Because it is the mother, not the father, who affects the child's every move, it is very important for the mother to set an example in the family. Napoléon Bonaparte once said: "A child's behavior depends entirely on his mother." His achievements in life are largely attributed to his mother's tempering of his will, strength and self-control at home. Samuel smiles, a famous British best-selling writer, brilliantly discussed the vital importance of mothers to children's growth in his book The Power of Character, which has been selling for a hundred years: "If a child is entrusted to an ignorant woman, he will be uneducated and hopeless in the future. If a mother is lazy, immoral, dissolute, picky, irritable and restless in the family, then the family will become a hell on earth full of misfortunes-no one dares to avoid it, let alone wishful thinking. Growing up in such a family is a great misfortune for children, which will lead to moral defects and moral underdevelopment-this will not only bring disaster to themselves, but also bring misfortune to others in society. " It can be seen that the influence of mother on children's growth is enormous and irreplaceable.
China had a strong national strength during the Han and Tang Dynasties, and was able to resist foreign aggression and defend its own dignity. Of course, there are many reasons, but I think it is related to the higher status of women at that time. At that time, women's social status was very high, and they could receive education like men, go out to be officials and participate in various social affairs. The improvement of women's status and quality directly affects the prosperity of the nation and the strength of national strength. Therefore, no one dared to bully us at that time. In the Song and Ming Dynasties, on the contrary, the country declined, its national strength was empty, and it was bullied by foreign aggression. Why? There may be many reasons, but I think it has something to do with the prevailing neo-Confucianism. Because Neo-Confucianism puts a lot of spiritual shackles on women, women's status is not guaranteed, they can't receive cultural education like men, and they can only accept the shackles of Neo-Confucianism; Can't go out to be an official and participate in social affairs. Mother is imprisoned, bound, without status, human rights and dignity. What about the children influenced and edified by it? It can only be "a slave raises a child, and you get not one slave, but two slaves." Therefore, the whole nation will decline, its national strength will be empty, and it will inevitably be invaded and bullied by foreign countries. This is a very painful historical lesson. Why do we say that after the liberation of our nation and the founding of New China, the first problem to be solved is that women should turn over and be masters, completely smash the Millennium chains, and let women receive modern education like men, become officials, and participate in social affairs like men? Because this is not only a political issue for the people to be masters of their own affairs, but also a long-term plan for national rejuvenation and development. Only when women are truly liberated can the nation be completely liberated and the great rejuvenation of the nation be truly realized.
Many great people, recalling their childhood, feel that their mothers have the greatest influence and the deepest impression on them. For example, the beloved Premier Zhou Enlai, Commander-in-Chief Zhu De and Chairman Mao Zedong all fondly recalled their mothers and said that their mothers had a great influence on their growth. In his famous essay "Remembering My Mother", Zhu De fondly recalled her mother's ordinary and great life, and described her noble sentiment and personality charm concretely and profoundly, which had a great influence on her growing into a strong revolutionary soldier. You can also find many great people around the world. Without exception, they all have a very great mother. Napoleon's mother mentioned earlier is a woman with great personality charm. In our life, we can also find many typical examples at will. The mother is kind and the child is kind, the mother is hardworking and the child is hardworking, and the mother is willing to help others and the child is enthusiastic and helpful. On the contrary, if the mother is lazy, the child will be lazy; If the mother is timid, the child will also put things around; When the mother is irritable, the child will be irritable, irritable, unfriendly and impatient; Mothers have narcissistic complex, so do children, self-pity, self-pity, and so on. In a word, there are many mothers in children. Not exactly the same, but in many ways, in a certain direction, will leave the shadow of the mother, leaving a deep imprint on the mother. This shows how important mothers are to the progress and development of a society, and they determine the quality of our next generation. Samuel smiles's statement that "the quality of a mother determines the quality of a nation" is really inspiring and thought-provoking.
So, what about father? Does father have no influence? Yes, but it's very small. Samuel smiles said in the book "The Power of Character", "In some families, the father's personality is extremely bad-he drinks too much and is unfaithful to chickens and dogs. But as long as the mother is thrifty and reasonable, the family can remain intact and the children can thrive in the future. However, the opposite is rare. In a family, if the mother misbehaves, no matter how the father's words and deeds are educated, it is difficult for the child to make a difference in his later life. " This can also be well confirmed in our lives. Mao Zedong's father is not bad, but from our general point of view, he is definitely not a good father. In the TV series "Just Classmates and Teenagers", the director made appropriate modifications and beautification. In this respect, we can also see its narrow selfishness, paternalism and inhumanity. But because Mao Zedong's mother is virtuous, considerate, diligent and capable, she can maintain a relatively solid family background and influence and edify a generation of great men. Of course, this doesn't mean that a father can be immoral or immoral. We say this just to show that the influence of mother on children's growth is the most important, huge and irreplaceable. Just to illustrate, mothers should first be strict with themselves, temper themselves, and let themselves have noble moral sentiments, good personality and good education, instead of "others are Marxism-Leninism and their own liberalism". This is first for the happiness of the family, for the healthy growth of children, and for the harmonious and long-term development of society. After all, mother's influence is so great that she determines the quality and rise and fall of a nation.
We respect our mother because she is very important; We worship our mother because she is broad; We love our mother because of her kindness; We praise our mother because of her greatness; We are attached to our mother because she is persistent.