Name: xxx
Age: 8 years old
Grade: Grade two
Gender: male
Personality characteristics: inferiority complex, withdrawn.
Second, personal background information
Grandmother farmed at home and usually looked after the children;
Father works outside.
Third, countermeasures.
? (1) Poor guardianship and paying more attention to education are another important reason for children's inferiority complex.
Some of these children are taken care of by grandparents, some are fostered with relatives, and some are unsupervised at all. Brothers and sisters live together and parents are only responsible for sending back some living expenses. Although grandparents have enough time and patience to take care of their children's lives and listen to their children's stories, they have certain advantages, but they still do more harm than good. Because grandparents generally dote on their grandchildren, their relatives have insufficient energy and limited sense of responsibility, and they cannot strictly educate their children. Most left-behind children are reluctant to communicate with their adoptive parents. When they are with their grandparents, they just watch TV and don't talk much. There is nothing to say to relatives. And unsupervised children are blank in education. They can only face the challenges in life alone. Many children even lack self-discipline. A little thing can remind him of looking for someone to fight.
(2) Lack of parental love
? I took the initiative to strengthen contact with Ren Tianhao's father and asked him to strengthen contact with him. Children communicate. In the allocation of communication time, it is best to call your child once a week and communicate with your child once. If time permits, you can come back once in the middle of a semester to pick up the children during the winter and summer vacations. In this way, there will be more time for parent-child interaction and communication, which has certain consistency. As for the content of communication, I also asked his mother not only to talk about his academic and exam results, but also to pay more attention to his physiology, psychology and emotions, and pay more attention to his children's thoughts, ideas and actions, so that he can grow up healthily in a loving atmosphere. I encourage Ren Tianhao to make more friends with students who love learning, are disciplined and have good behavior habits, as well as those who are willing to talk to their friends, so as to alleviate the loneliness caused by the lack of family warmth.
(3) change the way of love
? I try my best to change my parents' education methods, and I often contact my children's grandmothers to tell them what bad consequences will be caused if I indulge my children blindly, and say "no" to his unreasonable demands. If children make mistakes, they should promptly investigate, criticize and educate them; Let the child's father often contact him by phone, care about his study and life, and let him feel as fatherly as other children. In a Chinese unit test, the child unexpectedly got 86 points, which really made him happy for several days. He told the good news to his father in time. His father also called me to contact me and share the happiness of children's progress. I also asked my classmates to choose him as an assistant to the Commission for Discipline Inspection and let him check the violation of discipline in the class. He is very excited and responsible. When he brought the students who violated the rules to me, I asked him to educate them and tell them what was wrong and what to do. After a while, I asked Ren Tianhao, "What do you think when you see a classmate breaking the rules?" He said: "I was very sad and anxious when I saw it. I really hope they can change soon. But I just don't know what to do to make them change? " "Yes, actually the teacher and your idea is the same. The teacher doesn't really hate a child, but sincerely hopes that the child can abide by discipline and be a civilized student. The teacher believes that you will change yourself with practical actions and make your classmates look at you with new eyes! " After listening to my words, Ma Cheng was a little embarrassed, bowed his head and said nothing ... After a while, the students did see that Ma Cheng stopped hitting people, and everyone was willing to obey his care. After the child came out of the trough, I immediately turned his attention to his studies, letting him know that it is the minimum task for a qualified student to concentrate on his studies, go to school on time and finish his homework.
? (D) enhance self-confidence
In order to give him enough opportunities to develop his talents, I actively encourage him to participate in various activities carried out by the school, keenly discover his "bright spot", cherish his little progress, make use of every opportunity to let his classmates tap his "bright spot", and give him enough opportunities to develop his talents and taste the joy of success, so as to know his own value, realize self-evaluation and raise the sails of progress. I also encourage good students in my class to associate with him more and propose a series of rules to him, all of which are gradual and easy to difficult. Because the rules are not too high, plus the supervision of teachers and the encouragement of classmates, he can do it slowly. As long as he can finish his homework every day and behave well, I will give him full affirmation and sincerely praise him in front of my classmates. Gradually, his confidence increased and his communication with his classmates became more and more harmonious. At this time, I told him that he was very smart and would make progress as long as he worked hard; Tell him the importance of study to his life.
Fourth, preliminary results.
Through the above efforts, Ren Tianhao has made some progress, lost his inferiority and aloof, learned to express his emotions properly, handled his interpersonal relationship well, found some great classmates to be friends in class, and sometimes raised his hand to speak in class. His position in the hearts of his classmates has also improved, his self-confidence has also increased, and his initiative to participate in activities has also improved.
? V. Summary and Enlightenment
Lack of care and self-confidence is the key to the poor performance of this student and other similar students. What they lost was not wisdom, but confidence. Success again and again, demonstration again and encouragement again and again, that is, affirming students' efforts again and again, that is, inputting the information of "I can do it" into students' minds again and again, students' minds will think that they belong to winners again and again, and a successful self-image will be formed. Success requires overcoming many difficulties. Acting parents care about students' life, psychology, study and other aspects, and cultivate students' self-confidence. With confidence, they will face difficulties, and success needs to overcome many setbacks. With self-confidence, they will become more depressed, encourage, praise and affirm students' ability, and change "you can't" into "you can".
Zheng, a famous fairy tale writer, put it well: qualified teachers and parents find the advantages of children and tell her where to go, while unqualified teachers and parents find the shortcomings of children and tell her what not to do. Confidence in yourself is the first step on the road to success. Let's work together to create a successful today and tomorrow for the left-behind students.