The child refused to go to the toilet. Not everyone is born knowing how to eat and drink Lazar. In fact, it is the mother who guides the children step by step. The child refuses to go to the toilet because he is used to using diapers and feels close and safe. So what should we do?
1 How to help children who refuse to go to the toilet?
Since anxiety is the root of refusing to go to the toilet, the first thing to be solved is to help children overcome their fears. Once the fear is dealt with, there is a simple behavior procedure (normal toilet training process). If the anxiety is not solved, the behavior plan may not succeed. Many parents have "tried everything", but there is no positive result. At this time, parents may feel depressed and eventually make them feel that their children are not good. This is unfair, because children can't control their anxiety at all. Anxiety is an "irrational" consciousness to control brain burr. Children can't do anything, but parents can.
Bach flower therapy
Parents can reduce their children's anxiety by initiating Bach flower remedial measures. Sour pulp is a remedy, and Shimeigui and cherry plum will help children cope with the fear of letting go. These can be bought online or at health food stores.
30ml/1 oz glass bottles and glass droppers should be purchased at the same time. Fill the bottle with water, add 2 drops of sour pulp, 2 drops of roses, 2 drops of plums, and add about 1 teaspoon of brandy to serve. Add 4 drops of mixed liquid to milk, juice, soup and cereal for children to eat. This medicine should be taken four times a day (morning, noon, afternoon and evening). Odorless and completely harmless (absolutely safe for pregnant women and newborn babies! )。
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After giving this remedy for 2-3 weeks, parents can start training their children how to go to the toilet. There are many ways to do this. For example, take off the child's clothes and let her run around the house naked. At any time, she needs to be ready to take her to the toilet one hour after dinner. You can also put your child naked in the bathtub after a nap and put a little water on it, which can encourage urination and is beneficial. Of course, it is unrealistic to do it overnight, but appropriate progress rewards are necessary.
Once you start the toilet training program, it is important not to provide diapers for your children. A child must face his or her fears. However, it would be easier to use Bach's remedy. Sometimes, the whole problem disappears instantly, and children even take the initiative to train themselves!
You can find more information about Bach's flower therapy online and in books, and you can also ask professionals for help.
Children refuse to go to the toilet. 2 1, don't rush it.
Cultivating the baby's good defecation habit is the only way for the baby to grow up. It is a long-term and step-by-step process, which requires patience and careful care, and also prepares for the kindergarten. Too hasty or improper training, both babies and parents suffer greatly, and even have reactions such as anxiety, uneasiness and resistance. Although some people have learned to control urination and defecation very early after training, they start to wet the bed seriously at the age of four or five, and the training time is longer, so the attitude of parents is the most important. Modern preschool education believes that babies should be fully respected in defecation training, or more accurately, it should be defecation learning. Emphasize the baby's own initiative in the learning process and realize the importance of independence. In the face of some shy babies, parents should give special encouragement instead of punishment. This requires more efforts to make the baby adapt to training. In short, be patient and don't put too much pressure on the baby, otherwise it will make him hold his urine because of fear.
2. Understand with your heart
Controlling urination and defecation is a very simple thing for adults, but it is quite complicated for a child. Think about it, he can wear diapers to excrete at will, learn to control the muscles of rectum or bladder, then tell his parents, then go to the toilet, take off his pants and sit on the toilet or bedpan before he can excrete. What a difficult process.
When the child can successfully complete these processes from the beginning, parents must praise him and make him feel that it is a very glorious thing to sit on the toilet to pee or defecate. It means that he has grown up, so he doesn't need diapers or wet his pants. I believe that children will take controlling defecation as an important thing to do well.
3. Maintain a tolerant attitude.
In the whole learning process, parents should maintain a relaxed and tolerant attitude, pay attention to it and be measured. Urine training is only a part of the baby's growth process, and each baby's development degree is different. The training process should be gradual. Don't compare with other babies, and don't scold or beat and scold because of the baby's "accident". If parents pay too much attention to the baby's urine and urine, the baby may unconsciously take advantage of this psychological negative resistance.
4. Spiritual encouragement
Every time the baby finishes urinating, parents will make exaggerated movements with exaggerated voices and give some words of praise. This can not only promote the baby's language and psychological development, but also make the baby feel comfortable and fast when going to the toilet. Your baby will feel proud and happy. There may be reasons for the baby's overall comfort.
For children's toilet training, mothers must be careful and don't worry too much. The baby's absorption ability is a little slow, so mothers must be patient.