2. When children are young, we should fully meet their physiological needs, make them feel omnipotent, have enough sense of control over the world, reduce their anxiety, and let them develop narcissism, security, existence and stability.
3. When the child grows up, it is necessary to effectively promote the separation of mother and baby. At this time, the father should intervene decisively, and the relationship between parents and children should be an equilateral triangle. If the relationship between father and son is closer than that between husband and wife, the mother should intervene in time to maintain the normal balance of this triangular relationship, which is conducive to the healthy growth of children.
Parents should create opportunities for their children to experience just the right setbacks and let them know that the world can't completely act according to his will. Learn to face and overcome setbacks, so that his mind can be developed.
5. When children grow up and their abilities are gradually enhanced, parents should learn to stand behind their children. Let children do what they can, decide and cultivate their ability to grow, not just replace arrangements and deprive children of their right to grow.
6. Mothers should be able to mirror their children, give timely and appropriate responses to their behaviors, cultivate their self-confidence and make their lives full of vitality.
7. As a father, he should play a different role from his mother, become a mountain for his children, give him strength, cultivate his self-esteem and make him feel that he has status and status at home. What kind of success is possible through his own efforts, and it also makes him do better than his parents. He deserves to enjoy success and the beauty of life.