When a woman becomes a mother, although she has to go through pregnancy in October, it is an experience that every woman must go through. I call this "Du Jie", because if she passes, she will have the most precious "wealth" in the world-a "broken child" who continues her life!
As a mother, it is natural to have children, because once a woman becomes a mother, her life is probably complete, but is it over just by giving birth? Of course not. Next, what you need to do is how to be a qualified mother. It is not easy to be a good mother.
Mother's words and deeds, quality training, heavy life experience and attitude towards life have great influence on children. Some influences may not be intentional or deliberate, but they still play an invisible role. For example, if you accidentally say a dirty word, it may be remembered by your child. If you accidentally make a mistake, you may feel indifferent, but it may be learned and used by children. ...
Children are basically brought up by their mothers from birth. In the process of educating children, mothers will more or less integrate their outlook on life and values into their children's growth education, which will directly affect their own judgment. Mother's personality and education level will play a great role in the healthy growth of children!
I remember the idea that my son instilled in him from the beginning: mom doesn't need you to be particularly good, but you must be strong, brave, healthy and content. Don't be too persistent, be optimistic, and the most important thing is self-confidence! (But sometimes I also reflect on myself. It seems that I didn't do all this myself. )
The source of life of all things is maternal love. We grew up under the care of maternal love, but we often neglected how to repay our elderly mother with the same deep love. But my mother doesn't care, as always, pay and pay ... We always ignored my mother's feelings before, and we didn't understand her good intentions until we had children!
After becoming a mother, I found that it was not easy to be a mother. I gave up my world of flowers and flowers, and I was so busy around the children that I forgot to dress and eat! As a nursing mother, only you know what you are suffering. My son breastfed until he was two and a half years old. Some people may think that this is the so-called doting, but it is not. As a mother, you have the responsibility to give everything for him! Of course, a correct education is a matter of course. How to educate children, especially boys, I feel like my mother said: Don't ask your children to be adults, to be good people and kind people!
Before I gave birth to my son, I always thought that children were a particularly noisy "species", and there were many things every day! After giving birth to my son, I changed again, and immediately felt that the child was the cutest little angel in the world. His crying, his laughing and even his noisy power can melt my heart!
When I became a mother, I found that I didn't feel anything, and I was grumpy, impatient, melodramatic and unbearable ... As long as I could change my son's health and safety, all the changes I made were worth it!
When I became a mother, I found that my child's every move touched my heart. I seem to anticipate all the dangerous things for my children, and I also understand that parents have endless hearts, but they are tired and happy. ...
When children grow up and start school, many parents usually adopt contradictory education methods for their children. Some parents will use the traditional "force solution" when their children make mistakes and refuse to change their education. Although it is immediate, it will also have a great impact on the child's life!
I never agree with the so-called traditional education-"A dutiful son is born under a stick". What happened to those children who grew up under the abuse of their parents? Under the scolding and cursing of their parents, they will become weak and feel inferior. They are weak in school and work, afraid of making mistakes, being criticized by teachers, and being scolded by their bosses for their poor work. They will be very concerned about other people's eyes and sensitive, and always feel that someone is talking about themselves behind their backs. Over time, it will be derailed from society, without communication, without rich and beautiful life and yearning, just like a lonely goose, which will be swallowed up by time. ...
In fact, I think most of children's sense of security comes from their parents' care. If they are often scolded by their parents, they will be full of fear, afraid of doing something wrong, make their parents unhappy, and often deny themselves. They are sensitive, fragile, inferior and insecure, so it is difficult for children to build trust with others, and there will be great problems in interpersonal communication and social work in the future. Therefore, I advise parents who have this mentality around them to take action. We came from childhood, too. If our parents had given us this kind of education, could you really be as filial as they hoped? Or, as I said, out of this world, completely out of this world?
I often tell my son: Mom doesn't agree that "men don't flick when they have tears". If you want to cry, cry loudly, but if you want to hide and cry alone, don't let others see your cowardice. Dry your tears after crying, forget the sorrow, and face life optimistically!
You should release the pressure reasonably and face life firmly. Remember, self-confidence and strength are indispensable to life! Son, you are not a saint, even the cleverest people make mistakes, so making mistakes is inevitable, but you have made mistakes once, so try not to make them again, that is, don't fall into the same pit twice! This is what your grandmother once told me. ...
If you don't know how to be tolerant, you won't be respected by others, but if you are too tolerant, you will easily lose your self-esteem. In fact, what I have been pursuing is: endure a moment of calm and take a step back. But in this law of the jungle society, people are easy to bully, and the weak are never respected! You should face the bullying bravely and do it then. Because bullying is the same as "domestic violence", it is only the first time, and there are countless times!
My son, you can be a migrant worker, an engineer, an armed police soldier and a tramp, but you must be an idealist. I hope you have your own ideals from beginning to end. When you are very young, you want to be a scientist. Later, when you grew up, you saw the special forces in the movie. You told me that you would go to military school in the future and then defend your country. ...
Son, take a step back, even if you don't get into college in the future, it's very ordinary and ordinary to make a living by setting up a street stall on the roadside, but these are nothing, because you are my child; As long as we maintain a noble personality, be contented and cherish family, friendship and love, it is enough. Mom just wants you to have a bright, pure and happy world. Therefore, educate children to treat the honor and disgrace in the world correctly and avoid excessive pursuit of perfection! Be responsible for children ...
You should have the courage to doubt anything you think you don't believe, and investigate the reasons and reasons, and finally find the answer yourself. Of course, including what mom told you today! Son, I just hope you can set goals, be confident and don't put pressure on yourself. Just like your exam, although you did well in your mother's eyes, you told her that you still didn't do well in the exam. This idea proves that although you are confident in yourself and think that you can play better, your mother is ashamed of it, but her only hope is that you are psychologically sunny, healthy and sunny all the way in life.
Mom, I wish you were the wind, raising white sails; May you be a boat, breaking waves. Life smiles in front of you. Go ahead and embrace a colorful life. I hope you are fearless and grow up healthily in the sun!