Because our awareness of mental health care is not strong, in educational activities, teachers often hurt children's psychology without realizing that this is a kind of harm.
A teacher implemented the so-called "teaching students in accordance with their aptitude" after seeing others group their children into educational activities according to their abilities. Before the official start of the educational activities, she said loudly to the whole class, "Please let the children with poor ability sit here and the children with strong ability sit over there." Then put forward different teaching tasks and requirements for children according to their location. This practice violates the most basic principle in educational activities-respect for young children.
Many times, when children can't answer the teacher's questions, the teacher often says kindly, "sit down and think about it first and listen to what other children say." In fact, this will make the child feel very uncomfortable, because the teacher's words make him feel inferior to others. But many teachers don't know that their words have deeply hurt children's self-esteem. For children who feel inferior because of the so-called "poor ability" (some are not necessarily poor ability, but only one aspect has not developed) and are unwilling to raise their hands to answer questions, they are not forced to "exercise" more to solve problems, but to create opportunities for success, thus establishing self-confidence.
Everything a teacher says in front of a child, whether right or wrong, may become a guide for the child's actions, and may even become a child's belief. Teachers can't be careful when they speak in front of children!
Teachers' intentional injury to children
If we observe carefully, we will find that the psychological harm of teachers to children is not only unintentional but also intentional. This is intolerable, but it is indeed the objective reality of our early childhood education, which cannot but attract the attention of our early childhood managers and researchers.
When I was in kindergarten, I once met an elderly teacher who thought he was quite experienced and called on all the children in the class not to associate with the children who made mistakes. For example, during the break, one child cried another child. The teacher didn't investigate the reason, so he pulled the "beating" child to the front of the podium and said to the other children, "Today someone is bad, and everyone is ashamed of him." So the children gestured with their hands to make the children who made mistakes "ashamed". Then, the teacher called on the children: "We don't want him, tell him to go out". Then, all the children shouted together, "Get out! Get out! We don't want you! " Finally the child was kicked out of the activity room.
We know that this teacher is trying to "educate" the child who made a mistake so that he won't make the same mistake again in the future. Let's not talk about the effect of this kind of education for the time being, but what is certain is that this kind of education will definitely hurt children's psychology, and it is not a good thing for other children who have not made mistakes. It will mislead children-as long as others make mistakes, we can humiliate them.
There is also a naughty child who accidentally fell down during the educational activities. Instead of giving sympathy, the teacher said to the child, "Did you fall?" ! Who told you to be so naughty! Now fall down! "When the child needs comfort, we sting him with ugly words. This inhuman practice may leave children with eternal pain and shadow.
The harm caused by preference to children
Preference means that teachers can't spread love to every child fairly, and there is an emotional prejudice that favors boys over girls. Teachers' preferences affect teachers' attitudes and educational behaviors towards different children, and then affect the healthy development of children's psychology. It is a very common phenomenon that our educational behavior is improper because of our preference, which in turn affects the healthy development of children's psychology. Teachers should understand that favoritism is harmful to all children. For the healthy psychological development of all children, we should care for every child fairly-regardless of their personality, appearance, ability and social background, they are the future of our motherland!
The harm that attitude brings to children.
I once found an example: some children don't pay attention to turning off the tap when washing their hands. Once before the children came back from outdoor sports activities to wash their hands and wipe their faces, the teacher repeatedly stressed loudly: "After washing your hands, be sure to turn off the tap." However, after all the children washed their hands and came out, the teacher found that there was still a faucet that was not related. Seeing this situation, the teacher was very angry and then angrily said to all the children in the class, "Who didn't turn off the tap just now?" Turn it off at once! " "The teacher was furious and looked around at all the children. All the children were too scared to reply.
Children are psychologically fragile and vulnerable. Once they are hurt, it will have an unpredictable negative impact on the healthy development of their personality. Therefore, we must minimize the psychological harm to children from all aspects of education. Physical injuries are easy to be found and generally easy to recover; But the harm to the soul is not easy to find, and the sequelae are very lasting, even affecting the child's life.
The harm of teaching content to children
In the choice of teaching content, if we don't pay attention to its adaptability, it is likely that some teaching content is beneficial to the healthy development of most children's psychology, but harmful to a few or a certain child. For example, we teach children to learn dolls' songs. The lyrics of this children's song are written like this: "A doll with big eyes and small mouth is really beautiful and cute." This may hurt children with "small eyes" and "big mouth"; We teach young children to sing "Only mothers are good in the world", which may hurt children who have lost their mothers and further strengthen the lost mentality that "children without mothers are like grass". When choosing educational content, teachers must take into account its influence on all children, and cannot harm a few other children because it promotes the mental health development of the vast majority of children.
Judging from the difficulty of the teaching content, if it is too difficult, some children may rarely learn the teaching content arranged by the teacher, which not only means that children will lose their corresponding cognitive basis in future study, but also means that they will lose their internal motivation in future study. More seriously, these children will completely lose confidence in themselves and feel that they are not the "material" for learning, which will become a great obstacle to their future development. Therefore, when we choose the teaching content and its difficulty, we should not only consider whether it conforms to the relevant teaching principles, but also consider its influence on each child's mental health.