It is often said that "an ancient family is like a treasure". Old people are well informed. They can always remind their children and grandchildren how to behave and how to handle things. They can also look after the house and take care of their grandchildren and great-grandchildren. They can do as much housework as possible. Healthy old people can also work to support themselves without causing trouble to their children and grandchildren.
The so-called old age will reduce the life span of children, which is idealistic and has no scientific reason. Many people feel that their families are getting old. If something happens to the young people at home, they will consider the reason that they may be old (there are many such people). This is what old people are most afraid of. After all, it is unacceptable for white-haired people to send black-haired people, so some old people think it is not good to live for a long time, and it is more comfortable to die early. In fact, how much does the accident of young people have to do with the old people at home? Take the old saying that "life and death have a life". According to the current theory, you don't take good care of yourself and cherish your life. What does death have to do with the elderly at home?
It is said that there used to be a custom in a place where people over the age of 60 were sent to a pre-dug grave. Later generations sent a meal every day and laid a brick until the tomb door was completely closed, suffocating the old man alive. They may think that the 60-year-old flower armor is full, and living any longer will reduce the life span of future generations, which is ridiculous!
Old people are their children all their lives. They have worked hard and should enjoy their old age. Of course, if you can move, you can help your children and grandchildren do something within your power to relieve their pressure, try to say less useless words and stop making trouble. This is the blessing of the family. Some old people rely on their wealth, some are bullied by officials at home, and some even have sex with underage girls. I wish I had died early, so as not to cause trouble!
Young people should not abandon the old, but should be filial to the old, knowing that they will get old one day!
Is it a curse or a blessing for the elderly to live and get older? This problem exists as follows.
Old people are old, have rich economic income, or have enough savings, and are in good health. The economy does not exist for children to bear, and they do not need children to take care of them. Moreover, they can help their children share some housework and send their grandchildren away. Being old at home is a treasure, and their children will live happily with their parents. In this case, it doesn't matter how old their parents live!
On the other hand, parents are old, have no fixed income or savings, have physical problems, need someone to take care of them in bed, their quality of life is declining, their children's financial burden is too heavy, they are taken care of in the hospital bed, and their children have a burden at home, which will drag down their children. If so, living to the old age is a crime for yourself and an increase in the burden for children. There is no point in living to old age.
Therefore, the elderly should exercise more and keep an optimistic attitude. As long as they are healthy, they will not add burden to their children, and how old they can live is their blessing!
A 96-year-old birthday girl in our village, in the case of filial piety and good health, chose to strangle herself in bed with a belt at night!
The old man has been farming all his life. When he is old, his two sons let him retire from farming and enjoy his old age at home! After a lifetime of hard work, now that both sons are married, it's time to enjoy themselves at home!
The old man stayed at home, but refused to be idle, either cooking for his two sons or helping them clean up!
The old man's silent behavior touched his two sons, so both families are very kind to the old man! Everyone in the village lamented that the old man was so lucky that the children were so filial to him!
Not only that, the old people are in good health. Generally, old people in rural areas suffer too much when they are young, and their bodies are overdrawn, so most of them will be accompanied by a disease in their later years!
However, old people are not like this. He hardly gets sick all year round, not even a small cold. Sometimes when a son and grandson are ill, he will laugh a few words: just you? Young, not as good as an old man like me!
In this way, the old people live a healthy and happy life. Some people in the village have been talking about the old people behind their backs for a long time: I'm afraid they will live 100 years old. How can I be so blessed?
Soon, the old man will be 95 years old, in good health, and his children are still filial. The villagers are increasingly convinced that the old man may become the oldest person in our village!
However, in this year, the old man's family suffered accidents one after another, and the old lucky star in the eyes of the villagers became an unfortunate person!
The eldest son of the old man is a little old man in his sixties. One day, he invited workers to help repair the house at home. After finishing work at night, the old man happily drinks with the workers!
The next morning, the old man didn't get up, and his family felt very strange, because at this time, the old man had basically gone to work in the fields!
So the family went to his room to check and found the old man lying flat on the bed. When he leaned forward, he was out of breath and his body was hard!
Finally, after all kinds of tossing, I learned that the old man was only S because of cerebral hemorrhage!
