Parents pay attention to the key points of children's mental health, and children's mental health problems have attracted more and more attention from the society. Every problem shows the lack of children's growth. Solving problems and cultivating abilities are the development goals of many children. All parents must seize the opportunity. Let me share the main points that parents should pay attention to their children's mental health.
Parents pay attention to children's mental health 1 1. Parents should cultivate their children's self-reliance and be careful not to care too much about their children. Too much concern can only make children lose confidence and be too self-confident. Usually, children may think that everyone should respect him, so that in the long run they will be cultivated into an arrogant person.
Parents should not bribe their children at any time or anything. If you bribe a child, the child will lose the ability to understand, and the child will not know right from wrong. Parents should let their children know the relationship between rights and obligations from an early age, but children know that they can't enjoy rights without fulfilling their obligations.
3. Don't be child-centered and too close to children all day. We should cultivate children's collective adaptability from an early age. Parents should encourage their children to play games, live and study with people of the same age. Don't let children develop a withdrawn character. Only in this way can you learn how to get along with others.
Don't force the child to do what he can't do. This will put a lot of pressure on children. You know, children's self-confidence mostly comes from the success of doing things. If parents force them to do something beyond their power, it will only hurt their self-confidence.
Parents should not be too strict, too demanding or even beat and scold when educating their children. Because this kind of education will make children develop an unhealthy psychology such as inferiority, timidity and escape, and may also lead to abnormal behaviors such as resistance, cruelty or lying, and running away from home.
6. Don't cheat and frighten children unnecessarily. Children's courage can't stand intimidation, which will make them lose the authority of their parents in their eyes, and children will not listen to all the warnings of their parents in the future.
7. Give your child enough face and don't criticize or laugh at your child in front of friends. Because your behavior will cause children's disgust and shyness, which will greatly damage their self-esteem.
8. Don't praise children too much. No matter what you have done or achieved, don't praise it too much. It's good to praise a little when a child has achieved something, because excessive praise will make the child infected with the bad psychology of fishing for fame.
9. It is also very important that parents should not be moody to their children. Because this will make children sensitive and suspicious, leading to emotional instability or timidity.
10, help the child analyze his environment. At the same time, parents should help their children solve difficulties more, not replace them, but only help and guide them. Children should be taught to analyze and solve problems.
Parents pay attention to children's mental health 2. Factors affecting the establishment of children's healthy psychology and countermeasures.
1, family life is not harmonious, and parents often quarrel.
Harmonious family relationship is an important basis for children's mental health. For children, parents are his whole world and a model of his life. If children often see contradictions between their parents, they will feel great anxiety and fear. Young hearts will cast shadows. In this sense, the best gift parents can give their children is a beautiful marriage, which will directly affect the establishment of children's sense of security, as well as socialization, interpersonal relationships and many other aspects.
2. Mother doesn't have enough sense of security and her mood is changeable.
The mother is the closest contact of the child. If the mother is often afraid of this and that, it will directly affect the child's attitude towards things and life. Only when the mother's sense of security and value is sufficient, she will not often feel anxious. Self-confident, steady, mature and rational parenting attitude can not only reduce the unnecessary inner consumption of mothers, but also bring children a safe and peaceful state and temperament.
3. Children's psychological nutrition is not satisfied.
In daily life, children can't get freedom of action, independence and the release of normal emotions. Usually in the process of children's growth, adults rarely consider their needs and wishes. Children can only turn around adult batons and barometer. Places and things that children want to play are often strictly forbidden, such as "too dirty" and "too dangerous". When an adult is happy, he pulls the child up, and whether he likes it or not, he gives him a kiss and hug. When you are unhappy, you dislike children, talk too much and don't want to talk to them. Sometimes I will threaten to say things like "I won't want you if you don't listen", and sometimes I will make a wish to perfunctory my children. In the long run, it will damage children's motivation to explore new things, make them lose themselves, distrust adults and lose their sense of security.
Therefore, parents should respect their children, let go of their hands and feet, and don't interfere excessively to hinder their independent attempts. Follow the needs of children. If the child wants to "do it by himself", give him space and let him do it by himself. The child did not take the initiative to ask his parents for help. No matter what the children do, as long as there is no danger, parents will not participate. But when the child says he needs help, parents should also respond immediately. When the child feels that he doesn't need it, he should stop and let him do it himself. In this way, children can establish a normal parent-child attachment relationship with their parents. When you meet some unreasonable demands from your children, you can negotiate with them instead of forcing them.
For example, the mother just cooked a meal and served it, but the child insisted on eating jiaozi. In view of this situation, it is necessary to discuss with children, such as telling children that if they want to eat next time, tell their mothers in advance. Now that the meal is ready, if we want to "eat jiaozi", we have to buy food, roll skin and wrap jiaozi. You have to endure hunger and do these things with your mother. Do you think it's okay? If the child still insists, let the child go shopping with his parents. When he gets home, he will pick vegetables and wash vegetables with his parents to make jiaozi ... so that children can learn to wait.
4. The family dotes on the only child and makes the child afraid of difficulties.
The gentle trap of the family, especially the pain of the next generation, protects the children too well, and prepares "sweepers" and "paving stones" for every step of their growth, depriving them of the opportunity to face difficulties, making them timid and naturally losing their sense of security.
Therefore, children should learn to do their own things, and adults should not do everything. For example, let children learn to eat by themselves, dress by themselves, pack things by themselves, and solve disputes with children by themselves. Work hard to succeed and build confidence. Only by letting children get successful psychological experiences many times can they cope with the test of failure.
Parents are afraid of losing, and children strive for "first place" everywhere.
Parents often set unrealistic goals for their children. Always compare your children with other children. When children do not do as well as others or have problems, parents will be very anxious, and there will be complaints and emotional behaviors. Children's feelings and abilities are often ignored.
As parents, we should realize that it is unrealistic to let children always strive for "first", but they can strive for "only". -I am who I am. I'm different! Because differences are resources and advantages. It is also "great", but "you are great" and "you are the best" are essentially different in goal. It is necessary to understand and analyze children's characteristics, give correct evaluation and practical goals, and let children's abilities develop in a "mountain" shape.
6, children are self-centered, can only listen to praise, can not hear a little criticism.
Children are often easily praised. Parents and kindergarten teachers say "you are great" and "you are so smart!" Such things make children suffer from "praise dependence" and fail to listen to any negative opinions. Such children lack the experience and motivation to resist setbacks, and are often very emotional and insecure.
For children, praise and encouragement should pay attention to strategies:
First, praise can be intermittent and irregular. Sometimes praise is done well, and sometimes immediately put forward the next goal, so that children will always have a direction to move forward.
Second, we should find the "accurate" point of encouragement and give encouragement in different aspects. For example, children insist on doing things, give encouragement, and let children learn the spirit of persistence. Another example is the competition between children. Although the children lost, they didn't cry and were encouraged to learn to be strong.
Moreover, for example, some special performances of children, such as giving toys to children, helping younger brothers and sisters, and letting children learn to be United and friendly.
Children's psychological problems have a lot to do with their parents' upbringing. In order to develop a healthy psychology, give children more opportunities to exercise!