? Seeing this, many readers will exclaim: Are children so precocious now? Where did they teach themselves? Do they think about these things when they are full of food and drink all day That's ridiculous! It is not surprising to ask such questions and exclamations, because it completely exceeds the psychological expectations of adults.
Look at the handling of teacher Li, the class teacher: talk to the relevant personnel first. There is no lecture in the text, but judging from Mr. Li's "face as heavy as water" and "gloomy" expressions, Mr. Li must be very angry. Next, I will tell my teacher the details, and the tone is very "angry", because most students have privately circulated these pictures of spicy eyes, and parents have also reported them. The next step is to report to the school leaders. Finally, parents are invited to come to school to cooperate with education.
? The whole thing, the class teacher is thinking "how to contain this matter". This result of only wanting a peaceful relationship is that most class teachers are simple, unprofessional, ineffective and self-defeating. In fact, when Miss Li invited her parents, she filled herself with anger. The parents of lead writer A flatly refused, saying "no time". W's parents said the most embarrassing sentence in the most embarrassing tone, "We have no education, and the children are not doing well. Please ask the teacher for education" and give it directly to the teacher. How did Z's parents react? Teacher Wu didn't give an answer. According to my experience, the situation is not much better.
? After the incident, the topic of sex was not contained. On the contrary, students are becoming more and more presumptuous, and the conversation between classes and sexual organs are always on students' lips, and the classroom atmosphere is also strange. In this way, puppy love between classmates will become the norm, and even more serious problems will appear.
? Adults all know that children are not satisfied with eating, drinking and being competitive when they reach puberty. They are eager to know and explore themselves and the bodies of the opposite sex. Family and friendship can't satisfy their emotional world, and their emotional world needs a kind of opposite sex emotion that moves them. However, under the background of exam-oriented education, most schools value students' grades, and most class teachers only complete the tasks assigned by the school. School leaders, or class teachers, lack the awareness of presupposition, do not intervene in advance, and do not have the sensitivity of education. It is easy to miss the best opportunity of education, which makes the outcome difficult to control after things happen.
Regarding sex education, if school leaders don't pay enough attention to it, parents always want to stay out of it, and colleagues don't want to intervene. As a class teacher, is it difficult to give up?
? My personal practice completely avoids the strange painting style in Mr. Wu's class. So how did I do it?
My students are junior high school students, about the same age as children in grade six. It looks childish, but what it says is not simple. Therefore, I will never regard them as a pure white child-a child who grew up in the Internet age, and there is no non-invasive poison.
First of all, men and women live together and tell them about adolescence. The contents of the lecture include students' body composition, sexual organ characteristics, female students' physiological period, male students' nocturnal emission and other knowledge.
? When giving lectures, teachers must be sincere and rigorous in their language. If the students laugh strangely, the teacher can tell the students the story of Cheng Xiao, a male obstetrician in the TV series Obstetrician, in order to tell every child that when you study every organ of the body with a scientific attitude, your heart is full of awe. What you have to do is to protect every organ from damage, so you won't use the hidden organs of the human body as a tool to call names.
? Secondly, the teaching of sexual knowledge is divided into men and women. When men and women give lectures together, we must take into account the differences between men and women's sexual psychology, and some topics can only be touched upon. But if boys and girls are separated, the teacher can give a comprehensive and detailed explanation. Can be taught from the following aspects:
? 1. Characteristics and functions of sexual organs. In particular, it should be emphasized that human sexual organs, like eyes, mouth and ears, are indispensable and can't be hurt, but their distribution positions are different. Since the director of the sex organ is in a secret position, the creator means to tell everyone to collect and protect it. You can neither let others hurt you nor hurt others.
? 2. The characteristics of sexual psychology. First of all, the development process of boys' sexual psychology: when they first enter adolescence, boys are very eager to know about sexual knowledge, but rarely get it from their parents or teachers, so they will meet their needs for sexual knowledge from the Internet or through hearsay, and express their curiosity by making jokes about sexual organs and drawing pictures related to sex. After entering the opposite sex approaching period, they are generally curious about women and want to know about them, including physiology and psychology. Once you have the desire to be close to the opposite sex and become interested in a specific goal, you will often have sexual desire after some contacts. Boys' sexual maturity is later than that of women, but their development is more intense, and they soon enter the period of sexual excitement. Under normal circumstances, boys will suppress their desires, but some boys will harass girls with their hands. In view of the development characteristics of boys' sexual psychology, class teachers should always pay attention to boys' words and deeds, establish correct sexual morality for boys, and promote the maturity of boys' sexual psychology. What are the sexual psychological characteristics of girls? Although girls' sexual development is earlier than boys', they are not easily disturbed because they are internal reproductive organs, and girls pay more attention to psychological and emotional satisfaction, so they pay less attention to sex than boys. However, once girls have sexual experience, it is easy to indulge. Therefore, the class teacher should also pay attention to the communication between girls and boys, reminding girls to respect themselves and not to have sex with boys casually.
