Self-regulation of mental health of the elderly
At present, China has entered an aging society ahead of schedule. How to make the old people spend their retirement years easily and improve their physical health and mental health simultaneously? Healthy? Escort and safely reach the other side of life is one of the important tasks of an aging society. It is also a new topic faced by some elderly people.
A mentally healthy elderly person can generally be kind to himself, others, adapt to the environment, have a normal mood and a harmonious personality. A person who can freely and appropriately express and display his personality and live in harmony with the environment. Be good at continuous learning. They will also enjoy a good life and understand that the contented are always happy. They are good at looking at problems from different angles.
But some old people are not like this. In life, it is often found that these people easily forget who they are. Especially on the issue of personal treatment, blindly comparing with others, single-minded pursuit of high standards, often eager for high standards, often put themselves in an inappropriate position. You're an ordinary retiree. You've been holding it? Hero? And then what? Hero? Pretend to be. Nothing around you is pleasing to the eye; For welfare, why? Treatment? There are also opinions. People close to you will be persuaded to scold. Such people are obviously people with serious mental health problems.
What should we do about this old man with mental illness? Is to let go? Or do everything possible to help them come to their senses as soon as possible and find their own self?
Summed up a lot of what I saw and heard, combined with my own personal experience, I think the following points can be used for reference:
First, in the ocean of life, we should constantly find ourselves.
Retirement and getting old are just inevitable processes in life. I believe my habits should not be abandoned. Forever? If you hold your body as still as Mount Tai Jiuding, you won't be so proud. If something flows out of the water, it's always interesting to pass leisurely. Mental state, which is a very valuable character of the elderly. Confucius once summed up the characteristics of several stages of his life. At the age of 30, he listened to his words and at the age of 70, he followed his heart. When people get old, they can grasp and let go of their behavior and enter a state where they can get rid of everything. At this time, they are not disturbed by the secular world, and they are very calm about all good times and adversity, becoming superb and open-minded. Or move on, pursue your own ideals and enjoy life. Confucius can be said to be a model for all the old people in history.
In the past, it was a new thing to enjoy retirement benefits in rural areas and China. Many rural elderly people who benefit from this are happy. Although their pension expenses are pitiful compared with those of urban retirees, they are greatly encouraged and comforted. Because it was in China's 5,000-year history that farmers first tasted it? Raising children for old age? Care beyond traditional rules. Gratitude is beyond words. They regard this care and warmth as the last line of defense, and they still work as usual when they can, and they don't relax at all.
Unfortunately, this phenomenon also exists among other people whose premium income is several times higher than that of the old farmers. Although some people have suffered, they forget the past and stay all day. Security? Hold only one of these four words? By who? You don't put words, someone does? By who? Become? So what? They always complain about the unfilial children at home and the poor care of the government and enterprises. Often gathered in the streets, commenting and complaining. I lost my way on the broad road of life and lost myself. Some people are healthy, but psychologically sub-healthy or even unhealthy.
Who Are We? Who am I? Without our past career, past glory and youthful vigor, are we still the same as before? Poor and white? Naked us. Retirement is only a historic restoration, but you can't think of yourself as a creditor asking for a living reward. How did we survive in the first place? You can still find that kind of life track after retirement. Go back to nature and find yourself again. The most valuable thing is to treat the changeable life as fleeting clouds, firmly grasp the sense of self-independence and constantly adjust bad emotions. ? Only when scholars have the sincerity of never returning can they have the magical effect of not changing. ? If you have a healthy mind, you will naturally find yourself: if you find yourself, your mind will naturally be healthy.
Second, we should actively use ourselves in the continuation of life.
Strong and firm? Self-help-take responsibility? Consciousness helps the elderly to seek an active and healthy lifestyle, which can not only prolong their healthy life and improve their quality of life, but also reduce the burden on their families and society. Therefore, the elderly should not give up their roles and abilities easily at any time. ? Do something old and give full play to the waste heat? It is the expression and demand of the mental health of the elderly. It is also the embodiment of self-responsibility consciousness. In general, most people think so and do the same.
In order to realize the desire of self-responsibility, the elderly should cherish the embodiment of self-worth. You should do it: as long as you have a little ability, you will never drag others down. What you can do hard in life, you try your best to do it yourself; If you have the ability, you will actively use the waste heat to fight again and continue to create wealth and increase income; If you don't have enough money, try to save it; Don't plead, don't complain, have the courage and perseverance to fight for the last time in life; Take dependence on society and family as an insurance factor, and don't touch it easily unless you have to. Use your spare capacity to continue to be a tough guy in life.
