How to solve the mental health problems of children in single-parent families

Because of the particularity of its family structure, it has its particularity in many issues such as children's education. Single parent families are fragile and unstable. Of course, the biggest victim of single-parent families is the children who have lost their parents' care. They are weak. They have nothing but their parents and family. Therefore, it is conceivable that the loss of their father (or mother) has hit them and caused them psychological pressure. For the special group of children from single-parent families, it is of positive practical significance to study their psychological laws and explore the methods and strategies of implementing education. (1) Seek a bridge to communicate with them. Seek the needs of children. People have needs all the time, which is the ideological and psychological characteristics of people. Therefore, grasping the demand point will also grasp the joint point of the child's mind. What children in single-parent families lack most is affection. What they need is nothing more than the warmth of the family, the joy of success, and the understanding and sympathy of others. Educators should seize the needs of children in time, create a family atmosphere in classes and families, celebrate their simple birthdays and do more group activities. Comfort their spiritual wounds with the warmth of family and collective, give them cordial care, and let them feel the love and warmth like family. Let them be willing to communicate with you and confide in you. 2. Be good at capturing children's bright spots. Bright spots are a person's strengths and advantages. Grasping people's advantages and strengths to affirm, encourage and praise, even a little, can effectively dispel people's sense of inferiority and stimulate people's enterprising spirit. Everyone has a bright spot, and children from single-parent families are no exception. Parents and teachers should give them extra praise and affirmation when they have creative ideas in their studies. Children from single-parent families should be encouraged more and blamed less; More warmth, less indifference. 3. Be good at discovering their interests. Interest is the basis and premise of doing things. Everyone has his own hobbies. Only by fully demonstrating one's interests and specialties can one cultivate and build self-confidence. Children from single-parent families have problems in showing interest. If we can't find and develop it in time, we will lose the opportunity to turn education into talents. Children's self-confidence, nervousness, especially their interest in what they have learned will affect the transfer of knowledge. Therefore, teachers and parents must be good at discovering and guiding children's interests in time and transferring this interest to the track that is conducive to children's physical and mental development in time. Only in this way can we produce better educational and teaching effects. (2) Cultivate students' independent and strong personality 1. Learn to treat setbacks correctly. Life in this world cannot be smooth sailing, and there can be no setbacks. Handling setbacks well may become a new starting point for children's progress and a new driving force for progress; If it is not handled well, it will become a point of ideological decline and retrogression. Children in single-parent families have many setbacks, not only their parents' divorce, but also their lives and friends. To this end, teachers and parents must grasp the joint point of this ideological change and comfort and enlighten them in time. 2. Don't pamper and spoil children without principle. After the death or divorce of a spouse, teachers and parents tend to be more sympathetic to their children, especially their parents. Everything depends on their children, everything is under their control. They would rather suffer for themselves than let their children suffer a little injustice. As a result, children often become selfish, overbearing and willful "little bullies", lacking sympathy and sense of responsibility, not knowing how to respect others, and even looking down on their parents who raised them with hardships. 3. Cultivate children's sense of independence. There are many single parents who live alone with their children and regard them as the only hope in life, lest their children be unsafe and have accidents. Take care of children's lives, let children develop the habit of reaching for clothes and living within their means from an early age, and take various measures to limit their activities. This is not good, this is not allowed. Because of fear of children's problems, children can't be independent in everything, and they don't have the opportunity to experience some indispensable "risks" in life. Such children lack independent consciousness, and once they leave their parents, they don't know how to face the difficulties and setbacks in life. 4, pay attention to observe the child's words and deeds, and solve the child's thoughts in time. Children in single-parent families are often sensitive, and some things will make them have subtle psychological changes. Parents should pay more attention to their children's words and deeds, find abnormal signs, and talk with their children in time. After understanding the situation, you can guide in time. Some problems cannot be solved at once, so we should do more investigation and analysis and consider proper solutions. 5. Expand children's contact surface. If it is a divorced family, no matter which party takes care of the children, the children should have time to contact and communicate with the other party and feel the love of their parents. Both sides should be rational and avoid "fighting for pang" in front of children. If possible, children should be reunited with their parents at the same time, which is not only necessary but also possible in modern society. Not husband and wife, but also friends, not to mention the next generation. Children should also be exposed to the elders of other relatives and friends and expand their contacts. Parents' colleagues are also contacts. This is good for children's growth. (3) Adopt appropriate educational methods. 1. Don't use violent and sarcastic language. Contrary to overindulgence, some parents' education of their children is simple and rude, always beating and cursing, or opening their mouths is irony, which makes their children live in fear all day, and their personality development is seriously inhibited, forming bad qualities such as timidity, withdrawn, stubbornness, self-confidence and even rebellious psychology. Avoiding parents for fear of punishment, unwilling to go home and looking for "warmth" outside are easy to be dragged down by bad guys and embark on the road of crime. Faced with a special group of children like single-parent families, we should avoid being simple, rude or cynical when educating children, and pay attention to correct guidance from the front. 2. * * with children. The situation of children in single-parent families is the same, but their thoughts and behaviors are different. Children in single-parent families have great ups and downs in thinking, abnormal personality and behavior, passive learning, bad habits and lack of self-confidence. As teachers and parents, we should not only take the initiative to care about them in life, but also use the situation in our minds to stimulate their self-confidence. For example, using Chaplin, Xian Xinghai and other examples about the contribution of children from single-parent families to mankind can trigger the ideological transformation of such children, make them produce * * * vibrations, produce * * * sounds, produce positive thoughts and feelings, and help them understand their own values and pursue their own goals persistently. 3. Guide children to correctly understand the family environment. Parents should first adjust their ideological understanding and psychological emotions. Divorce between husband and wife is mostly due to insoluble contradictions. Although divorce has new problems, after all, it is freed from a more painful entanglement. Facing new problems, we should dare to face them squarely and solve them step by step. Don't hide the fact of divorce from your children for a long time, it will add a layer of distress. You can't hide. Children who don't know the truth hate their parents. In the process of children's psychological growth, the study of gender roles is an important link. Boys without fathers or girls without mothers lack the most direct role models in learning gender roles. Therefore, single parents should pay attention to mobilizing gender resources among relatives and friends, give their children appropriate influence, fully express and develop their gender roles, and cultivate healthy and noble personality to meet the needs of social life. 4. Help children to deal with their classmates. The psychological pressure of children comes from classmates to a great extent. Parents should encourage their children to have several good children in their class, often study together and spend weekends together. Once the children's group life is normal, many problems will be solved. If an individual classmate said something angry, parents might as well talk to that classmate or write a letter. A sincere attitude and rational analysis will make children sensible. The head teacher looking for children reflects the situation and asks the head teacher to explain the truth in class in an appropriate way, create public opinion and treat this situation correctly.