In life and work, stress is everywhere. Pressure is often multifaceted, including work pressure, life pressure, social pressure and so on.
The first is work stress. The main factors causing work pressure are: too high target requirements; High-intensity labor, whether it is fatigue or labor; Psychological conflict that career and family can't have both; The interpersonal relationship with superiors, colleagues and subordinates is tense; Organizational changes such as mergers and acquisitions, restructuring, and layoffs: fear of unemployment, lack of sense of belonging, and anxiety about job prospects.
Secondly, the pressure of life. Hemmes, a famous American psychiatrist, listed 43 kinds of life crisis events. According to the degree of influence on stress, it mainly includes: death of spouse, divorce, separation of husband and wife, detention, death of family members, trauma or illness, marriage, dismissal, remarriage and retirement.
Finally, social pressure. At present, the rapid changes of social development have had a huge "psychological impact" on people. Alvin toffler, one of the most influential social thinkers in the world today, said in his masterpiece Future Shock that psychological shock is "the phenomenon that people feel stressed, confused and at a loss after experiencing too many changes in a very short time".
In today's China, people seem to have entered a "time tunnel" and experienced rapid changes in social life style in a short period of time in a compressed way, such as changes in social status, economic strength, living conditions, financial problems, housing problems and employment problems, which will inevitably bring people great pressure experience.
Moderate stress is beneficial. As the saying goes: "A well without pressure does not produce oil, and a man without pressure is light."
Moderate stress can promote a person's progress and success in his career. But excessive stress is harmful.
At MIT, someone once did such an interesting experiment:
The experimenter surrounded a small pumpkin with many iron rings to see how much pressure the pumpkin could bear when it grew up.
At first, they estimated that pumpkins could withstand up to 500 pounds of pressure. However, in the first month of the experiment, they found that the pressure on the pumpkin had reached 500 pounds.
In the second month, the pumpkin still grew normally under the pressure of 1500 kg. When it was subjected to 2000 pounds of pressure, the researchers were surprised to find that the iron ring was opened and they had to reinforce it. It was not until the whole pumpkin was stressed by more than 5000 kilograms that the pumpkin skin broke. Open the cracked pumpkin. The researchers confirmed that it was inedible.
Probably to break through the iron ring that surrounds it, this pumpkin is full of tough and strong fiber layers. In order to absorb sufficient nutrients, its roots also extend in all directions, with a length of more than 2.5 meters.
A pumpkin, which looks tender and crisp at ordinary times, can become so tough after environmental changes, and it bears unimaginable great pressure. The enlightenment it gives us is that stress is not a bad thing, and moderate stress can make us stronger and better. More importantly, it can inspire our unlimited potential. The release of this potential can bring imagination and creativity in work.
At the same time, this example also shows that excessive pressure is harmful. Studies have proved that the harm of stress to people is a process similar to "boiling frogs in warm water". It's not like when our body gets an electric shock, it suddenly hurts or paralyzes, and then causes a strong reaction, which makes people alert quickly. The erosion and injury caused by stress are vague and belong to less obvious stimulation. Even though it sometimes gives us a feeling of pain, the pain appears in a slow way. It is this kind of casual corrosion and injury that has accumulated over time and deepened continuously, making many overwhelmed people feel physically and mentally exhausted and even on the road of no return.
Therefore, decompression is imperative. Through decompression, our boat of life can go into battle lightly, our mind can get peace again, and our feet are full of strength and move forward quickly!
As professionals, we should start to release pressure from the following aspects.
(1) Don't be too demanding of perfection, and establish a good professional mentality. When designing a career, don't be too demanding of perfection, but establish a career development goal that is suitable for you, measurable, achievable and realistic. It will put us in the best position, not out of reach because of high positioning, nor will it be easily obtained because of low positioning. People's occupational stress is too great, which mostly comes from their strong desire for perfection. A psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania in the United States found through psychological research that people who are excessively "eager for perfection" always have the character of pursuing perfection. They are prone to panic in their work, study and life, which leads to a decline in their ability, inability to complete tasks well, emotional disorders and even damage to their health. In fact, it is very difficult to be perfect. Remember "Don't be too perfect".
