Q: I don't have time, and my parents help with the children, but I don't know how to deal with this problem.
A: Don't worry, and don't be too serious.
First, on the issue of children's growth education, it is necessary to reach an understanding with elders, such as what kind of person they want their children to be, what kind of life they live, and what kind of life they live. It's easy to acquire knowledge, which helps to reduce parenting conflicts.
Second, time together is not the most important thing. It is important that you establish a good parent-child relationship, establish your first intimate role, establish your authority and have enough influence.
How come?
There is an experience I can share with you, especially before the age of 3, or before the age of 5. As a mother, the most intimate behavior is to operate by yourself. For example, bathe him personally, tell him stories and put him to sleep. The closer you do it, the closer you get to your children. Besides, you can understand his language and his needs. If you can meet his reasonable needs most appropriately, your position will be different. You like him better and know him better.
I spend little time with my children, but my children listen to me best, and I have the best relationship with them. This is a means, quality is more important than time.
Keyword 2: Eat
Q: If children don't eat well, chasing after them is like fighting. Sometimes she eats while playing with building blocks, and she will take the initiative to eat some. What should we do?
A: It's not good to play and watch TV while eating. In the future, her attention will be easily distracted, which is very unfavorable to her children's future study and work, and must be corrected.
How to correct it?
You can only eat when you eat, not play. If you don't eat, you will be hungry. When you are hungry, you will naturally eat well. It's that simple.
Keyword 3: Sleep
Q: My daughter is 23 months old, and she goes to bed later and later at night? What should we do?
A: Does her bedtime affect your whole family life? If it doesn't affect, don't care too much. If it affects her, it can reduce her sleeping time during the day, increase her exercise during the day and make her very tired.
Keyword 4: Timid
Q: My daughter is 23 months old and timid. For example, if you see a stranger who doesn't want to talk and take her to an activity, you will see that your brother and sister are always hiding. Excuse me, how to guide in the process of education? We are not particularly extroverted ourselves.
A: First, most children have a sense of self-protection. Children with a strong sense of self-protection are actually smarter and may be more sensitive. Don't jump to conclusions.
Second, the child's interpersonal relationship may be a little psychological barrier. What's the problem? Maybe after half a year, there will be less contact with the outside world. You can change now. Find a few families and take them out for a parent-child tour together. You have to see which children she plays with. Children also have an aura and feelings for each other.
Keyword 5: Only listen to praise, not criticism.
Q: A 32-month-old girl is mainly brought up by her grandparents. She can only listen to praise, not criticism. She refused to admit that she had done something wrong, and she cried hard when she criticized her. This worries me.
I still have to criticize her. I can't follow her when she cries. My mother blamed me: "How could my own mother do this?" In fact, I just want to correct this character for her.
A: First of all, the baby's performance is normal. 3 years old is an important period for children to establish self-affirmation and self-personality. In fact, it is a stage of self-awareness.
Second, with all due respect, you can criticize her at will. She is a very unwise mother. In fact, you have no influence on her criticism. You beat her every time she cries, and your mother-daughter relationship will get worse and worse in the future. After a bad relationship, she won't listen to anything you say and will only go to the opposite side.
So if you want to go back to the original point, you'd better bring it yourself. After establishing a good mother-daughter relationship, it is easy to influence her in a clever way. Because at this stage, the child can't explain many things clearly, but she is very sensitive and cares about her relationship with you, whether you like it or not. Just like my child, as long as dad doesn't like your performance, he knows it may be wrong. Because we had a good relationship, he cared more about my attitude, and soon he changed. Sometimes he realizes, so don't be abrupt, give him some face, the child has self-esteem.
Keyword 6: Urine
Q: My baby 1 1 month. When should I start urinating?
I think we can start in a month. In addition, I personally suggest that if possible, try not to use diapers during the day, and it is more reasonable to use diapers only at night or when going out to play.
Keyword 7: Don't perform in front of outsiders Q: A 25-month-old baby can write Tang poems and sing. In fact, she has a lot of courage. She can perform in front of close people, but in front of strangers, she is afraid and ashamed to express. I don't know how to break through her psychological barrier.
A: This is normal. The child's personality is very demanding of himself. Generally speaking, people with perfect attention tendency are like this. If you want to change, you can slowly add strangers when performing among close people. But I don't think this has to be changed. It is parents' vanity to behave well in front of strangers.
Just like a child learning a lot of talents, if he accepts it, no problem. If you can't accept it, it will be in trouble. You should master this principle as follows. Find a balance between tapping potential and cultivating personality. You can't distort your personality in order to tap your potential. On the other hand, he has potential. If you don't put pressure on him, it's a waste to get out. It was my idea.
Keyword 8: Against you
Q: Children around the age of two are rebellious and have to do everything they can't do.
A: Children with controlling personality prefer to make their own decisions, so when you talk to him, don't use an imperative tone. You can tell him, "Shall we wash our faces after dinner or before dinner?" Give him a choice. In this way, he will think that you are a very understanding mother, so try this when you go back, okay?
Keyword 9: Breast milk and formula milk powder
Q: I always insist on breastfeeding. When can I add formula milk powder?
A: Personally, I suggest that breast milk and formula milk should be mixed after 6 months. After mother sleeps better at night, the quality of breast milk will improve. And it is easier to wean in the future, because if the weaning stage is not handled well, it will be very troublesome for the parent-child relationship, the child's own growth and development, and psychology.
In addition, don't blindly worship foreign countries, because foreigners and China people have different constitutions, and many indicators of milk powder are different.
Keywords: 10: Dad is not here
Q: How does a father like you "train"? How can I make my father take care of the children more actively?
A: Dad is very important for the formation of children's social personality, including social security. But generally speaking, before the age of 3, the role of father may not exist.
You should make him feel the joy of being a father. Dad can actually be a playmate when a child grows up. In fact, fathers are usually fun, and children themselves are actually fun. Some people like keeping pets. In fact, raising children is much more fun than keeping pets. It's okay to be a pet before the age of 3. It's really fun. He will naturally find out, because human nature itself is a kind of nature, and it will naturally be aroused in specific occasions. For example, you can arrange a very conceptual parent-child tour and do some scene design.