The second model is that these two people can be children together in the relationship. There is a saying that the beauty of love lies in that we can become children together, be naive and coquetry, and even make trouble without reason in some trivial matters. Every man has a little boy in his heart, and every woman has a little princess dream in her heart. Therefore, when they meet the right lover, they will relax, their brains are not so bright, and they feel that the other person is stupid, which is also good.
The third mode is that we can be each other's parents. Why do you need to find intimate relationships and partners when you grow up? In fact, if you think about it, we all want to find someone who can love us unconditionally like our parents. This is true for both men and women. When one party is depressed or at the bottom of his life, the other party will unconsciously assume the role of parents and give unconditional love, support and encouragement to the other party. Remember, this model must be mutual, it must be mutual, not unilateral. For example, if a woman always assumes the role of mother and takes good care of a man, or a man pampers a woman as a little princess, but he can't get any tenderness and sympathy when he is weak, then such a relationship will eventually fail.
The fourth one, I think, is a common lover. If we say the above mode of getting along, we still lack the passion and enthusiasm for love. Therefore, a healthy intimate relationship must require two people to be lovers of each other, and wolves are affectionate and friendly and loyal to each other. The above four modes of getting along, in intimate relationship, should exist at the same time, be friends, care for each other and be romantic in love. It may sound too difficult, is it an unattainable feeling? But if you carefully observe those happy families and sweet partners around you, I think you can definitely see the shadows of these patterns.