In our society, there are many such people. In Xinhu Village, Hukou Town, Nanxiong City, Shaoguan, an old man can often be seen fetching water and washing clothes by the well, and she can often be seen working in the fields during the busy farming season. She 102 years old, five generations under one roof? Ren Rui? Liu. She has more than 40 descendants, the youngest great-grandson 1 year. Although her children went on a trip, she didn't sit back and enjoy success, but she still worked hard and made constant contributions. Such people always have a breath and a hot air, and spare no effort to make it out with a little effort.
Many comrades around us are like this. Some of them are over 70 years old, still working hard, and their spirit is beyond the past. For example, Mr. Ji Yongqing, the chairman of Jiming Culture Consulting Co., Ltd., is one of the most successful examples in which the elderly in Datong Coal Group can find themselves. He led the company's writing team for the elderly for 10 years, and he was able to complete research and thesis writing on several topics every year, and successively completed the compilation of three local chronicles, about 1.7 million words. It has played a certain role in promoting enterprise reform and promoting the development of production and operation, and has become a coal group that can make full use of itself and create? Do something old? An outstanding example of value. This is an example of the mental health of the elderly.
There are many such old people in cities, and countless in rural areas. They like it and don't complain. Under the control of strengthened self-awareness, most elderly people who are willing to take the road of health should follow suit, which is undoubtedly natural.
Third, we should correctly evaluate ourselves when reviewing the past.
People may experience many difficulties, honors or humiliations, surprises or worries, sadness or joy in life. Everyone has a history. After entering old age, some people's history is just a postscript, and some people may continue to write. However, old people like to talk about their history with relish.
How to treat your own history? Is it necessarily related to mental health? The answer is yes. Being able to make a correct evaluation of one's own history and not treating the past as a burden is one of the important conditions to achieve mental health. People who continue to lock themselves in the past all day? Have to? With what? Lost? People who are unhappy in cages are people with serious mental illness. If you don't actively adjust yourself and seek medical treatment, you won't take this road with peace of mind. Only those who can regard personal history as a complete time process are truly smart people. Choose its classics and carry them forward, and abandon all disturbing past events that affect mental health and emotions. Put yourself in history, especially once? Go through five customs and cut six generals? With such achievements, you should judge the situation and return to yourself with a normal attitude. This is a wise choice.
More than 300 years ago, Hong Yingming, a retired bureaucrat, pointed out in his book Caigen Tan that there is only one reason to know each other? Me? Words are too true, so there are many hobbies and troubles. The previous cloud:? No longer know that there is me, knowing that things are precious. ? Another cloud:? Knowing that it's not me is even more intrusive. ? This is a fact.
We often see street complainers, some of whom are the people mentioned here? Trouble? Who? They often resent the injustice of history, and this problem cannot be separated? How am I? . One of my neighbors scolded the street for three years after retirement, and as a result, she caught a cold and left early. I work in the same unit as him. As far as I know, there wasn't much injustice and unfairness in the past, just because I was unhappy at the thought of some things in the past, so I began to call names every day. Nowadays, whenever I think of this poor neighbor, I always feel sorry for him. It's really sad to treat life like this with an attitude of venting nameless fire.
To be a mentally healthy old man, we must correctly evaluate our former self. Otherwise it will become a terrible burden and burden for you. It will oppress you to get older faster and die earlier.
Later, I often hear people who are familiar with that person take him as an example to warn themselves and others: don't be angry blindly, don't swear blindly, and complaints for no reason are short-lived. He became a passive mental health teacher. Always remind those patients who have the same mental health problems.
Fourth, we should practice ourselves happily in pain and suffering.
The most difficult moment in the life of the elderly may be the moment when they get one disease or another. No one is easy to deal with when he can take care of himself completely or basically. Objective requirements may not be too harsh. This is something ordinary people can understand and do.
