First of all, a brief introduction: two pairs of CP, one pair is restraint (son) CP-noble lady Gao Ziyuan and overbearing president Chu Kehuan, ten years of long-distance love, moral kidnapping, in the name of love, when love becomes affection, what is left?
The other couple has only one CP-Cheng Li and Zhou Weiwei, an administrative white-collar worker. They have been in the same boat for three years, from love to marriage, from work to retirement, all in a detailed plan list.
When the men and women in the two relationships accidentally meet and collide (the hand of the screenwriter), the overbearing president launched a fierce offensive. Is love still there?
Today, let's talk about "restraint CP" first, and analyze where their feelings come from, why they are so far away, and where will they go?
The parties frankly said that once upon a time, they loved each other. Judging from the plot, the process of their meeting and falling in love is a mystery. Inferred from Gao Ziyuan's constant saying that "you promised my mother to take care of me", they may be family friends with similar family background and birth, or Chu Kehuan was recognized by Gao Ziyuan's mother and was the future son-in-law by default.
This is also a promise that Gao Ziyuan still sticks to ten years later, although their love has existed in name only, the distance between heart and heart is close at hand, and they even plan their marriage with wishful thinking. Because, in her heart, the selected love will persist, be faithful and stick to it. In her mind, she is both Ke Huan's and Ke Huan's.
Theoretically speaking, the love between these two personality types is also a mystery, just like the huge difference between the two personalities. Approaching is only the premise of promoting mutual understanding and approaching, but what really makes two people love each other is not only the attraction brought by differences, but also the expectation of the future.
Leadership, enthusiasm and generosity, excellent knowledge, strategic planning, objective and calm, serious and responsible, these excellent characteristics of ENTJ make Chu Kehuan become CEO from a gold medal broker, which is logical and natural.
What was he like ten years ago? Self-satisfied, may be new to the workplace, just want to rely on their own knowledge and ability to do a big job, wealth, status, power, become CEO, marry Bai, climb the peak of life, is the inevitable choice of the strong!
What does Gao Ziyuan look like in his eyes? Gao Ziyuan appeared with his outstanding appearance, excellent family background and educational background. She is warm and gentle, simple and firm. She is even willing to give up her job for him and be the woman behind him. With such a beautiful woman, what can she ask for?
ENTJ pursues the double blessing of intelligence and appearance, and they speak highly of mate selection. They treat their life, career and feelings rationally, and pay attention to efficiency and strategic planning. At this time, Gao Ziyuan's ESFJ attribute obviously brought Chu Kehuan endless happiness and beautiful yearning for the future. "You carry water to water the garden, and you weave and plow the fields."
Family and emotional life, to some extent, as accessories of ENTJ's career, need to serve the career. It's better for the other party to enjoy social activities in relevant workplaces and have strong communication skills, which is exactly what ESFJ's Fe-Si main and auxiliary function combination has.
Tenny made ENTJ look far away and devote herself to her work, while Firth only provided emotional warmth and life care, forming a magical complementarity and balance, and thus fell in love.
In the long years of love, there are always many things happening, such as Zi Yuan's mother's death, Zi Yuan's pregnancy and spontaneous abortion, which lead to the emotional rift between them.
Although the sequence of these two events is not explained, it is conceivable that there is a connection between them. Perhaps it was the death of her mother that made Zi Yuan lose the strongest dependence and tolerance of selfless maternal love. She was psychologically unacceptable and fell into deep fear. She has a younger sister to look after.
Ke Huan, who is strong, calm and capable, has become her only support. Her mother's entrustment before her death has guaranteed the contact between them as a secular law and increased her sense of security. From then on, she regarded Ke Huan as "my Ke Huan"; Perhaps these two things are very close. The grief of losing her mother made her so confused that she made such an incomprehensible arbitrary decision of secret abortion.
ESFJ attaches great importance to feelings. They are the guardians of traditional family life and ideas. Love and protection are the basis of their survival, and so are their expectations. If there is no accident, maybe they will live a quiet and stable life as before.
But my mother always left that day, which was a great blow to Zi Yuan, who was emotionally dependent. The leading function Fe, which has been running well, began to get out of control, or under a huge blow, the three-four-function Ne-Ti made her see the uncertain possibility, and the old life order collapsed.
When building a new order, the avoidance mechanism and protection mechanism make her distrust the usual Fe-Si combination, but she has to rely on them. Perhaps under this contradiction and entanglement, unplanned pregnancy was also regarded as a threat of uncertainty by her, and she made an arbitrary decision when the function of Fe-Si was blocked.
Maybe what she thought at that time, as later said, was out of consideration for the other party, but in fact, deep down, it was because she lacked self-integrity (personality and function can't function in the customary way), which made her feel insecure and in control of her life, and she would control it in the name of love.
Since then, the relationship between the two people has suddenly changed, and the beautiful combination of the past has become a torment of mutual restraint. Responsibility, affection and love have all become heavy burdens.
In ENTJ· Chukehuan's view, abortion went beyond the normal logical world he could understand, and even touched his deep personal value judgment. Although Fi, as the fourth function, has been ranked low, once triggered, the consequences are unimaginable, which is where Gao Ziyuan brought him the greatest harm.
He tried to communicate with Gao Ziyuan many times, but the other party always avoided talking. Perhaps what she needed most at that time was not an objective and rational discussion about what happened, but emotional comfort and tolerance. The function of Fe makes it difficult for her to reflect, but she habitually seeks feedback and emotional strength from the outside.
Although the appearance is still cheerful and sunny, but the heart has become sensitive, suspicious and unconfident. Avoiding and refusing to communicate is a natural reaction to protect the fragile self, as if it would not open the inner wound. Later, Gao Ziyuan acted a bit like Arthur's Philippine-dominated figure, timid, please, and without self, and needed to find comfort from shopping spree.
This unhealthy pattern is doomed to be difficult to maintain. SJ-type Gao Ziyuan is stubborn, stubborn and self-enclosed, immersed in the illusory sense of security brought by commitment and self-anesthesia, dreaming of bringing such a boring life into marriage. Obviously, this is no longer what ENTJ· Chukehuan needs.
Although Chu Kehuan can't get out of this deteriorating relationship because of his commitment and sense of responsibility, Tenny clearly knows what he doesn't want and he won't choose Gao Ziyuan, but the weakness of function Fi makes it difficult for him to face his heart and make a decisive and correct choice-breaking up.
And all this, coincidentally, is also because I met Zhou Weiwei, the protagonist function of Fi, which inspired him to face his heart.
Chu Kehuan finally overcame many obstacles in his heart in repeated exploration and chose to break up with Gao Ziyuan and deliver it completely.
However, Gao Ziyuan is obviously still avoiding self-protection, refusing to accept the status quo and blaming others for the problem. In fact, it can be seen from her state after returning to work that she has her own unique talent and ability and can do well.
Emotionally, she needs to get rid of the usual thinking mode, face her Fe function seriously, rationally allocate Ti's rational thinking function, and avoid dealing with problems too emotionally.
Blindly sacrificing and making concessions can't keep this long-lost feeling. Only when you find yourself can you find your love and "my love".