First, why? Love? Caused this result?
According to a good friend of the girl's mother, this mother is usually a person with strong personality. After the divorce, she lived alone with her daughter and never remarried, so she kept a tight grip on her daughter's academic performance and life. In addition to daily study, she also practices piano homework and sends her children to school every day, hoping to make them grow up healthily and do her best to protect them. Why was this mother killed by her children?
In fact, sometimes parents' love is so heavy that children can't breathe. Parents have serious control behavior, which will seriously affect their children's life and psychological state. Compared with parents who are too controlling, children can't breathe and have no happiness. In their minds, they would rather not have this parent. It is parents' instinct to love children, but in this process, many parents' love is distorted, or the scale and boundary of love for children are not grasped. Once they cross the border, it will cause such a tragedy.
Parents think it is meticulous care and teaching, but for children, he can only passively accept and obey. Parents think that everything is for the good of their children, but in the eyes of their children, they are already overwhelmed. And parents' meticulous care for their children will lead to this kind of love getting heavier and heavier, oppressing the children's feelings and psychology, and finally leaving only pain and depression, trying to escape from their parents' palms. To know that a body can only carry one soul, and parents impose their own souls on their children, this is the child's own spirit has died.
Therefore, children only seem obedient on the surface. In fact, those who are tortured by their parents are on the verge of collapse. There is a burden and hatred in their hearts. They hope that one day they can break through their parents' souls and have their own free sky.
Second, how should parents love their children?
The first is to give the child back his freedom. Motherly love is the highest form, and many mothers do it well, but there are also many mothers who turn this love into a rope and bind their children. Parents should give their children more freedom and give them greater internal motivation to learn and learn more smoothly. Therefore, parents should let go, let their children have the right to make their own choices, let him live a wonderful life, and don't let such a tragedy happen again.