First, cultivate a healthy personality.
I remember a report in 2000 that a high school student in Jinhua, Zhejiang province killed his mother because he couldn't stand her nagging. However, this simple motivation background is because he can't bear his mother's heavy expectations-he must be admitted to the class before 10. In depression and madness, he went to extremes. The response caused by this tragedy is enormous. 15 years later, it is still thought-provoking. It can be seen that educating children can not only look at scores, but more importantly, pay attention to the cultivation of children's healthy personality.
Sun Yunxiao said: "Parents and teachers should have this awareness to put the education of children in the most important position. It is very important to teach children to learn, and it is more important to teach them to be human. " The great educator Tao Xingzhi once said: "A thousand religions teach people to seek truth; Learn thousands of things and learn to be a man. " In the usual teaching work, I keep in mind the responsibility of teachers-teaching and educating people. I often tell students: If you want to be a talent, you must be an adult first! It is empty to teach children to be human, what matters is their words and deeds in daily life. Children grow up watching adults' backs. Not only the teacher is a mirror of students' life, but all adults should set an example for their children. The quality of adults, good or bad, will affect children. Therefore, I want to remember another four-letter word-be a teacher! I will use my noble character and standardized words and deeds to make students realize the true meaning of being a man in a subtle way!
Second, be good at listening to children's voices.
Listening to children's complaints is also a full respect for their rights. This is not conniving at children's behavior, nor can it be regarded as allowing children to quibble. This is also an educational art. Give your child a chance to talk, and the child will feel treated equally and will be willing to talk to you about everything. If you encounter a problem and don't even have a chance to explain it to your child, how can you convince your child?
Always keep the tone of discussion. In other words, no matter at school or at home, no matter the relationship between teachers and students, or the relationship between parents and children, we must follow the principle of equal treatment. In other words, things should be handled in a negotiated tone, not giving orders, using corporal punishment or even violence.
Give your child a chance to reflect. Don't hit the child when he makes a mistake. "Beating children is the weakest education". Let children talk about their mistakes, give them opportunities to express their opinions and reflect, and influence their inner world with love, tolerance and love.
Give the child a chance to speak and explain. Don't criticize children immediately when they make mistakes. Therefore, as a teacher, children must be given the opportunity to speak and explain, because children are human beings and have their own emotions and personalities. When they feel that they have been treated unfairly, they will have emotions. As an educator, we should stand in the perspective of children's physical and mental health development, and then give an objective evaluation and a convincing reason after understanding it clearly. In the long run, children will be willing to communicate with you and express their true thoughts, and will listen to your opinions and suggestions in the future.
Listen to the child patiently. Listening to children's confidences has several advantages: first, it is conducive to opening the door to children's young hearts, helping educators to understand children's thoughts and feelings in time, and making education more targeted; Second, it is conducive to the venting of children's bad emotions and solving problems for children in time; Third, it is conducive to training children's expression and communication skills, and cultivating children's ability to communicate with others and a healthy mentality.
Third, let children know how to be grateful.
This suggestion touched me a lot. The article tells us a short story about fish head and fish tail. Nowadays, we often hear parents complain that their children are not sensible. Especially the one-child family, blindly asking for it, but not knowing the return. Even some parents always want to give their children the best things and always want to provide the best living conditions. Although parents have paid a lot of money, the children think there should be. So let go, don't interfere too much with children, don't "take care" of everything for children, and often tell children about the hardships of our work. Then I think our children will grow up with understanding and gratitude.
Fourth, sometimes tolerance is more powerful than punishment.
As teachers, we deal with children every day, and children always "do" things that make people angry. If you criticize and preach blindly, sometimes it will backfire. So tolerance is sometimes more powerful than punishment. When a child makes a mistake, find a suitable reason for the child's wrong behavior and let the child have a step down. In addition, Sun Yunxiao believes that children's self-esteem should be protected first, and on this basis, children should be given hope and told the direction of their future efforts. Repetition is one of the characteristics of children and an inevitable reflection of their immature mental development. Therefore, "tolerance is not a one-off behavior, and it cannot be stopped just because the child has made another mistake."
In addition, I believe that children will understand your tolerance in their later lives and treat others with tolerance. Isn't this what our parents and teachers expect? Water with love, cultivate with dedication, protect with persistence, and repair with tolerance. In this way, will we stay away from true love? True love is the only secret of education. I will carefully build myself, lead by example everywhere, always keep in mind the heroic image, ignite the fireworks in children's hearts with the perfect personality of teachers, and guide students to pursue the ideals and noble virtues of life.
In short, we should look at children's growth from a developmental perspective and treat children as growing people. As teacher Chen said: "Education is often divided into three points and seven points, so children should grow up with waiting and help." Education is a great and arduous task. So, what is the secret of education? There are many, many, but there is an important secret that we educators must master, and that is true love. As an ordinary teacher, I will use my enthusiasm and thinking to realize the ideal of a teacher, awaken children's desire for growth with true love, educate children with true love, influence children, guide children, and let them grow up healthily in happiness, passion and dreams!