Benben @ Bao Girl @ He Zengwei.
A training camp worth visiting. Don't miss it when you pass by. You may be abused in just a few days, but you will gain an upgraded self. You are eager to grow up, so don't miss it.
Address of the first mission: Amway, active pill. Do you accept it?
The address of the second assignment: say something positive and serious, and separate the awareness language of the training camp.
The third homework address: separation training camp-look at emotions from another angle.
The address of the fourth assignment: perceive faith and save the soul.
The feeling of reading meta-norms: Have you learned these three routines on the road to growth?
Article address: Q&A summary of leaving course
The end of the separation training camp is only a node on the road to growth, not the end. This road is still very long. I was an excellent student in the habit training camp of Orange College in September, so I feel very positive. I didn't expect to come to the separation training camp and find a group of partners who are much better than me. Everyone's behavior and consciousness seem to open the door to a new world for me, so I have to continue to work hard and be equal to excellent people. Finally, take this sentence as the end of the article, give it to everyone and encourage yourself.
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