(2) Enhance self-confidence and improve the ability to resist pressure. There is a non-Marion effect in psychology, which means to give the object a psychological hint: you are fine, you can do better. Let the target know themselves, tap their potential, turn pressure into motivation, and quickly adapt to the needs of the post. In the competitive environment where the strong survive, the Ommali effect is definitely the most effective panacea. Strengthening self-confidence is the fulcrum of stress management. Only when you have confidence in your work can you withstand the pressure.
(3) Establish good interpersonal relationships and actively seek family and social support. When a person encounters psychological pressure, he can get effective help from family and social support. The level of social support will directly affect the mental health level of individuals. The higher the level of social support, the higher the level of mental health, the higher the subjective well-being and the less psychological symptoms. So we should pay attention to family life and communication with relatives and friends. Learn how to build a harmonious relationship with others. The beauty of life is the beauty of human feelings, and the richness of life is the richness of interpersonal relationships.
(4) Cultivate hobbies and exercise properly. When the pressure of professionals is too great, it can be adjusted through behavior changes. Davidson, a master of stress management, wrote in the book A Complete Fool's Manual-How to Relieve Stress that it is essential to cultivate an interest or hobby if you want to breathe freely in a stressful environment. It can be the concentration and relaxation of forgetting myself in a certain period of time and in a certain field. You can also take part in sports when you are nervous. For example, you can hold your head high and strut into the "outbreak", do muscle relaxation training, take a walk and take a deep breath, and plan a long trip. The researchers found that after 30 minutes of cycling, the stress level of the subjects dropped by 25%.
(5) Learn humor and use humor to resist the invasion of pressure. Humorous language can make the social atmosphere relaxed and harmonious, which is conducive to communication and can relieve fatigue and stress. People often realize that a humorous remark and an interesting story can not only bring happiness to others, but also make them feel tired and smile.
Humor has the function of psychological adjustment. It can stabilize the mood, enliven the atmosphere, and at the same time, as a psychological defense mechanism, make people in depression and hardship relax their tension, relieve their psychological pressure, ease their inner conflicts, eliminate their inner tension and depression, liberate their repressed emotions, and adjust and maintain their mental health. Therefore, when we encounter difficulties, setbacks and misfortunes, we should not always sigh, feel sorry for ourselves and be unhappy. Learn humor, try to find and get in touch with humorous things, and use humor to suppress negative emotions such as sadness, sadness, frustration and anger.
(6) Let go of some things to lighten the mental burden. Everyone's "psychological volume" has a certain limit, and not everything can be put in. Just like a cup full of water, you can only put other things in it if you pour out the water inside. So should our hearts. We are all ordinary people, and it is impossible to filter out everything that will burden the soul. Therefore, we need to do a general cleaning of the mind, remove some things that should be put down, reduce the load on the mind, restore the true nature of the mind and experience real relaxation.
A person feels overwhelmed by daily life and has no fun at all. So he went to consult a respected philosopher.
The philosopher carried a bamboo basket on his shoulder and said, "Put it on your back and go on your way. Every step you take, you should pick up a stone from the roadside and put it in to see how you feel. "
Confused as he was, the man did as the philosopher said. Unexpectedly, after just a few hundred steps, he felt too heavy to bear, because the bamboo basket was full of heavy stones.
"Know why you are unhappy every day? It's because your back is too heavy. It suppresses the joy of your life. "
The philosopher took the stones out of the bamboo basket one by one. He said that this piece is fame, this piece is wealth, this piece is petty, and this piece is haggle over every ounce ... When most of the stones are thrown away, this person feels very relaxed when he walks with a bamboo basket.
It turns out that relaxation is as simple as that, as long as we can put it down. Put it down, just to be honest.