? 3. The establishment of sexual morality. I talked about students' sexual psychology and some bad behaviors that may occur under the influence of sexual psychology. For example, writing cheat sheets about sex organs, drawing pictures of sex organs, even decomposing the pictures of husband and wife's life, and even hugging and kissing in public places like no one's watching. These are all manifestations of the lack of sexual morality. The head teacher must tell the students that it is normal to have psychological activities such as curiosity, agitation and imagination in adolescence, but the topics and behaviors related to "sex" are extremely private behaviors, which must not be displayed in public, let alone spread through various channels. This is the most basic sexual morality. Article 364 of the Criminal Law of People's Republic of China (PRC) commits the crime of spreading obscene articles: if the circumstances are serious, he shall be sentenced to fixed-term imprisonment of not more than two years, criminal detention or public surveillance. No matter from the public order and good customs, or from the legal level, the main author Xiao, deputy Z and W have made many mistakes in their exposition. It's just that they are sixth-grade students, under the age of 14, and their criminal responsibility can be suspended.
? 4. Key points of sexual protection. The head teacher helps students understand sexual knowledge, establish sexual morality, and help students learn to protect themselves from sexual abuse. Many class teachers have experience in instructing girls how to protect themselves, but they don't pay much attention to boys' sexual protection. In fact, cases of boys being molested and raped often appear in newspapers. How to guide students to have sexual protection? First of all, tell them that no one is allowed to touch any place covered by underwear and vests. Secondly, don't go out with adults other than your parents. Third, don't go to places where the opposite sex is single. Fourth, outside the family and school, refuse to ask adults for help, especially strangers. Fifth, set physical boundaries. People other than parents, don't be too close.
Don't worry about talking openly about sex with your child, it will lead your child astray. I have been a teacher for 30 years, and I will talk openly with every student about sexual knowledge. No student has gone astray. On the contrary, the students brought out by the class teacher who is always secretive in sex education have endless problems in "sex"!
? Here, I also want to make an appeal: sex education for children is difficult to achieve only by the professional consciousness of the class teacher! In my opinion, the most effective way is to start an all-round education mechanism and implement it in various ways and in all directions, so that sex education can be implemented and children's adolescence will not be confused, detoured or even turned back. How to do it specifically?
First of all, school leaders must change their ideas and don't put all this burden on the head teacher. Instead, professional sex education experts should be invited to the school to give lectures to children and popularize their sexual knowledge.
Secondly, the biology teacher should also move. Make use of biology class to educate students' body, teach students the knowledge related to body scientifically, rigorously and seriously, and let students read and recite sexual knowledge calmly. It is also necessary to test students' mastery of sexual knowledge through exams.
Third, school doctors should regularly guide and educate students about sexual health. Teach students how to clean and care for their sexual organs, but also teach students how to identify whether their sexual organs are healthy and how to ask a doctor for help once they find illness.
? Fourthly, teachers in the course of Morality and Rule of Law should also use the classroom to educate students on sexual morality, promote their sexual psychological maturity, and teach them how to restrain their improper sexual desire.
? Fifth, the class teacher should spare no effort to educate students on values. People's behavior pattern must be determined by the value pattern. In this paper, Xiao, the main author, drew many pictures full of sexual colors and spread them in the class. This shows that Xiao lacks basic sense of shame and public morality, which is of course related to his poor family education environment, but if the teacher can intervene in advance, Xiao will not be unscrupulous and the class spirit will not be affected.
Today's children live in a material-rich era, and their physical development is two or three years earlier than that of 20 years ago. In addition, there is no difference between good and bad information on the Internet, so sex education is imperative, but traditional education is still very taboo to openly carry out sex education activities. Therefore, before the incident, the teacher was too lazy to care. Once things break out, they can't manage it, either manage it or abandon it. It's better to nip in the bud than to be a failed fireman when things get out.