Old people in America are not completely independent of their children; However, what does this "dependence" mean? Financial support for children? "All-weather" (24 hours /7 days) personal care for children? How many elderly people in China can do this?
In fact, the mode of providing for the aged in the United States is similar to that in China-not independent of children, but impossible! In contrast, young people in the United States are more mobile and can't live with their parents for a lifetime!
The elderly in the United States are healthy (able to take care of themselves) and generally live alone without the care of their children; At ordinary times, it is similar to the family in China, and only on holidays can we have a chance to reunite with our family.
If the economy permits, they also hire "part-time workers" to clean or trim the garden; Eating is called "takeaway". If you are sick, you can see a doctor or call an ambulance yourself. Because he is an old man living alone, it is often many days after his death that outsiders know-you say bleak? It's very common there.
The elderly in the United States have another destination, that is, social or private pension institutions; This is actually similar to China's current pension model;
Rich people choose nursing homes with good conditions; Old people who don't have much savings can only resign themselves to fate-what can they do with their children? They can pay, but they don't want to go to the nursing home to accompany the elderly. Are they sad? When he died, there was no family around him!
Nurses in nursing homes are also mixed; Although the elderly will not be tied to the bed to prevent falling down during activities, how many people can serve strangers wholeheartedly!
On holidays, it is to send checks to parents in nursing homes; There is no phone call or "short message" on weekdays-are they miserable in their later years?
The so-called "desolation" is just a feeling; In general, it is "getting over it"-this is the social environment, and it is not reliable to rely on children! Children have many things of their own!
Raising children to prevent old age is the survival law of agricultural civilized society in the past; Let alone a "post-industrialized" country like the United States, that is, today's China, can we still rely on our children to provide for the elderly?
Therefore, the way out for providing for the aged lies in "socialization", not just counting on children; As for whether the old age is bleak, it depends on personal feelings-the mentality is adjusted, and it is the same everywhere! It is not easy to live; It's sad to be alive!
Tell me about my sister's mother-in-law. An old white woman, who worked until she was nearly 60 years old before retiring, worked in a shopping mall. Then, I live in an apartment for the elderly, which takes almost two to three years to arrange, and the rent is about 25% of the pension. Then when he was in his 80 s, he fell twice and was sent to a nursing home by his children. They live in the same room, and the nurses are responsible for eating and drinking Lazar. The nurse also took the doctor. Last year, at the age of 87, she had two operations, and the nurse only informed her daughter. The daughter is the guardian appointed by the old lady. My son was not here, so I didn't inform him. The whole operation is the contact between the nurse and the hospital, and there are no family members. The nursing home is an old lady's pension, subsidized by the California government, and so is hospitalization. The old lady belongs to two people who have no room or savings. Basically rely on national welfare.
It's a well-known cavity again, right!
China and foreign countries are different. Everything is a foreign moon, right?
What does it mean for the elderly in America not to rely on their children when they are old?
What does it mean that old Americans are not bitter in their later years?
They are all human beings. Why deprive the American elderly of their family needs? Who are you to ignore the differences between the elderly in America?
First, the life of old people of different races in the United States is really different in their later years!
Do you know that Americans basically include all the nationalities in the world?
Is the life of white old people the same as that of Asian old people?
Do people of African descent have the same age as those of Italian descent?
Is the life of Hispanic old people the same as that of British old people?
It's different!
Some ethnic groups pay attention to family, and the elderly live with their children at home. They also care about their grandchildren and attach importance to the feelings of their families!
Some ethnic groups have weak family values. Old people are likely to either sit in bars and drink all day, or stay at home alone forever, with no one to take care of them. It's no use having money in their hands!
Second, the lives of the poor and the rich in America are the same?
People who have a pension and have saved 40 1k all their lives are the same as those who have only paid social security tax and worked odd jobs all their lives.
The United States is not a welfare country, but a country that encourages individual struggle! Most of your pension benefits are bought by yourself.
If you don't work hard when you are young, your family will be unreasonable. When you are old, no one will take care of you, and life will be miserable when you are old.
Of course, I have saved a lot of money, and my relatives often come and go and mix after retirement!
Summary:
Old people who are unwilling to communicate with their children are often a minority after all. It's normal for human beings to be old and affectionate!
They are all human beings. Why do you make Americans so different?
Although many American families are seriously deconstructed and too many American elderly people are marginalized, children from slightly normal families in the United States will take care of the elderly!
Just not in the same way as us!
This question is simple and the answer is easy.
Because the United States has a sound welfare system and a sound welfare environment, the elderly in the United States do not need children to take care of them.
Is there any evidence that they are happy?
Americans cultivate the spirit of individual independence from childhood, believe in God and have a rich spiritual life. It is a shame to rely on others.
Who told you that your old age is not bleak? The propaganda pictures you see are basically life above the middle class. Can you see the poor people who live underground?