Don't always keep unhappy things in your heart, otherwise it will only make you more unhappy. Calmly and calmly face some unhappy things; Let go of trivial matters in work and life; For some grievances, no longer pester, no longer give yourself trouble for no reason. As long as you put it down, you will feel inexplicably relaxed and have a feeling of relief. How many days of pain and trouble, loss and uncertainty suddenly disappeared. When we got out of the predicament, everything was so relaxed and beautiful. Not only is life beautiful, but work is also better.
Finally, I hope everyone will take their work seriously, adjust themselves and have their own happiness.
A person feels overwhelmed by daily life and has no fun at all. So he went to consult a respected philosopher.
The philosopher carried a bamboo basket on his shoulder and said, "Put it on your back and go on your way. Every step you take, you should pick up a stone from the roadside and put it in to see how you feel. "
Confused as he was, the man did as the philosopher said. Unexpectedly, after just a few hundred steps, he felt too heavy to bear, because the bamboo basket was full of heavy stones.
"Know why you are unhappy every day? It's because your back is too heavy. It suppresses the joy of your life. "
The philosopher took the stones out of the bamboo basket one by one. He said that this piece is fame, this piece is wealth, this piece is petty, and this piece is haggle over every ounce ... When most of the stones are thrown away, this person feels very relaxed when he walks with a bamboo basket.
It turns out that relaxation is as simple as that, as long as we can put it down. Put it down, just to be honest.
Don't always keep unhappy things in your heart, otherwise it will only make you more unhappy. Calmly and calmly face some unhappy things; Let go of trivial matters in work and life; For some grievances, no longer pester, no longer give yourself trouble for no reason. As long as you put it down, you will feel inexplicably relaxed and have a feeling of relief. How many days of pain and trouble, loss and uncertainty suddenly disappeared. When we got out of the predicament, everything was so relaxed and beautiful. Not only is life beautiful, but work is also better.
Finally, I hope everyone will take their work seriously, adjust themselves and have their own happiness.
A person feels overwhelmed by daily life and has no fun at all. So he went to consult a respected philosopher.
The philosopher carried a bamboo basket on his shoulder and said, "Put it on your back and go on your way. Every step you take, you should pick up a stone from the roadside and put it in to see how you feel. "
Confused as he was, the man did as the philosopher said. Unexpectedly, after just a few hundred steps, he felt too heavy to bear, because the bamboo basket was full of heavy stones.
"Know why you are unhappy every day? It's because your back is too heavy. It suppresses the joy of your life. "
The philosopher took the stones out of the bamboo basket one by one. He said that this piece is fame, this piece is wealth, this piece is petty, and this piece is haggle over every ounce ... When most of the stones are thrown away, this person feels very relaxed when he walks with a bamboo basket.
It turns out that relaxation is as simple as that, as long as we can put it down. Put it down, just to be honest.
Don't always keep unhappy things in your heart, otherwise it will only make you more unhappy. Calmly and calmly face some unhappy things; Let go of trivial matters in work and life; For some grievances, no longer pester, no longer give yourself trouble for no reason. As long as you put it down, you will feel inexplicably relaxed and have a feeling of relief. How many days of pain and trouble, loss and uncertainty suddenly disappeared. When we got out of the predicament, everything was so relaxed and beautiful. Not only is life beautiful, but work is also better.
Finally, I hope everyone will take their work seriously, adjust themselves and have their own happiness.
When we feel that the bad habit of procrastination is creeping up on us, we all need to use this sentence to remind ourselves.
Schwartz, an American management expert, said: "We must compromise on the perfection of one thing, so as not to fall into the quagmire of waiting forever to act." If you stay in the planning stage of starting a business all day, it will always be a dream and will not become a reality. No matter what we do, once we have a good idea, we should act immediately and never delay!
However, people are used to looking forward and putting things off. They are always willing to enjoy the last comfort before taking action, and then want to continue to enjoy it after taking a break, so that they haven't started to take action until the deadline.
