How to guide children to resist the negative influence of peer pressure

1. Create a harmonious collective and optimize the educational environment. A united, harmonious and positive group is a necessary environment to cultivate children's healthy psychology and behavior habits. Educators can cultivate excellent models in the collective, set an example for learning, promote teenagers to form good moral feelings, improve their moral understanding and judgment ability, and guide, motivate and supervise their moral behavior. At the same time, teachers need to pay special attention to the small groups in the collective, understand the daily activities of small groups, be the core figures of small groups, and make the psychology and behavior of small groups and group members develop in a healthy direction through correct guidance. At the same time, teachers should also pay attention to regulating the relationship between group activities and small group activities.

2. Teach teenagers some skills and strategies to communicate with their peers. Many children think that saying "no" will hurt the feelings between friends, so they succumb to peer pressure and dare not say what they really think. Parents or teachers should make them understand that compromise is not the solution to problems in daily life. If differences exist objectively, the correct way is to respect their inner wishes and express their feelings. If you don't want to embarrass your friends, you can be tactful. Sometimes, parents and teachers can be shields. For example, "I dare not smoke. My father has a very keen nose. He will give me a beating when he smells smoke when he comes home. "

3. Help teenagers to build self-confidence and improve their sense of self-identity. Jesse, an American adolescent mental health behavior expert, pointed out that the key to reducing peer pressure is to enhance adolescents' self-identity. Parents and teachers should teach their children to pay attention to their own characteristics and tell them "don't be rash people, don't be slaves to others' will, and don't trap themselves". Everyone has different habits and characteristics from others. Parents and teachers should encourage their children to have their own independent personality, help them to establish a code of conduct and make wise decisions. Although teenagers are inevitably influenced by peer pressure, under the correct guidance, they can gradually learn the skills of balancing group life and independent personality development.

4. Help teenagers choose peer groups carefully. Peer group is a group formed spontaneously by peers or peers because of their common interests, needs and attitudes. Peer groups are often an important factor that affects members' ambitions, ambitions, behavior habits and even personality development. Understanding the role and characteristics of peer groups is helpful for parents and teachers to guide peer groups to play their positive roles, reduce their negative effects, and promote teenagers to form good personality characteristics and develop in a positive direction.

In a word, peer pressure is the inevitable product of teenagers' psychological development to a certain stage. Teachers and parents must actively guide them to resist the negative influence of peer pressure, help them adjust and improve their psychological quality, enhance their self-identity, and make their body and mind develop in a healthy direction.