First, give children enough encouragement.
For children, nothing can inspire them to love life and pursue success more than sincere encouragement. As parents, we should fully understand and tolerate the inevitable mistakes and shortcomings in the process of children's growth; Give timely affirmation and encouragement to the specialties and advantages of children's growth. So I can always pay attention to children, find their "bright spots" in time, give them warm appreciation and encouragement, and constantly enhance my self-confidence.
Second, let children pursue happiness.
Happy experience helps to cultivate children's generous and cheerful personality. As parents, in order to make their children feel happy, they should let their children pursue happiness by themselves. I remember playing hide-and-seek with her when she was very young. When she found me, the excitement was indescribable. Therefore, what I want to do with my heart is to actively guide and cultivate children's extensive interests, provide them with happy choices, and let them maintain this habit of pursuing happiness and bring it into their later lives.
Third, cultivate children's positive attitude.
As parents, let children know that some people are happy all their lives, not all of them are smooth sailing, but because they have strong adaptability and good mentality and can cheer up quickly. I have been practicing my strong character, so that my children can see that I will never give up and never be discouraged. I pay more attention to giving guidance from behavior, helping children get positive psychological adjustment in time, constantly strengthening their tough psychological quality and having the ability to solve life problems.
Fourth, listen to children and respect them.
Although children are small, they also have their own circle of activities and their own joys and sorrows. She needs someone to talk to. No matter how busy I am at work, I will spend some time with my children every day. Don't watch TV, don't read newspapers, don't listen to music, concentrate on communicating with children, listen to their voices, eliminate their doubts and guide them in time. There may be some difficulties for busy parents, but you should try your best to do it, even for a few minutes before going to bed. For example, ask your child about his day's study at school; What did you do all day? What progress has been made? A few short sentences are enough to make children realize their parents' concern, thus enhancing the communication between adults and children. In addition, many parents often buy clothes and toys for their children, but rarely subscribe to magazines and magazines. Books are the ladder of human progress. If children's reading habits are developed from childhood, they will benefit for life. If children insist on reading, they will always insist on learning. Many parents like to play the role of teachers and often teach their children to learn textbooks. I think it's better to spend some time reading with my children. Maybe some parents will say, "We also bought a lot of books for our children, but what if they don't read them?" In fact, parents' education for their children can only be subtle. A parent who plays mahjong day and night has been telling his children to study. Can children learn? Parents are reading books, and children will follow them, read books with children, and communicate with children about the characters in the story, which characters should learn and which characters are annoying. Children have their own ideas in their hearts. If she can speak her true thoughts and get their parents' approval, then she will gradually like reading and get tired of playing with toys. Giving children lifelong knowledge is a consciousness that many parents lack. Buy a map. I can buy a globe and put it at home. Whenever the news goes to any place, I will take my children to find that place. There are joys and sorrows in the news, which vary greatly from region to region. Let the children know what kind of life children live under the Iraq war, and let them know that Japan and the United States are rich. They should know that prosperity depends on high technology and knowledge. If they have no knowledge, they are also backward. Let the children know to study hard.
Let children feel happy time, enjoy warmth, bathe in the spring breeze, and let children grow up healthily and happily, thus benefiting for life and having abundant capital for a better life.
Q:
Thank you for your answers. It is our wish to let children grow up happily! Now I'm in a minefield, talking to him, either ignoring it or answering just no, and then I yell at him. He laughed and cursed. I hit him, but he almost kept silent. I know there's a problem. I don't know what happened.
Answer:
It is the nature of parents all over the world to want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. Every family is looking for a better education for their children to realize our common desire. Of course, as an ordinary family, we also have the same expectations. Therefore, in addition to relying on the education of schools and teachers, we have been leading children to explore.
First, correctly understand children and improve the status of family education.
(1) Raising children is the bounden duty of parents. Everyone should understand a truth from the day they become prospective parents. Raising children is the unshirkable responsibility of parents, and they should undertake the responsibility of educating their children all their lives. There is no reason to shift the responsibility to others. Scientists have found that wolves never give up the responsibility of feeding their cubs, and they also accuse human beings of ignorance. Numerous examples have proved to us again and again that the good education of parents has made the children's future, whether ordinary people or literati.
(2) Every child is an angel. Whether boys or girls, their hearts are full of innocence and kindness, and they touch us like angels. Yes, as the parents of angels, we should create a good living environment for our angels, especially our mothers. Don't spread the unhappiness of life and the pressure of work to children, but try your best to create a harmonious atmosphere. When my daughter went to kindergarten, the teacher commented that her daughter was just like Zhao Wei, the actor of the swallow in the TV series Princess Zhu Huan, and she was so naive and playful both in and out of the play. Therefore, since then, we have been trying to create an environment suitable for the growth of swallows for our daughter. Unfortunately, for a while, I always felt that my daughter was young and neglected her heart. The pressure and unhappiness of work were transferred to her, which had an impact on her character. Fortunately, after her primary school, the teacher's words made me wake up, let me wake up in time, and strive to create our innocent and lovely angel daughter.
(3) Understand children and their inner needs. As children grow up day by day, the knowledge of young parents is becoming less and less, and they can't meet their inner needs. Maybe we all feel the same way. Children's problems always leave us speechless. Therefore, the reality forces us to be caring parents, to know more about children, to understand children, and to be prepared to answer them. In fact, you have inadvertently prepared for our children. It is a last resort and the best way for parents to increase the gold content of their own knowledge.