Procrastination can't make the problem disappear, let alone make it simple. As the completion deadline approaches, our work pressure will increase day by day. This will not only make us feel physically and mentally exhausted, but also make the problem from small to large, from simple to complex, and it will become more and more difficult to solve. To make matters worse, no one will bear the loss of delay for us, and the consequences can only be borne by ourselves.
Besides, procrastination will erode our will and mind and hinder our potential. Procrastinators often fall into a vicious circle of "procrastination → inefficiency+emotional distress → procrastination".
For this reason, we often feel distressed, remorse and regret, but we are unable to extricate ourselves, and as a result, we have achieved nothing.
The only way to avoid procrastination is to act immediately.
Many people always like to wait until all the conditions are met before acting. It is true that the conditions for success are ripe, but this does not mean that we can only take action when the conditions are ripe. Waiting for it to happen will only waste time. Goals need to be proved by actions, and dreams need to be realized by actions.
The most important rule of West Point Military Academy is: Act immediately! If you never act, you will be empty forever. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. A hundred visionaries are not worth one doer!
All the inventions in the world are put into action after people boldly imagine them. The seismograph was actively explored and invented by Zhang Heng. Without Copernicus' observation day after day, Heliocentrism could not have come out; The New World of America was also discovered after Columbus's more than two months' voyage at sea. ...
Indeed, the establishment and development of the great cause of life lies not only in knowledge, but also in ability.
A long time ago, a monk from the north decided to go to the South China Sea. After making up his mind, he decided to go despite difficulties such as poor family and long journey.
On the way, the monk went to a rich family for alms. When the rich man learned the purpose of his trip, he couldn't help laughing: "Do you want to go to the South China Sea, too? I have been thinking about the South China Sea for several years, but I have never been fully prepared. Poor people like you were exhausted and starved to death before they arrived in the South China Sea. Let's find a temple to live a peaceful life early! "
The monk was not persuaded and moved on. A few years later, when the monk met the rich man on his way back from the South China Sea, the rich man still didn't start to act.
This story vividly explains the importance of action to us. Action leads to results. Minor is easy to sing, but difficult to open. Starting is the hardest, but it must be started. Those who don't do what they can now, but are determined to do it sometime in the future, are not satisfied with the status quo of procrastination at work, but don't change it, so they live in waiting and helplessness every day. Such people will accomplish nothing in the end.
A hundred heartbeats are not worth an action. No matter how great our goal is, if we don't act, it will be empty and we will still be unable to succeed. As Dale Carnegie said, "It is not enough to have a great goal in life. If you don't take action to achieve this goal, no matter what talent you have, no matter how many people sincerely help you, no matter how good opportunities are waiting for you, success is just an illusion. "
Action is a sign of daring to change the status quo and save yourself, and it is a proof of how strong a person is. Mark Jefferson, a famous American success master, said: "One action is enough to show a person's weaknesses and strengths, and can remind him to find a breakthrough in life in time." There is no doubt that those who achieve great things are hardworking and good at action. On the road of life, what we need is to prove and cash in the once exciting golden ideas with actions.
Procrastination is the most destructive and dangerous vice, which makes people lose initiative. Once things start to procrastinate, it is easy to procrastinate again until they become ingrained habits. The only way to solve procrastination is to take immediate action to nip all lazy ideas in the bud.
As a professional, if you want to succeed in your career, you must first have the idea of immediate action and no delay; Secondly, we should form the habit of doing things today, so that we will get closer and closer to success.
Franklin said, "Grasping today equals having twice as much as tomorrow." Putting off what you should do today until tomorrow means that you will never succeed in this life.
Action is a great thing. Without action, our dreams are worthless, our plans are just a pile of waste paper, and our development goals cannot be achieved.
A map, no matter how detailed it is drawn and how accurate the scale is, can't move an inch on the ground with its owner. If an athlete keeps thinking at the starting line and doesn't run out, he will never succeed!
Only by taking action can our dreams, plans and goals become the force of action. Action is the starting point of our success!
Therefore, we should always remember: to succeed, we must act!