The woman dictated: If she had experience before marriage, should she confess to her husband?

I am a very happy woman who got married soon, but the happier I am, the more uneasy I feel. If I have no past that I regret, if I am a clean girl. I had a boyfriend before I met my husband. At that time, I was young and ignorant, thinking that it was normal for men and women to have sex before marriage as long as they loved each other. So it was easy to make it the first time. Because he didn't fall in love, he didn't believe that I was a virgin at all, and he became more and more indifferent to me. Then I realized he didn't love me at all. We broke up soon. I haven't been in love since. Men actually care about whether they are virgins or not. I really regret it. If I could go back in time, I would definitely leave my first time to my husband. Later, I met my husband at a friend's party, and we both had a good impression on each other. I think we've identified him. After dating for six months, I have a relationship. I have been hesitant to tell him that I am not a virgin, but I think most men can't accept this kind of thing, and I am afraid he doesn't like it. Finally, I couldn't make up my mind to speak. Now married, the relationship has always been very good. My husband is very kind and won't ask me about the past, but he always has a knot in his heart and always feels guilty when facing him. I feel guilty for playing tricks on him. I'm afraid he will leave me when he knows the truth. He doesn't ask me about my past now. What should I say when he asks? Do I have to lie to him that I didn't have sex with anyone else? Should I lie to him like this all my life? I'm worried. I'm afraid what will happen if he knows I lied to him in the future! How I want to be honest with him, but I don't want to lose him! Su Qin replied: Happiness doesn't need too much truth. The cleaner and more thorough the truth is, the less likely it is to be happy. As long as you know that he loves you and you love him, that's enough. Maybe you think it's unfair to him not to tell him. But you must know that the world is like this, and it will definitely bring you absolute happiness if it is not absolutely fair. I believe that if he really knows the truth, it will be very painful and tangled. You're right. Because most men love their wives, they are not in the mood to completely accommodate their wives' previous sexual experiences. When a man falls in love with a woman, he wants to be all to her. This is a man's self-confidence, and only a confident man can make the marriage go on happily. Therefore, I advise you not to easily destroy a man's confidence, not to mention this rare happiness. Hiding the truth doesn't mean you are evil. Because I love him, I want to fall in love happily. Exposing the truth does not mean that you are noble. Because in order to open your own heart, you have to tie a knot in his heart from now on. If you really want to tell the truth, you are too selfish. For his own pleasure, but let him suffer more pain. I have met many men, and they will be very painful after learning about the past love history of their beloved women. They will say, "I'd rather not know. If we do not know, we can still live happily. " So, since you made up this lie from the beginning, keep your secret all your life. He never asks about the past, because he thinks you are a virgin and doesn't think you have too complicated old feelings and old hatreds, so there is no need to ask more. In the days to come, as long as you can live as usual, I don't think he will have any other doubts. Maybe you feel a burden in your heart and feel very bad. Then, repay him with tenderness and consideration. In the next few decades, keep this secret and make everything a dream ... Reading recommendation: Oral: My father-in-law will marry my mother-in-law who is 10 years younger than me. Reading recommendation: Revealing the secrets of the two sexes: Whose fault is Xiaosan's intervention? Reading recommendation: Revealing sexual secrets: Several characteristics that attract men most in San Xiao Reading recommendation: Revealing men's secrets: Women who take home may not necessarily marry home! Reading recommendation: men are shocked! Why are happy women more likely to cheat? Reading recommendation: Revealing sexual secrets: This kind of woman makes men madly fall in love with reading recommendation: Revealing the five types of women in the workplace with the highest derailment index: Revealing the nine psychological factors that lead to derailment: Reading recommendation: Oral: My best friend's husband violated me and slandered me to seduce him. Reading recommendation: men are shocked! Reading recommendation: revealing the secrets of the two sexes: the psychological factors of men's desire for polygamy reading recommendation: women dictate: married old lovers play with their feelings and only love their bodies.