The family is busy with the old man's funeral, while taking care of his emotions, for fear that the old man will leave with his eldest son in a fit of pique!
Old people with white hair send people with black hair. The old man's mood is particularly heavy, and his cheerful appearance has disappeared. He sighed all day, and his family couldn't help but try their best to be filial to him. I hope he can get out of the pain of losing his son as soon as possible!
After half a year or so, the pain in the old man's heart slowly faded. However, at this time, a heavier blow followed!
The grandson of the old man, driving on the road, was hit by an out-of-control truck for no reason. When he was in the hospital, the doctor told them that he was so badly injured that he didn't know if he could be saved. Even if he is saved, he is likely to become a vegetable!
Fortunately, people are finally out of danger and have not become vegetative. However, because their legs were so badly injured, they were basically paralyzed. The whole person is in a wheelchair, and he can't even take care of himself!
A good young man suddenly became like this. It seems that he will spend the rest of his life in a wheelchair!
The old man was hit again, and he seemed to be a few years older overnight, and his old age was gone!
People in the village began to talk about bad intentions. The old man is so blessed that he has robbed his family of their good fortune!
As the saying goes, good things don't go out, bad things spread thousands of miles, and a village is so big. Soon, such gossip reached the ears of the old man!
Hearing this, the old man seemed indifferent, but he must have kept these words in his heart!
One night, the old man went to bed early. The next morning, the family didn't see him get up, so they went to his room to wake him up for breakfast!
As a result, as soon as he entered the door, old man S tied his neck with a belt in bed for a whole day!
In this way, the old birthday girl in the village bid farewell to this world in a tragic way!
So is it a blessing or a curse for the elderly to live to old age?
Seeing this happen to the old people in the village, I analyzed and summarized it and felt:
1, the elderly, as long as they are healthy and their children are filial, that is a blessing. As for some people who say that old people will take away their children's blessings if they live too long, in my opinion, this is a statement without scientific basis, a superstition and a rumor!
2, and if the elderly are not healthy, they can't even take care of themselves, which is not a blessing for their children, but a curse!
For example, some old people have been lying in bed for more than ten or twenty years, and eating and drinking Lazar in bed every day is a kind of torture for their children and themselves!
So whether the longevity of the elderly is a blessing or a curse, I think this is not absolute, it varies from person to person and from thing to thing!
People's life span is long or short, which is related to heredity, living environment, lifestyle and mentality.
People are old, deaf, blind, clear-headed, and have a hard time. They can solve their own problems without bothering others. A certain income, filial piety and longevity are the blessings of the whole family.
People are old, bedridden, unable to take care of themselves, unclear language expression, hard and painful life, pain for themselves and pain for their families. As the old saying goes, "A long bed without a dutiful son". It is meaningless to live for so long, it is suffering.
Live with quality and dignity when you are old. If you live without quality and dignity, it is pain for the elderly. Live with quality, take care of yourself, don't bother your children, and how long you can live is a blessing.
Life is short, and the second half is the most precious, because as you get shorter, you are nothing but health. Learn to look down on everything, be happy with contentment, be disease-free and broad-minded, because contentment can make you happy! Health can make you happy!
Is it a blessing or a curse for the elderly to live and get older? There are different answers according to different viewpoints. But no matter what the situation, my opinion is the same.
The length of a person's life is related to his genetic factors, living habits and psychological factors. If the old man has good genes, a good life and a peaceful mind, such an old man will live a long life. As the saying goes, "there are old people in the family as treasures." Such an old man with good genes will be passed on to the next generation, so his next generation will live a long life, so people call the old man at home the treasure of the family, that is to say, having such an old man at home is a blessing for his family.
No matter whether the old man's genes are good or bad, he is our elder. It not only gave us life, but also painstakingly raised us and tried its best to provide us with education and help us get married. At this time, we should all repay our kindness and honor our parents and other elders.
The older the old people are, the better their health, the ability to take care of themselves, the pension and a certain amount of savings, which is of course a blessing for the old people. In this way, the younger generation not only lightens the burden of caring for their elders, but also does not have to worry about the old people's pension expenses, which is really a great blessing for the younger generation.
If the elderly are frail and often hospitalized, but they have no savings and no pension, the hospitalization expenses need to be borne by their children. This is a "disaster". It can only be said that the conditions of parents are similar, which brings more pressure to children.
