First, environmental adaptation.
Return the past to zero. Whether you were excellent or average before, it's all in the past. When you step into the university campus, you will start all over again. Keep good habits and slowly adjust bad conditions. You can completely improve yourself through your college career and achieve overtaking in corners.
Acceptance is more beneficial than rejection. Maybe you entered the school through professional adjustment, or you don't know this major at all, or your major was filled in by your parents, or you were forced to choose this school because you didn't do well in the college entrance examination. At this time, you may not accept or even "reject" in your heart, but if this continues, the university will "reject" you. At this time, it is more beneficial to accept than to refuse.
Call if you feel homesick. After going to college, the time to meet your parents will be greatly reduced, but your parents are still the maintainer of your feelings, the comforter when you are sad, the warm harbor when you are tired and cold, and the strong backing for you forever.
There is a gap between ideal and reality. Many students will look forward to their beautiful college life, hold hope, hold ideals and even make various strategies when they receive the notice from the university. However, when I went to college, I found that there was a world of difference between ideal and reality. Some people began to wonder if they went to a "fake university". Learning is harder, there are more things to learn, competition pressure is greater, interpersonal relationships are more complicated, everything has to be done by myself, and everything seems to be different from my feelings.
Second, university study.
Change the way of learning. In the learning goal, from being admitted to a university to how to make yourself a senior talent with excellent comprehensive quality; In terms of learning requirements, it is not limited to getting high marks, but more to master professional knowledge and ability in an all-round way and cultivate all-round quality; In terms of learning autonomy, college students mainly arrange their own learning activities, with a wide range of autonomous learning; From what you have learned, there are few in the middle and few in the university.
Autonomous learning is very important. College study is conscious, and no one will catch up with you. You must make good use of library resources. The knowledge of books in class is only superficial. You should read professional books after class in a planned and systematic way. University study also needs you to be creative, curious, put forward your own views and opinions, learn to write papers, and even form a certain research direction in senior grades. We should also actively participate in various studies and practices to improve our vocational skills.
English is an inevitable pain. English is everywhere. Most students have to take the postgraduate entrance examination. If their English scores are not good, the chances of success in the postgraduate entrance examination will be greatly reduced. During the interview for postgraduate entrance examination, I also pay great attention to English reading and speaking ability; Your future employment, job evaluation, promotion, on-the-job postgraduate entrance examination, and further study abroad. Will be related to English.
Don't make excuses for laziness. In the future, many students may find that another semester has passed, so quickly, and suddenly they find that they have not listened carefully to several classes, read a few books, participated in several activities, and made few friends. Don't say that you don't understand in class, don't say that the teacher doesn't care, don't say that you are not interested in your major, don't say that the school is too bad, and you don't need an excuse to degenerate.
Third, interpersonal communication.
Dormitory relationship. The dormitory relationship in the university will affect all aspects of your study, life and mentality. You have all heard of "Xueba Dormitory" and "Xuezha Dormitory", and a good dormitory relationship will definitely help you succeed. You come from different cities, different family backgrounds and different personalities, so you have different ways of doing things and lifestyles. Don't try to convince others to be like you. You have no right to ask others to be like you. You can only try to adapt.
Accommodate roommates. Learn to live with roommates whose living habits are completely different from yours. There will not be a situation in which everyone in a dormitory has the same sleep mode, study habits and hygiene requirements. At this time, all you can do is tolerate each other. Learn to be friends with them. Some people are not considerate of other people's feelings, but many times, your roommate also comments on you like this. Finally, these roommates will become unforgettable alumni.
Principles of dealing with interpersonal relationships. Good interpersonal relationship can improve learning efficiency, self-awareness and mental health. Adhere to the principles of sincerity, tolerance and equality. Don't always criticize and accuse others in communication, but sincerely praise and appreciate others. When talking to people, be good at listening, talk less and listen more, so that you will be welcomed.
Sometimes you need to be alone. If you find yourself eating in the canteen or studying by yourself for a long time, don't worry. It's normal to be alone in college. Do you feel lonely? Maybe you like this. Only when you are lonely can you be more focused and free. As long as you feel that you are full and happy, you don't need to care about other people's eyes.