(4) Correct understanding of children's nature. Naughty, active, curious and even lying are the characteristics and nature of children. As parents, don't think this is a child's shortcoming, let alone completely deny it, and don't allow children to have these "faults", otherwise they will reprimand and beat and scold, and obliterate their nature. Children's understanding of things has certain limitations. There is no word "intentionally", such as lying. Children may have some desire in their hearts or don't think it's a lie. As parents, it is their bounden duty to correct in time and guide their children to develop in the right direction according to their nature. Only parents can do better.
Second, explore appropriate educational methods according to children's personality.
(1) Guide children to develop healthily. Children are young and like to imitate the words and actions of adults. At the same time, their ability to distinguish right from wrong is still weak. Therefore, what adults do inadvertently affects the habit formation of children. A few days ago, my wife and I talked about my study experience in Du Jin last month. I said, "it's good to study ... when the teacher is in class, he listens if he wants to, and dozes off if he doesn't want to." Hearing this, the daughter sighed: "I didn't want to listen to it when I was in class, so I slept for a while." Afraid to let me explain to her. My daughter's words forced me to pay more attention step by step, always care, and dare not say a word easily.
Don't discuss other people's right and wrong in front of children. Talking about other people's shortcomings in front of children, will children remember and have a good impression on them? Will the child still like him? If it is a child's teacher, the child will not listen carefully and will not study hard. On the contrary, if you praise their teacher unintentionally, children will have a sense of pride, think their teacher is great and respect him more. More importantly, children will also learn to discover the advantages of others, learn from the advantages of others, and tolerate the shortcomings of others.
(2) Encourage children to tell and learn to listen. Don't be misled by "what happened to the children's family" Children are sometimes unhappy. When children are unhappy, we don't need to ask the reason, but try our best to find a solution. On the contrary, we should encourage children to speak out and not take it to heart. Then, you just listen quietly. At this time, children just want to find an audience like adults. Often when he (she) has not finished talking with you, he (she) has found a solution and is very happy.
(3) Learn to appreciate children and enhance their self-confidence. Lincoln once said: Everyone wants to be praised. Psychologist william james once said: The deepest desire of human nature is to gain the appreciation of others. The strongest demand in a child's heart is also the desire to be appreciated by others. Studies in psychology and pedagogy show that parents' encouragement will directly affect children's personality development. If a child is not appreciated in childhood, it will lead to his lifelong personality defects. I am very much in favor of the appreciation education now, and I have always used it in my daughter's education. Anyway, whenever my daughter makes progress, I never forget to praise her. My daughter is in high spirits and full of confidence in herself. With self-confidence, why can't you solve the difficulties you encounter? Especially girls, are more sensitive. If you say she can do it, she can. If you say she can't, she will prove to you again and again that she is stupid with practical actions. But remember, praise should be moderate and appropriate, and don't abuse it, otherwise it will give children an illusion and disgust them.
(4) Help children realize their mistakes and learn to criticize. It is not difficult for us to criticize. The key is whether the child can accept it. First of all, we should treat children's mistakes correctly, help them analyze the reasons, improve their understanding of mistakes from the perspective of empathy, and give appropriate criticism after children realize their mistakes, which will produce better results and children can accept them calmly. Help children understand criticism correctly. When my daughter was very young, I began to tell her the truth that "good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most is unpleasant is good for action". I often tell her that it doesn't matter if the child makes mistakes, but he is still a good boy after correction, but he should be honest and don't hide it. On the other hand, children's mistakes are also an improvement, because correction is not to overcome a shortcoming. If you say something on impulse that hurts your child's self-esteem, you must say "I'm sorry" to your child and correct it later.
Third, combine family and communicate with teachers.
Parents should reach a consensus, otherwise the children will be at a loss and may take advantage of it. Whoever is kind to him (her) will listen to him (her), which is not good for the development of children in the long run. But don't bring it up in person, or the child will argue; Contact your child's teacher in time to strengthen communication. One is to grasp the children's performance in school in time, and the other is to provide information for teachers, seek the best combination of education for both sides, and avoid blind spots.
Fourth, improve their overall quality and set an example for children.
In order to educate children well, parents themselves must have excellent knowledge. As parents, it is necessary for us to strengthen our study and improve our comprehensive quality. Only with inexhaustible knowledge can we have a lasting impact on children. Every time, the child has the deepest impression of you at first sight, and the first impression has the deepest influence on him or her. Whether playing mahjong or reading books, playing games online or looking for knowledge, the impact on children is very different. Parents' knowledge advantage can provide a hotbed of knowledge for their children to win superior knowledge. We should do a good job in example education. On the one hand, we should be serious and harsh on our children's expectations, but at the same time, we should always be tolerant and "devious" to ourselves, which will lead to children being unconvinced and failing to achieve the expected results. If you want to have children, do it first!
Educating children can't be generalized. Only by mastering children's own characteristics can we find a better targeted education method and stick to it in real life, otherwise it will become an armchair strategist. To educate children, we should make long-term preparations, not on a whim, because family education will have an impact on children's life; Educating children is multifaceted, and don't just focus on one aspect or several aspects of children. Therefore, be a concerned parent, learn to find children, understand children, explore and improve educational methods in daily life, cultivate children's all-round development, and let children grow up healthily and happily!