We know that in order to raise their children, parents try their best to make money for our life and study. Due to the poor family economic conditions and weak foundation, parents can only make money by their own labor for the whole family to live and for their children to study. At that time, the income was low, the family was large, and it was not easy for parents, old and young. For the sake of their children's marriage, parents have been frugal for a long time, saving money for their sons' wives. Parents spend all their money on their children and never consider saving money for their own pension. Now that our parents are old and sick, we should repay their kindness and serve them without regrets. Don't dislike parents' incompetence and lack of savings, and you can't complain that parents don't have a pension. Let parents have a happy life and their illness can recover as soon as possible.
Is it a blessing or a curse for the elderly to live and get older?
This problem needs to be discussed from three angles, which may be a blessing, a curse, or both. In other words, when people are old, there are many factors that determine whether they are a blessing or a curse. Old people have a generous pension, old people have no pension, good health, children's family status, mental health.
First, bless! When old people were young, they were either high-ranking officials or wage earners. When they retire or leave their jobs, they have rich pensions, good health, no bad hobbies, no drag on anyone, and even help or take care of their children. Such an old man is a blessing to himself and to his children.
Even if you are in poor health or bedridden, as long as the pension far exceeds the cost of hiring a nanny, or if your children serve you in person, the pension of the elderly will exceed the salary of your children at work. This situation is also a blessing for children. It is not a blessing for the old man himself. Because everyone respects the god of wealth! I sincerely wish the elderly a long life!
Second, getting old is a curse. Old, no pension or only a few hundred yuan a month, sick, or paralyzed in bed, completely dependent on people to serve. It is not a blessing for children, nor is it a blessing for yourself. There is no dutiful son before the long bed. Who doesn't believe? Give it a try! In this case, long-term pain is better than short-term pain, and early death and early relief.
Third, blessings and disasters depend on each other. Some have brothers, but they are not very harmonious. The old man is old and has a rich pension, but he is in poor health or bedridden. Whoever serves will get a pension and an old man's legacy. This waiter is a blessing, but the old man is not. He suffered every day of his life. For another son, he is unwilling to serve the elderly, and he is not short of money, and even his income far exceeds the pension of the elderly. It doesn't matter whether the old man lives or dies. There's no way to talk about it. There is also a son who has no conditions to serve the elderly, and the old man's pension and inheritance are not his share, which is very helpless.
Therefore, whether getting old is a blessing or a curse depends on the specific situation. Tell a real case!
A director of a city is about to retire when he is in office, suffering from cerebral thrombosis, paraplegia, aphasia and hemiplegia, and his wife is not strong. The old couple need someone to take care of them.
They have four sons and a daughter, all of whom died of sudden illness, leaving a son and a daughter. The eldest son of the director is the director of a bureau in a county of this city. The eldest husband and wife, son and daughter-in-law all have corresponding good jobs, which is inconvenient to serve. They don't want to serve the elderly at all, and they don't care about their pensions. They are not short of money.
The second family is rural. The third child works in the city, and his wife and children are in the countryside. Old four works in the city, and there are old and young people in the world. When my father was in office, he bought a building for Lao Si, married a daughter-in-law, and became a section chief in his father's bureau.
The old man is ill and needs constant care. The eldest, the third and the fourth have jobs, and the third daughter-in-law has children, so it is inconvenient to serve the elderly. Only the second child works in the countryside and can perform military service. Of course, the second brother went to wait on his father. His daughter-in-law manages several acres of land at home, and the land is also well managed and highly mechanized. You can find a helper when you are busy occasionally. When the man is not at home, the woman can easily ask for help.
The second couple are "super smart" or "thieves", and they won't leave without an empty door! Recognize that this is a road to get rich and lay the foundation for entering the city code. More than two years later, his mother passed away. Before her mother died, the second child had already drawn up a suicide note, and both his parents pressed their fingerprints. The general idea is who will provide for the aged, who will provide for the aged, who will die, and to whom the legacy (building) belongs. The usual nursing expenses, pensions, etc. Naturally belongs to the waiter.
