People at this age are really under great pressure, especially when the outside world will deliberately give you different rules and regulations.
They think that you should be capable and have rich social experience, and the last thing you should do is to fail.
Whether it is a career or a family, the ideal definition of life for people after 40 is family harmony and successful career.
And these mean that the pressure of this group is increasing infinitely.
Besides, after 40 years old, family harmony will actually be in an unstable state. Social surveys show that people at this stage have a high divorce rate.
These reasons for the breakdown of the relationship between the two sides cover all aspects, but in most cases, the communication between the two sides plays a leading role, leading to the first alienation and contradiction between many couples.
After the age of 40, couples have entered the old-fashioned mode. They pay more attention to the practicality and reality of life, while ignoring many formal things.
In particular, the two sides did not know how to keep each other in communication, which finally caused unnecessary misunderstanding.
Psychologists suggest that after the age of 40, the relationship between husband and wife cannot be full of love.
Sister Sun is three years older than me. Every time we chat together, she always tells me: Don't tell him what you shouldn't say. ?
I don't know how many times I've heard someone say something like this. Maybe it's their own experience, or some lessons she has learned deeply.
That day in the coffee shop, before I knew it, Sister Sun and I started chatting again. Her family is rural and has been working hard since she took root in the city. She takes care of her family and always sends money home before and after marriage.
Although she earns well by herself, every time she talks to her husband, he always tells her mother-in-law without saying a word, so the family relationship is not very harmonious.
Once Sun Jie had no money, so she and her husband asked for it, but her husband refused. Although she was a little sad that time, it really made sense.
After that, she won't talk to her husband about such things.
The reason why husband and wife can't say everything is because husband and wife are just one of them in the whole family structure. So once something is said, it will cause a lot of unnecessary misunderstandings.
Speaking of which, some people may say? Do we have to hide it from each other? ? That's true. Some things can't be said.
Of course, it's not asking you to do anything against morality and ethics, but keeping a certain distance when you get along.
In real life, many couples get along very well. In fact, there are some potential secrets between them that the other party doesn't understand.
They can live in harmony because they know how to delete these unnecessary words. I don't need to say these words because I spontaneously feel that they don't make any sense.
Even the loving relationship between husband and wife has a distance, which includes some specific psychological distance and interpersonal distance.
People's thinking consciousness guides individual behavior, and because of this, when we say something, others may not understand what we mean.
Once there are some misunderstandings, the seeds of quarreling are planted.
Couples after the age of 40 will actually suppress their thoughts when they are older, because they are used to this model.
Therefore, even any couple should pay attention to each other's feelings. The more they love each other, the more they should know what to say and what not to say.