Fourth, love relationship.
Love motivation should be correct. In the early days of love, many students' motives were wrong. They don't really like being together. Some of them are trying to get rid of loneliness, some are heckling others, some are betting with their dormitory classmates, and some are looking for one themselves because they see that everyone is in love, so that they will not be alone. If this is the case, please don't start a relationship.
Love needs its own space and time. Give each other more time and space to do what they should do. Even encourage each other to associate with different people and participate in more meaningful activities. Work hard, have your own interpersonal circle, supervise each other and be positive.
Don't say I love you easily. When you go to college, your parents no longer restrict you from falling in love, so you always want to try. The teacher here wants to talk to you. Don't fall in love in a hurry. Before you say "I love you", you must look at each other carefully. Don't fall in love easily before you know each other, and don't give yourself up easily.
Verb (abbreviation for verb) self-discipline and autonomy
Step out of the comfort zone. Going to college is a good time to get out of your comfort zone. At home, you can't accept all kinds of "temptations" and you can't discipline yourself. Please get out of your comfort zone as soon as possible after you go to college. Don't wait until the end of the semester to think about studying, don't wait until you are sick to think about exercising, don't wait until all the students around you become excellent to think about exercising your ability, and don't wait until everyone is ready for the postgraduate entrance examination. Are you still thinking about taking the postgraduate entrance examination? Step out of your comfort zone, give yourself some pressure and do something meaningful. You should often go to libraries, sports fields and sports venues.
College life needs goals. Don't always think that the goal is empty. Whether a person has a goal or not, his attitude towards life is very different. After going to college, I should set some goals for myself every day, every week, every month and every semester. With goals, your life will be more fulfilling. Remember, you can break down your goals, the finer the better, start with small goals and move forward step by step.
Don't be fooled by the mobile phone. How much time do you spend on your mobile phone in a day? Soon, you may be defeated by your self-discipline, playing mobile phone in class, resting in the dormitory, eating, walking and studying in the library. You think you are playing with your mobile phone, but in fact you are being played with your mobile phone. Tik Tok, Taobao, Weibo and friends circle control most of your life. In fact, after a day, you will find how empty your life is.
Let exercise and reading always accompany you. Exercise can improve mood, regulate mood and promote physical and mental harmony. Exercise for more than half an hour every day for a period of time, and it will change your life. Reading can be said to be the simplest, lowest cost, most effective and most meaningful way to solve problems. Reading not only helps to relieve emotions, but also increases people's knowledge and fun. Reading can increase your experience, and you can get wisdom to deal with emotions from books. At this time, you not only gain emotional peace, but also gain knowledge, because with the harvest, your heart will feel very satisfied. Stop reading a good book when you are in a bad mood! Reading will light up your mind.
Sixth, physical and mental health.
Health is the most important thing. After going to college, without the nagging and supervision of your parents, you may stay up late to play games and brush dramas. Don't always be so lazy, always order takeout and don't be so greedy. The things on the roadside stalls are not necessarily good. Although this is a part of life, please be moderate. Try to standardize the work and rest schedule, sleep on time, eat on time, and pay attention in time if you feel uncomfortable. Be sure to set aside some time to exercise every day. Only when you are healthy can you realize other dreams.
Learn more about mental health. Mental health is an important part of health. Learning more about mental health will help you gain a positive attitude, help you cope with difficulties and setbacks in life, improve your sense of self-efficacy and make your life happier. Learn to change the positive way of thinking when encountering difficulties. A positive attitude will help you overcome difficulties.
Asking for help is a sign of wisdom. One of the top ten mental health literacy announced by the National Health and Family Planning Commission clearly points out that knowing how to ask for help is the embodiment of a person's wisdom. If you are mentally confused, you should seek help in time according to your emotional performance and symptoms. Don't hide your illness or expand your symptoms, and seek professional help in time.
Learn to be grateful for every encounter in life. The roommates, classmates, club partners and teachers you meet are all worthy of your thanks. Thank them for their presence in your world and their help. Be grateful for helping your parents, relatives and friends, or strangers who have helped you. Live with gratitude, and your mind will be purer, safer and stronger.