However, if you have a serious illness and really need someone's help and support to varying degrees, your self-control ability will obviously decline, and your desire for survival will violently impact the person who once had high self-esteem in your heart. That unbearable pain again and again is a challenge to self-dignity again and again. At this time, the perfect medical insurance system, superb medical means and equipment, warm and thoughtful care and service are the expectations of all critically ill patients. However, there may be many contradictions in these three links, such as the contradiction between the limit of system guarantee and actual needs; The contradiction between medical means and objective illness and medical expenses; Contradictions between the attitudes and behaviors of children and relatives and the wishes of patients will be intertwined one after another. This is an extraordinary period when all kinds of relationships and emotions are most active in life. It is also the most critical period to test the psychological self-control ability of an elderly person. There are countless examples around us. Among them are men (women) who can grit their teeth no matter what happens. They blamed the pain on illness and their poor medical care. Suffering from illness is a mental exercise on the road to death. They do not complain, but actively participate in and cooperate with the treatment; Don't blindly ask for resurrection, and don't severely criticize the filial piety and human feelings of family members and relatives because of the number of visits. Temper your will in illness, and have no intention of passing on your pain to others. Even the groans of illness are kept as low as possible for fear of disturbing the family. Such old people are the most psychologically healthy.
However, the other kind of people are not. They can't accept minor illnesses, groan without illness, and have a serious illness. Complaining all day, scolding hospitals, doctors and nurses. The family is not satisfied with how to serve them. Pick your nose and eyes, and some beat your wife and scold your children. Children often go there and say that they expect his death and are ready to seize property. If you go less, just say that you are a baiwenhang and have no filial piety. Call the doctor at every turn, making the hospital ward fidgety. It's the same when you get home. Wives worry, children hide. Become a handle for neighbors' sympathy and ridicule. He infinitely exaggerated the value of his life. Pain makes such people lose their original self. Such patients are often counterproductive. In order to alleviate the pain, the pain just pestered him. Poor health and mental health are twisted together and entangled in death like being hugged by a poisonous snake.
The spirit of mental health and self-discipline we advocate is not that we don't pay attention to science and don't rely on social and objective possibility support. It is necessary to clarify the leading role of individuals in the allocation of these resources. In the process of aging, the elderly can be treated rationally when they encounter diseases. Can you endure the process of overcoming and getting rid of diseases as a baptism of a more perfect self-leap? Endure? It is also a mental health problem.
In the face of difficulties and diseases, the elderly should never forget to practice themselves happily in pain and suffering. Overcome diseases with a healthy mind. The living will love you more.
Five, in the process of death, we should strive to improve ourselves.
Aging is mainly physical and physiological aging, and eventually dies out. By then,? Is the quality clean or clean? A perfect mark of life should be the lofty desire and ideal of most elderly people.
Death is only a matter of time. No one can escape this ruthless law. ? The living are all the same, while the dead have their own ways to die? . ? In the long run, we will all die? .
Being sick in life is painful, and the thought of death may be even more terrible. Therefore, no one is willing to think about death easily. I always feel that this is someone else's business, and it is the business of some unfortunate or unlucky person. Especially those who are still in good health never take the word death to heart.
Old people are not. Those who are open-minded by nature and mentally healthy may face death as an inevitable attribution. In these people's minds, it is easy for them to think that there is nothing to make a fuss about. Some people prepare shroud and coffin for themselves in advance, divide the inheritance for their children in advance and settle down with peace of mind.
Some people don't live well enough, suffer from all kinds of trivial things, suffer from diseases, suffer unbearable pain, and often look forward to early death. They regard death as a relief. Especially those who have not been cured for a long time, the voice of death will be higher. It is the strong comfort and retention of relatives that make them muddle along and survive. To this end, some relatives may leave a few complaints. What's more, they refused medical treatment and medicine and only wanted to die.
Another kind of old people is not. As they get closer and closer to death, they are extremely uneasy and anxious, and the impulse to live longer is getting stronger and stronger. Extremely sensitive to aging, often self-suggestion and self-pressure, forming various manifestations of fear of aging and death. The shadow of death has been looming in front of us. They are afraid to listen to others talk about death, to visit the sick, to pass by the cemetery and to hear funeral music. Occasionally, I met a bereaved person who dared not sleep or eat for several days. He didn't get sick at first, but then he was scared to get sick, and some minor diseases became serious diseases. The psychological defense line collapsed. The consequences are dangerous.
People who are afraid of death have a complicated mentality, mainly because they can't let go of this and that. Fear of death cannot be regarded as a weakness or a fault, but only reflects a person's attitude and psychological process in the face of death. Death will not come because you are afraid. People who are afraid of death also understand the truth. I just can't forget it.
A person's death should not be gossiped by others. The author's topic is how to be calm in the face of death. When drawing the last period of life, we should reflect on the state of mental health and return to a perfect self. It is the most precious thing to hand in a satisfactory answer to the living and report happily to the ancestors.
Let relatives and friends always remember that although your body is dead, your mind has always been healthy!
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