But how many people can really die in their sleep? How many people can leave safely without getting sick? They all say that there is illness between "birth, old age, illness and death"!
Ancient people in ancient books? Red fan articles are about people's five blessings, namely, longevity, wealth, health and safety, virtue, doing good and dying well. In short, "long life, rich life, 80-year-old death" is the best way to end well. After living for a long time, I was rich and finally died in my own home. I have to say that this is really the most blessed and beautiful "curtain call" in life.
Unfortunately, this happy ending can only be regarded as the "ideal" standard of life ending. The ideal is high and the realization is low. Modern people may live a long life, but not all of them are rich. If they live long, they are bound to get sick. It is not a problem to accumulate virtue and do good, but it is not easy to "die a natural death".
In fact, I think the concept of "dying well" can be expanded, concrete and achievable. To achieve the result of "dying well", not only a "dying well" is required, but also a correct concept of death, a clear attitude towards death, warm hospice care and the final dignity of life. This is the truest, most complete and most achievable "good death"!
Some foreign scholars have made a survey of the caregivers of terminally ill patients, and found that these caregivers have the following characteristics when they take care of them: they have certain control, are willing to listen to the painful truth, review their lives, keep a sense of humor, have important people to accompany them, express their concern with their bodies, and talk about mental problems.
Buddhism tantra has its own unique way to get rid of death. After retirement, many Tibetans often go on a pilgrimage or visit a guru to concentrate on spiritual practice. One of their compulsory teaching methods is to practice the Powa method (also known as the birth method, a practice method to change consciousness), that is, to prepare for death. They face death with a very healthy, positive and prudent attitude, preparing and facing death as if they were going to college from high school. On their deathbed, they will find a senior guru to help them die smoothly, and let the guru guide them to die smoothly.
Tibetans are not afraid of death, because they know enough about death and know the whole process of life. The most rare thing is that they know that physical pain before death is inevitable, but they can overcome it by "changing consciousness" (that is, practicing "Bova method"). This kind of positive, positive, calm, fearless and prepared attitude is really difficult for ordinary people to do, and it is also worth thinking and imitating.
In order to get a "natural death", the most basic thing should be constructed from the daily concept of death. Just "natural death" is absolutely not enough. Just like Tibetans, if they don't have religious beliefs on weekdays and have a firm and clear concept of death and past lives, it is impossible to face death so calmly and practice the way of death liberation. I once witnessed my grandparents' illness and death, and my grandmother's process was particularly profound. She held my father's hand while crying and begged him to help her. That fear of death has something to do with her seldom thinking about death. )
In addition to first establishing a calm and correct outlook on life and death in daily study, there should also be the following points to achieve a happy ending:
Second, when you get old, you should learn to face and accept diseases, have a high degree of dignity, a high degree of autonomy and a high quality of life.
The third is that the body receives perfect, professional and warm medical care before dying. Life is not meaningless, but out of respect for life, we should strive for it.
The fourth is to be able to accept it calmly, make full preparations, make decisions independently and clearly, complete life review, and have no worries in my heart. (In fact, every time I volunteer to go to a nursing home, I want to talk to the elderly about whether I have any regrets in my life, and I want to make up for it, but I am afraid that this topic will cause the pain of the elderly. )
The fifth is to have a clear and detailed account after death. Children and grandchildren are accompanied by important relatives and friends, and can say goodbye to important relatives and communicate with each other.
Sixth, funerals can be held in advance, and family members and future generations can fully respect and deal with death with a calm attitude.
In fact, the last few items are not too difficult, but the first one is the most difficult. How many people in the world can think about "death" on weekdays? Living is not enough, so there is no time!
These points are just a perfect ending to life, not to mention China's famous saying "Life is worse than death", so what is more worth thinking about is how to live. After reading Professor Yu Juan's death note "This Life is Unfinished", I thought about a question "How to finish this life?" I hope I can fully understand it!