Isn't it often said on the Internet that all the old people in the city dance square dance? Isn't it often said on the internet that the elderly in the city raise children? Why is this happening? Doesn't that mean that all the old people in the city have pensions? With a pension, you can provide for your old age, and of course you don't have to rely entirely on your children. Of course, it doesn't mean that you don't need children at all. Some things can't be done, such as doing things you don't understand, and being sick can't go to the hospital. This is an inevitable phenomenon that the national economy has developed to a certain extent, not only in the United States, but also in any country. There is no need to hold the United States high because of this. There are quite a few people in our country who are not completely dependent on their children and even help their children and grandchildren. Slowly, like most developed countries, they will not be completely dependent on their children. In short, the economic foundation determines people's consciousness. Only when the economy is highly developed, old age is the welfare enjoyed by the whole people. Without a certain economic foundation, dreaming is useless. It's based on real money, not what you said Envy others, it is better to strive for it yourself! Even if you know that the economy is the foundation of your old age rather than relying entirely on your children, you can lay a foundation for yourself before you are old, so that you can be like those people, and you don't have to rely entirely on your children when you are old, and you don't always feel that America is as good as heaven. But nothing falls from the sky, you have to work hard on your own. Don't believe the cakes drawn by some people for you, such as universal pension and universal medical care. It is true that some countries have implemented it, but who will pay the bill? Did the country give it to you for nothing? Where does the national money come from? It's not a tax increase! Or your own money! Don't listen to the liar, even if there is a universal pension and universal medical care, first, the state will definitely increase taxes, so you have to take out the money first, so it is possible. Maybe you will regret it then, and you have to pay for it if you are not sick. Second, even if the state raises taxes, the national economy will not develop to a certain extent, and the people's pockets will not be so big even if they swell up. That tax will not play any role. If we want to increase taxes, it will definitely be unbearable and seriously affect our lives. It is better to dream less and face the reality. Everything is the product of certain conditions. If the conditions are not mature, it will only be self-inflicted. In a word, life is a real thing, you can't just dream and talk big.
Americans love two things best, either being young or being rich. Being young means having the opportunity to change one's destiny, and being rich means being able to solve most life problems, which makes sense in a competitive modern society. When Americans enter middle age, men will actively exercise to keep fit, and women expect beauticians to help them stay beautiful forever.
Therefore, Americans are very concerned about aging, and there is a cruel reality behind it. Wealthy old Americans are still chic and happy without children. However, most old Americans are just ordinary people, and their old age is very unfortunate, otherwise Americans would not emphasize "youth" so much.
Normal American old people will accept aging frankly, but when it comes to age, they will look lost and show a look of pretending to be brave. This is an unavoidable fact. In many American movies, you will see the end of the close-up of the old man: when he is old, he is accepted with dignity, but it is hard to hide his helplessness.
In China, many people are looking forward to retirement without delay. After a few years, they leave and feel flustered. Old people in America are very different. They often express their desire to refuse to retire, and many retired old people often go back to the office to have a look.
Even the elderly in America will engage in "reverse behavior" to prove that they are still young. Groups of 70-and 80-year-old women have traveled long distances by motorcycle or climbed the internal stairs of the Washington Monument with their bare hands, proving to the society that they are still young. They are really afraid of old age, not only because of the decline of physiological function, but also because they can't cope with the misery of old age.
At present, the disadvantages of the American elderly security system are frequent. Weibo's security funds (limited savings, pensions, stock claims, private insurance and government benefits) have depreciated in inflation, and the elderly who rely on money instead of children are in trouble.
In contrast, wealthy elderly Americans have won the company of their relatives and friends because of their wealth, and the heads of charitable organizations and private units in society will also visit from time to time to make donations. At the same time, the names of these old people will appear in the media from time to time to report their deeds in their later years.
In addition, there is another kind of old people who will receive preferential treatment, and often they will not be short of money. These people either have special talents and made great contributions, or enjoy high popularity, and their old age will be very safe. In any case, there are very few elderly Americans who can get universal respect from society. Most elderly people have a hard time in their later years. Living in nursing homes and wandering the streets are not good choices.
China won't have this problem. As long as we continue to follow the traditional model, the problem of the elderly will not be a big problem. Of course, there are a few unscrupulous descendants around us, but most people will be kind to the elderly. After all, respecting the elderly is the virtue of the Chinese nation.
This is the same reason that monkeys/kloc-0 can only eat nine apples a day. Some monkeys like to eat six in the morning and three in the evening. Some monkeys like to eat three in the morning and six in the evening. Others like to eat four and a half in the morning and four and a half in the evening. Each has its advantages and disadvantages. However, some monkeys 1 said that they ate 20 apples 1 day, and compared with monkeys who only ate 9 apples 1 day, they rolled their eyes to support their stomachs. Then I suggest you look at the animal world again, no matter how elephants, scorpions and Chinese Pulsatilla survive. But they all continue to live in this pluralistic world according to their own characteristics.