In addition, Mr. Li Zhongying has 30 years of business management experience and has served as a senior executive in many large overseas enterprises. During his career, he has experienced various business and management work such as production management, human resources, process construction and enterprise management.
Therefore, the book "Rebuilding the Mind" is not only suitable for individuals to read, but also suitable for people from all walks of life to learn.
NLP is the study of how our brains work. If we know how the brain works, we can make better use of our wisdom and make our life better. Therefore, the author translates NLP into "psychosomatic grammar programming".
Ok, I understand the concept of NLP, and then I will share the basic spirit of NLP, that is, the 12 hypothesis. Many readers have just read this 12 hypothesis and feel that they have benefited a lot. So what is this 12 hypothesis? Next, I will explain them to you one by one.
No two people are alike.
No two leaves in the world are the same, so no two people in the world will have exactly the same life experience. Different experiences will naturally create different beliefs and personalities. Respect others' differences, and others will respect you. Everyone should leave some private space for others. Of course, we also have the right to ask others to respect us.
2. One person can't control another.
Everyone can only do things according to his own ideas, and it is impossible for people to manipulate others. If others think differently from us, we can't force them.
3. Effective is more important than reasonable.
When working with others, we only emphasize the right way or just being reasonable, but whether the communication can be fruitful or not, we are actually deceiving ourselves. Any plan and action is essentially to produce some kind of result. If we only pursue rationality without considering the effect, it is difficult to have a successful and happy experience, and the goal is always unattainable.
4. Only the world shaped by sensory experience has no absolute real world.
The world exists objectively. Everyone obtains external information through vision, hearing, etc. Then we will screen and evaluate the information ourselves, and finally decide their meaning. Because our values are formed subjectively, the meaning of thinking is also subjective.
The meaning of communication depends on the other party's response.
Communication cannot be simply measured by right or wrong, only "effective" or "ineffective". How you say "right" is meaningless, and the other party understands what you are saying is the meaning of communication. Therefore, it doesn't matter what you say, what matters is what the other party accepts. There are many ways to express words, and learning to "speak clearly" and "speak English clearly" is a valuable communication. Only by changing the way of speaking can we improve communication efficiency.
6. Repeating old practices will only lead to old results.
This content is really a good way to do things. Different practices will certainly lead to different results. If what you do doesn't work, then what you have to do is definitely to change your practice first. Many people, whether working or studying, sometimes just repeat the old patterns, such as memorizing words, starting from one today and memorizing them in the same way tomorrow, so that even if they study for ten years, they will not make progress. So don't be too rigid. Any innovation may have a greater probability of success than the old practice. If you want to perform better tomorrow, you have to think about new practices, and only iteration can make progress. Sometimes, you have to let go of all old ideas to see the possibility of a breakthrough.
7. There are at least three solutions to everything.
Please think about it. When you are in trouble, do you only deal with things in one way, and stubbornly believe that there is no new way out. But in fact, more practice means more choices, and choice means ability. Doing nothing is not good for you, so don't be lazy; "There is always a way" is good for you. You should keep trying to find a way. Why not be the first person to put forward new ideas?
8. Everyone chooses the behavior that gives him the best benefit.
This kind of thinking can help us to negotiate with others better. Everyone does things in order to achieve a certain purpose to some extent. Everyone's behavior will be dominated by the subconscious mind, so he will definitely make the choice that is most in line with his own interests at that time. So everyone's behavior must have his own reasons. Only by understanding the factors behind it can we get along with others better. The easiest way to know why a person does something is to ask, "What value do you hope to get from it?"
9. Everyone has the resources to make himself successful and happy.
Everyone has had a successful and happy experience, which means everyone has the ability to make himself happy. Everything we encounter every day may contain factors that bring us success and happiness, and the choice depends entirely on the individual. The outside world is actually just an objective existence. Everything has two sides. Whether we are happy or sad depends entirely on our own thoughts. If you don't believe that you can be happy, you are making it difficult for yourself to succeed.
10. In any system, the most flexible part is the part that can most affect the overall situation.
Flexibility means that there are many ways to choose, and choice is ability. Therefore, to say that a person is flexible is actually a strong adaptability and shows inner self-confidence. The less confident a person is, the more rigid he is, and he will not be allowed to have different opinions and hide other possibilities.
1 1. No setbacks, only feedback.
This is also what we should pay attention to in our study and work. Things are getting better and better, and it is normal to do things badly. "Frustration" is just a necessary process. We should focus on the future. All learning in life can only be perfected by constant adjustment.
12. Motivation and emotion can never be wrong, but actions have no effect.
There are many cases of doing bad things with good intentions in life, but the subconscious motivation is always positive. There is no harm in people's subconscious, but as a person, it is also possible to mistakenly think that a certain behavior can meet a certain demand, but I don't know that there are other ways, and then I may make a mistake. So we can accept a person's motives and emotions, but not his behavior.
Well, that's all for this book. Let me summarize it for you.
First of all, I introduced that the author of Rebuilding the Mind is Li Zhongying, who was the first person to introduce natural language processing into China. Then I will introduce this book to you in detail through two themes to help you get started: the first theme is the concept of NLP, which is translated as "psychosomatic grammar programming", which is a study of the working principle of our brain; The second theme is the basic spirit of NLP, namely 12 hypothesis. .