The third child offended the unit leader at work and was dismissed because his father was paralyzed, which was different from when he was on the job. Go home and farm! Old three thought he had to wait on the old man for a few days, wondering how much share he could get with his eyes closed! He went to the city and asked his second brother to serve the elderly together. The second brother declined for various reasons: Never mind, I'll do it myself (I said in my heart that you will also serve, so what should I do with the inheritance).
The old director lived for 20 years after his illness. The second daughter-in-law said everywhere: My man is considerate, patient and careful! If it was someone else's service, it would have been dead! This is indeed the "truth", but everyone knows that the elderly can get 8000 yuan if they live one more month. The longer the living God of Wealth lives, the better.
After the old director became a pig's tail, the second son cremated his father, found a few himself, and buried them in a low-key way like a dog. The other three brothers basically stayed out of it. Afterwards, things got out of hand, and the other three brothers and nephews all appeared. The meaning is clear, what they all want!
What a mess! What a mess! After mediation by the elders in the family, there was no result. After mediation by the City Intermediate People's Court, no judgment was made. It is said that the second child needs the consent or disapproval of other brothers and sisters to transfer the ownership of the old man to his own account name. Anyway, there are many accidents in it. The case is under trial.
Therefore, the old man is old, depending on the specific situation, whether it is a blessing or a curse, everything is possible!
There is an old saying in China: "A curse comes from the mouth, and a blessing hangs in the balance". It is neither a blessing nor a curse for the elderly to spend their twilight years safely. It is true that it is a burden to cause trouble to the younger generation. Young people with strong self-care ability and rich income are also willing to accept it, especially the elderly who have no self-care ability and need to be taken care of by others have no quality and dignity. I don't want to die when I'm alive. It's really a headache! You have to prove the old saying that "it is a blessing, not a curse, but a curse cannot be avoided", so don't complain and worry about others, and do your duty and obligation well!
Is it a blessing or a curse for the elderly to live to old age?
Alas, how can such a problem still occur?
I can tell you that you think it is a blessing, and you think it is a curse!
Personally, I think it is a blessing for the elderly to live to be old, and it is also beneficial to their descendants!
I am an old man, and my mother lived to be 97 years old!
My mother raised our five brothers and sisters. We are poor, we suffer, and we have had a very difficult time!
When I was a child, we had cotton-padded clothes, trousers and shoes in winter. I won't let us get cold!
I am old, so we take care of it!
My brothers and sisters and I said: Guangming Street is the street where my mother lived for more than 90 years!
I told my brother and sister: Guangming Street is the poorest in our family. Now my mother is over ninety years old, and every family has the most harmonious life!
I think mom has added a blessing to our life!
After a year and a half in hospital, brothers and sisters take turns to take care of the beds. I am tired! It costs money!
Taking care of my mother is just a stage. Thanks to mom: Brothers and sisters, every household will be safe forever!
I'm grandma Liu Chunyun: It's a blessing, not a curse. Nobody can escape! Have some conscience for your old man!
2020.6.6.
Old people should be analyzed with two kinds of consciousness when they are old.
With the growth of age, the elderly are suffering from various diseases. Some elderly people have been sick for a long time and take medicine to keep fit, but they pay special attention to their own health. Coupled with the care of children around him, the elderly can communicate with others, maintain a balanced mentality, follow the doctor's advice and maintain their health, so that cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases will gradually form a law, he will live longer, and his children will often take care of him, and his mentality will be better, so that he can take it easy. Such old people should protect themselves and live longer. This is happiness.
Another kind of old people, although physically aging, have troubles, are not optimistic, are not very good, and have troubles in their hearts for a long time. They have no sense of prevention when dealing with their bodies, and take everything seriously. They always keep some things in their hearts, don't like activities every day, talk listlessly with people, look old and care about everything. He is too old to listen to other people's advice. Self-strength is relatively strong, and his children advise him, but he is well-founded, often complaining about others, and his mentality is very problematic. If an acute cerebrovascular disease suddenly occurs and it is impossible to seek medical treatment, then it is a disaster for the old man to become a veteran.
May the elderly maintain a good attitude and an optimistic attitude and have a happy old age!
This is a blessing, no matter who wants to live to be a hundred years old, as the saying goes, long life.
No matter whether you are bitter or happy, no matter what you have experienced, as long as you can live to 80 or 90 years old and have no serious illness, you are lucky.